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If I didn't recognizae and validate your "traditional, religious" union, then how could I possibly expect you to recognize and validate mine? (Which I believe you do, even if you can't accept the idea of my being legally married to my partner.)
Forgive me if I sound presumptuous, but it sounds to me like there's a lot more going on beneath the surface here. No, I'm not asking. But you just sound like you feel attacked in a major way, and feel you have to defend yourself. Goodness gracious, woman, you & your hubby make up the majority of the planet! Nobody's trying to phase you out, and nobody's ridiculing you. Well, I'm not, anyway.
Sure, I've got my problems with religious zealots, who try to ostracize / penalize me for refusing to deny who I am, and for not living by their beliefs. Those are the "religious" people who scare me, and anger me, in a way I can't even begin to describe to you. What they exude is the antithesis of love (especially God's love). All I get from them is nothing but fear, and hate, no matter how much I try to make them understand I am nothing to be feared, nor hated.
So, when you see people (on DU, or elsewhere) taking an exceptionally dim view of "religious" folks, bear in mind that they're likely referring to those who represent a twisted, perverted variety of something that bears hardly any resemblance whatsoever to the true ideals of Christianity.
You know how some people can't see beyond the most "flamboyant," "outrageous" faction of the gay community? Well, sometimes, when you're beaten up so badly (literally and figuratively) by the most vocal, visible faction of a group, the whole group gets a bad rap. (Me, I love drag queens, but I'm not so blind as to be unable to understand why they can freak out the straightest of the straights. :) )
In any case, I have all the respect in the world for beliefs anyone else holds dear -- as long as they don't try to force their ways on anyone else. Or "do it in the streets and frighten the horses." :)
Koko, I do have the same ideals you do -- if it's love, and it's real, you grit your teeth and work through the bad patches.
Believe me, my partner and I have sustained some unbelievably cruel twists of fate -- some precisely because we are lesbians, and some just the quirks of living in this world.
But here we are. Older, wiser, and scarred, but we're still here.
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