Reply #1: What you are asking is what can you do....

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Trying to figure out what you can do is one thing...trying to figure out what you can control is something else.

But let's look at what you can't control. First of all, if the girl has Aspergers you can't change it, so you can't control that.

Secondly, you can't change the fact that she began to self medicate. What she used to self medicate or how much she used, you can't change. So you can't control that either...

Thirdly, she is an adult, she has the right to make mistakes w/regard to friends and you can't change that. Meaning--you never could have controlled that either.

You do have some control over yourself and your responses to these events. You can offer her support, you can provide what sounds like the need for both security and limits---as in---if you're helping her w/college it could be time to move her closer to home and to establish some expectations.

You can pull her out of this treatment center or you can accept that she will probably adjust just fine with or without a computer program to help her sleep. Sleep is not the reason she has been admitted.

As for the problem with depression, that will not repair itself overnight. Treatment for the substance abuse and then a program that deals with the depression are appropriate.

Good thing she has a Dad that cares.