Reply #1: if she would just get out of her own head

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she would if she could. maybe you have bitten off more than you can chew.

she is always analyzing because her brain is stuck on fear and worry. she is probably trying to figure out how to be normal, how to be like you. it suck to be her, but what you are complaining about is pretty much that she is mentally ill. that's how you are when you are mentally ill.
do the professionals talk to you? (she has to ok that) maybe they can help. has she been with the same team for a long time, or does she change often? you need support to undertake this huge task. working from home with her there could be a disaster for both of you. her needs are endless, you have to somehow meet your own first.