What would you do if you found out a somewhat close friend was a homophobe?

[RidinMyDonkey]

My heart is seriously breaking. I always thought she had strong liberal values. Apparently I was wrong. We were just discussing a rather obnoxious neighbor who is a pain to all who live here. This horrible tenet just happens to have a sixteen year old gay son.

So, what happened was, my friend, who I'll call "Mary" came downstairs to complain that "Carol" had demanded she give her fifteen dollars for her son's birthday cake. (Supposedly, Mary owes her fifteen dollars, even though it was never agreed upon) She said to me in these exact words "That faggot doesn't need a birthday cake."

I didn't know what to say. I don't keep it a secret that I stand up for gay rights, so she must have known I was bound to be offended. I tried explaining kindly, that it wasn't the kids fault that Carol is an obnoxious idiot. But she must have thought that I meant it wasn't his fault that he was gay because she went on a rant about how it is his fault and he chose to be gay. blah blah blah typical things you'd expect to hear from a conservative homophobic jackass.

After that I just shut the fuck up because I was truly at a loss for words... I've spent a year being friends with this woman. We volunteered together for Barack Obama last summer. I can't imagine why she would have said these things to me. I'm not sure I want to carry on our friendship. I'm so upset right now that I'm mildly shaky.