Reply #1: I can't imagine what's going through his mind.

[Forkboy]

Does he see a regular therapist or just the psychiatrist? A regular therapist would be far better if he isn't seeing one.The Psych's just hand out meds without really digging into the reasons WHY,and a therapist would give him the chance to talk,even though it may take awhile before he'd be comfortable doing so.

The trauma of not just his brother's death,but having to clean the scene,feeling helpless financially at the same time....I can't even imagine that,and what he's holding in right now.You did awesome in not losing your temper,because that will just increase the distance between you two.He needs to speak to a neutral person,and that's not meant as a knock against you.Don't let yourself be a doormat to anyone,but try to maintain as much understanding as you possibly can,and try to explain things as openly with your daughter as you can,if you don't already.

I'm no expert at all on any of this.Let me stress that!!!! I am bipolar,with serious anxiety and depression,but I don't have anyone around me to worry about.If he's scaring you and your daughter I'm sure he realizes that afterwards and feels like crap about it,which just turns it back in on himself starting the cycle over again,and deepening the condition.

That's sadly the only "advice" I can really offer,if he's not doing so already.A weekly therapist can be a pretty cool thing when someone feels things slipping out of control again.

Good luck to you all.

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