My friend says I intimidate women by the way I dress...

[HEyHEY]

She says I dress like and old man. Typically, when I'm going for a decent night out, I'll were a sportcoat and dress pants with a collared shirt - no tie. How is that intimidating?
I've told her I believe in a time when you looked your best when you went out. She laughed and called me a dork....again.....anyway the whole thing came up because I'm going to her birthday party next week and she told me "If you wanna get any don't dress like someone's drunken party-animal uncle."

Women what's your opinion?

- I'm about 25 by the way.

[SarahB]

1. My opinion

She's mean. Sounds like you were dressed well. Be yourself and there's a woman out there who'll appreciate that. :)

[HEyHEY]

4. Well, as much as I moan on DU sometimes

For the most part - I like being the weirdest guy in the room.

She's not mean, it's kind of a running joke to call her up and make fun of me.

[wtmusic]

2. Better advice

just don't ACT like someone's drunken party-animal uncle.

[KissMyAsscroft]

3. Yeah, you dress like a dork.

Sorry to break the news to you. Sportscoat+Slacks+Collared Shirt=just got off of work=DORK.

Maybe try a button up shirt and some sort of beat up looking jacket with just jeans or something....if you care at all..


if you don't care, than you wouldn't have posted this, right? Well....whatever...the NyQuil is kickin in now...later

[HEyHEY]

5. sweet dreams

I just don't wanna change my dress habits. That's the problem

Beat up jacket? Do they sell those at Barney's - just kiddin

[JVS]

6. You need spats too

[HEyHEY]

8. To go with my cape?

[SOteric]

7. It very much depends on where you go and

what the tone of the evening is.

I wouldn't use the term 'dork.' But if it's a casual evening out with friends then a sportcoat, dress slacks and a collared shirt might well be a tad more formal than you should be aiming.

Regardless of what your belief is in regard to dressing for a date, you don't want to make a lady in your company feel she is underdressed or inappropriately dressed.

[HEyHEY]

9. Yeah I do, that's when the power structure is formed...

(dodges rocks)

I'm kidding!

[JVS]

10. You should surprise her by wearing ass chaps and a leather jacket

[HEyHEY]

11. Either that or show up looking like Denis Hopper in Easyrider

Or even better, show up dressed like captain america

[DoveTurnedHawk]

Ass Chaps...Always a Winner (eom)

DTH

[JVS]

14. lets em know you care

[AwakeAtLast]

12. Sounds like you need to watch "What Not to Wear"

It's on TLC. If you do, it will help me avoid a long list of things that look great together. Here is one favorite:

Good jeans, button-down shirt (w/ some light pattern, shirt untucked) and a good leather coat. In summer replace leather with denim. Basically, if you invest in a good pair of jeans, you replace slacks/dress pants.

Hope this helps! :-)

[NMDemDist2]

13. a nice set of dockers and a shirt work well most anywhere

lose the sport coat

[HEyHEY]

15. See to me dockers and a tucked in shirt with no jacket look dorky

The jacket adds an element of re-finement

[NMDemDist2]

25. oh my! is it a nice unstructured jacket? if not, then not really eom

[HEyHEY]

27. it is

or should I say they are...I have a few

[NMDemDist2]

53. then we are back to why are you intimidating?

do the girls you hang out with own dresses?

[PartyPooper]

16. It sounds to me like you need a "Fab Five" make-over.

But, never fear.

Why not go to a real nice department store or mens' shop near you? Search out some nice sales people. Nordstrom people rock!

Try on some new clothes and get some opinions. Ask questions.

I'm sure you have plenty of good clothes in your closet that will still work for you.

And, keep up your confidence! There is someone out there for you!

:-)

[HEyHEY]

19. BAH!

Shafeek taught me all I need to know!

[Career Prole]

17. I do okay with a collared shirt...I don't get it.

Could it be something else?

[HEyHEY]

18. I think it's the colour of the shirt

:-)

[Career Prole]

30. I add a carnation and a pocket square for big dates.

It's a versatile outfit.!

[HEyHEY]

33. Some women just have no taste

[jpgray]

20. Dress however the hell you want

So long as it's not illegal or unspeakably offensive, I don't see a problem.

[Fridays Child]

21. Unless you wear a clown outfit, you're fine.

Clowns are scary.

[HEyHEY]

23. haha...

That's where I went wrong!

Did I mention the sportcoat is five sizes to big and the pants are bright yellow?

[SheWhoMustBeObeyed]

22. Speedos and a cape

That's what a colleague once threatened to wear on casual Friday. Snazzy!

[HEyHEY]

24. Did that once

They haven't let me back in the library since

[dolo amber]

26. I think that sounds

Dead Sexy!! :D

No really, your pic is one of my faves in the gallery; it shows character. ;)

[HEyHEY]

28. thanks!

Some say I look like dick cheney in it though :angry:

[dolo amber]

29. C'mon...

Cheney? I think Belushi is FAR more accurate...;)

[HEyHEY]

31. I do when I push my nose in

[GirlinContempt]

32. You look like

an artwanker in the gallery... Not being mean, just doesn't fit with the outfit you're describing. :)

I can't say anything about the way anyone else dresses... I have a taste for long black skirts slit all over and held together with buckles... and army boots...


On second thought:
I think you need a pipe.

[JVS]

34. where is the gallery?

[HEyHEY]

36. just type in www.democraticunderground.com/gallery

[HEyHEY]

35. Funny you should mention the pipe

When that pic was taken I smoked one...it's about a year or so old.
I just dig the old threads though, flatcaps, cableknits, three-piece suits, sportcoats. I don't know why.

[GirlinContempt]

39. Thats cool

I just dig looking like I had a run-in with an angry beltmaker ;)

I re-did my friend Jays wardrobe for him... I just took him out, and shoved stuff into his arms and said "TRY IT NOW". It was fun. He looks about a million times better, but I think that was different. His clothes didn't fit right, or were worn out, and he just didn't seem to know how to go shopping. I just wish I'd had some duct tape along to shut him up, he likes to argue.

Clean and neat. 2 most important things.

drunk... rambling...

[bubblesby2002]

37. You are an individual -

you have that je ne sais quoi. I agree with the previous poster who said wear whatever the hell you want.:7

[HEyHEY]

38. Yeah, I'm leaning towards that

I mean, if this was the thirties - i'd be in!

I should ad -" getting some" isn't something I wanna base my life around...although as a 25-year-old male....it probably is anyway

[bubblesby2002]

49. You know you always make me laugh......

Getting some should be part of what your life is about - but it sounds to me like you have a pretty full life, anyway. I was a little worried about the Katimavik kids though. :evilgrin:

[HEyHEY]

51. I told my boss about that and she laughed her ass off

I actually didn't go to a place I knew the house leader would be in case she wanted to tear a strip off me.

Seriously though, you'd think four strapping young men could finish off a 40 of whiskey and a six pack of beer without a problem.

[bubblesby2002]

54. rofl - you did it again

and you would think four strapping young men could polish off that much booze - I know four strapping young women who could, no problem.

[JVS]

40. Wear a "Who farted?" t-shirt

[HEyHEY]

42. lol

Actually I do have one that reads "Beer Fueled maniac"

and another that says "COntents of shirt - one handsome devil"

One of those is sure to work!

[dolo amber]

47. You need one of these:

:D

[HEyHEY]

50. I'll go with the maniac one - cause I know I have it

ciao though- bedtime for me

[texas1928]

41. Just go naked and then there are no worries

[HEyHEY]

43. I tried that once too

Do you really need clothes to get a bank loan? Apparently you do.

[texas1928]

44. Well at least wear a trench coat for that one.

[HEyHEY]

45. You know what? I think this one time - just for fun

I am gonna show up wearing a "Who farted" shirt or something. Just to see what she does.

[JVS]

46. sweet!

tell us how it goes. I expect the report to be written in the penthouse forum style....

Dear DU,
I was going to my friend's birthday party and I decided to make a quick stop to change into my "who farted" shirt and pick up a 1.18l bottle of Carling 10% before arriving at the party. Suddenly from across the room a leggy blond.....

[HEyHEY]

48. ...her come on line isn't gonna be "I farted" is it?

Anyway dude - I'm off to bed. Ciao - good to see ya again.

[JVS]

52. "she whispered into my ear 'It was me'. 'You who what?' 'Farted!' she...

moaned with ecstacy" yeah, that's the ticket.

Nice seeing you too pal. Goodnight