Reply #342: Now you're just being condescending to me.

[caseymoz]

You decided to ignore my point about making error and culpability interchangeable and instead decided, "No, he's just having a sexist moment." You also decided to ignore my other point that this "joke" may lead to a few more successful rapes. I guess you ignored my whole post, and decided if I objected, it must be for a reason you had prepared. So you can make a statement about lack of understanding, empathy or compassion, which might or might not apply to me, for all you care. Ironically, you seemed to lack of any understanding of what I said, and you empathize and have compassion for emotions I don't feel. So stop preaching to me about it.

I'll try again: I'll provide that kind of comparison to racism. This poster reminds of the Tea Party having a protest in California because the NAACP wasn't doing enough to restrain Black and Hispanic gangs. There was a basic error in thinking there: like the NAACP has any influence over the criminal element? Why not demand that the Knights of Columbus restrain the Italian Mafia? This poster makes the very same error (and worse).

(The fact that people make the error for real shows the "joke" isn't really funny.)

But the fact that it's insulting is almost a side-point. And, I could always say, to myself, "No, they're advising other men not to rape, not me." This "joke" if catches on, is going to make it makes it harder for guys to help women prevent rape. Moreover, it makes good advice that guys use to prevent themselves from getting mugged sound condescending. It sends the message women should flout preventive measures as beneath their dignity, and being "chicken." That's where my compassion, understanding and empathy is.

And we're not talking about privilege because we're talking about rape. It's something that maybe two percent of the male population does, and when they do it, they're not privileged to do it. They go to prison if it's proved. Nor do I feel privileged to have them as part of my gender.