Reply #100: I think what he meant was

[sui generis]

it is in a sense immoral for us to vote for someone who is a democrat but who won't support us, merely because he or she is a democrat. It's frustrating to us too. The voices you see here who don't agree with you HAVE A REASON. A very personal reason, and recall, we've given our vote in many elections before, and still we have 19 states with marriage amendments, don't ask don't tell, the clintons willing to sign the FMA and more knives heading our way regardless.

It is immoral to vote against ourselves - if all other things being equal a democrat would side with a republican to remove our civil rights.

We're right here. All you have to do is reach out. Not demand.