Reply #263: I think you ought to reconsider getting married.

[msanthrope]

From your description of your relationship on this and other threads I have learned--

You have a fiance who makes less than you, has moved into your home, got you to do the legal legwork for the court filing to reduce his child support payments, and has managed to whip you into a seething anger against his ex???

In my opinion, you have found a person who has managed to emotionally manipulate you, to his economic benefit. To your emotional detriment, it seems he is using you as a buffer between his ex, and his stepchild.

This is not a recipe for a happy marriage.

It's also a puke-worthy example of a woman, denigrating another woman, to uphold the patriarchy.