Reply #11: yes, girls can be horrendous to each other.

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Looking back I honest to god do not know how I navigated through my adolescence and childhood. I think what saved me is that I was almost monosyllabic throughout most of grade school. I spoke very little. I was always referred to as 'quiet' and 'shy' althought I think it was more accurate to say that I was just 'reserved' and didn't care to contribute to what was going on around me that much. But I know what you mean...and if you have a sensitivity to bullying and the victims of it they can really make you pay for it. My heart goes out to your daughter and that is a fine point to parse. For instance, I would be the same way...I would be able to empathize and identify with the bullied girl, absolutely, but I wouldn't be able to comprehend or understand at all the behavior of the bullies, my expected role in the bullying, and the consequences of not partaking in it and for defending the bullied child (i.e. pointing out the transgressions of the bullies and placing the guilt that is buried in their conciences in plain view). I would not be able at all to even perceive those subtle social requirements, and I would 'do the right thing' and be made to pay for it. It is eerily similar to the situation I am going through currently as an adult, chillingly so. Wow.