Reply #215: I understand your statement....

[CraftyGal]

My daughter, now 21, was molested over a period of time by a couple that I trusted. I was pregnant with my second child and ended up in the hospital for two months. I knew the wife through a parent support group that we attended. No one is allowed to attend if there was issues of child abuse. They offered to take care of her while I was in the hospital. They also watched her while I was dealing with a premature baby.

This was September to November. Fast forward to March the next year on my daughters 2nd birthday. The Vancouver Police show up 2 hrs before her party and informed me that the husband was being charged for molestation and the needed to talk to all children and families of children that they had been looking after. I remember being devastated as I had to set up an appointment with the Sexual Assault team at Children's Hospital and dealing with the feelings around this. I found out that it was a very close friend's child who had been molested. We did the justice thing, and after the trial he was found guilty and given 2 years less a day. While in prison he was attacked by several prisoners and was released due to medical concerns, he served 6 months.

I remember my friend and I talking about the various ways we could hurt him including a bomb. During the trial we discovered the wife was involved in the molestation, she was never charged. Considering the Elizabeth Smart case and the Jaa Cee Duggard case, we know that women are active in molestation with their spouses.

So for those who get on their high horse about this try walking in a parents shoes and see how you would react. We didn't act on fantasies but it sure di dfeel good to talk about it. I also know that we danced when we found out what the prisoners did to him. He is so scarred he can never, ever hurt another child.

CraftyGal