Reply #12: yeah, that "runs in the family thing"

[mzteris]

I forget my son's adopted and frequently attribute his health/behaviour/smarts :) /talent/quirks/looks to "our genetics"... oops. :D

Sometimes I get some really strange looks from people.

He has always known he's adopted - would've been silly to even try to "lie" (though I wouldn't have anyway!!) - because he's black and we're not.

I guess I am a bit "concerned" about the FB thing. We had close ties with the birth mom until a very ugly incident about 4 years ago. We moved out of state for reasons not connected to the incident, but didn't tell her we were moving. If I thought she'd ever get clean and sober for more than a few months at a time, it would be different. I'm not sure she could navigate FB, but there are two older half-brothers in their 20's who probably could if they wanted to (if they're having anything to do with her these days.)

Unfortunately, she does know his adopted name so that would make it easier. I guess I should talk to him about the possibility just in case so he doesn't get blind-sided.