Reply #3: The last two censuses were hard in a similar way for me, too

[tavalon]

In the previous one, I was a member of a quad marriage (not according to the government, but then, there's the rub). Nowadays, we're a triad, but 10 years later, there still isn't a damn thing acknowledging non standard marriage or partnership or whatever you care to call it. Eons ago, I was in a monogamous marriage of one woman and one man and I can promise you, there isn't anything different going on in my house nowadays than then (except for some extra scheduling difficulties and trying to remember who you told what to). I suspect the same is true of same sex couples, triads, quads and so on.

And don't even get me started on the egregious mix of church and state that a marriage encompasses but if we must have it that way, religion needs to get out of the business of deciding who may enter into such a union. Of course, if I had my way, marriage would be the purview of religions and civil unions (without a restriction on number or gender) would be the purview of the state. Needless to say, I'm not holding my breath.