What do you think of people who....sleep around

[HEyHEY]

Okay I have this one group of friends. They're a bit different than my other friends. They're kinda "Pop-counter-culture" Which to me means they don't understand highschool ended a long time ago. Anyway, I was at a party with that group last night, I left early because I found them kind of...annoying that night. And I just called one of them to see how things went, and she just said. "Oh awsome, everyone got laid."

I'm like "By who?"

She says "I don't know, just people we met at the bar."

I know they're all adults, and can make their own choices, so I don't say anything. But personally to me, it just seems so dirty, dangerous, and kind of sleazy. I've had my share of one nighters, but never with someone I just picked up at the bar. Let alone a different person almost every trip to the bar.

What do you think of that kind of behaviour?

[Donkeyboy75]

1. To each his/her own.

If they are careful and don't get attached in those types of relationships, enjoy!!! I just don't like hearing complaining from those who engage in those "relationships" and complain about being treated like crap.

[camby]

2. sleeping around

with total strangers in this day and age? There's a word for it:
FUCKING STUPID

[jono]

5. That's two words (nt)

[camby]

9. OK You Got Me

I've been taking lessons from the master.

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

3. I think I don't know enough of them!

No, seriously, that sounds a bit ezcessive. I am all for casual consentual sex as long as no one is hurt, ie adultery.
But...

[TexasMexican]

4. Its all good aslong...

as no one gets any diseases or gets someone pregnent.

Otherwise they are fucked.

[physioex]

6. Not the path of life I have chosen...

To each his own, after all I am a liberal. Just be aware of the consequences both physical and emotional...

[tishaLA]

7. I have no problm with it

I was never interested in the sex police and the multitude of mechanisms in place regarding appropriate sexual behaviors. I figure anonymous or semi-anonymous sex is no worse than serial monogamy and, really, as long as they are safe (or are comfortable with their choices) and aren't behaving self-destructively, it's fine.

[2Design]

8. Must be much more careful today..... Get a massage instead

and it doesn't really help you find what you really want... It would be better to go get a massage. You get touch, you feel good about yourself, and you likely will not catch any disease...

[Rowdyboy]

10. I'd love to be morally correct (because that kind of behavior is just

plain trashy) but, to be honest, I've done it. It was a time when I had a basic emptiness in my life, and I doubted my self-worth. Also, I was ALWAYS looking for more in a relationship, but, nevertheless, I behaved that way and won't deny it.

I'm glad I've found my other half because I'm too old to live that life anymore.

Congrats on having enough class and self-esteem not to behave like a dog in heat.

[HEyHEY]

12. Maybe that's it

None in this group seem to have goals or aspirations. They are all mid-20s and work minimum wage jobs and live in dirthole apartments. So maybe it is the self worth thing. Maybe they feel life isn't going anywhere.

[Rowdyboy]

18. I can only speak for myself

But I was looking for any kind of affirmation I could get. Sexual affirmation, especially to a gay man living in a very conservative southern society, was very important.

And, at that time, I lived in a tiny, little trailer with a decent (but not particularly good) job.

Being around alcohol makes it all so much easier!

[camby]

11. Seriously, though...

Whether you approve or disapprove, it's really not your business. BUT: I'd use extreme caution before sleeping with any one of your friends!

[HEyHEY]

15. I disagree I think it is the business of a friend to

Recognize truly dangerous behaviour. As I said in my post though, I don't say anything to them.

[camby]

20. You don't say anything

because you know that the last thing they want to hear is somebody going judgmental on them. That's why I said it's not your business, because I'm sure that's the way they would feel about it.

[supernova]

13. Not my thing

I've done it a time or two, but it's just not my thing. It's a very empty experience and I frankly am willing to wait for more than that.

As long as everybody is aware of the consequences, or if like you say "they don't understand highschool ended a long time ago" they might not.

Sounds like you've matured much better HEyHEY.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

14. I'm less concerned with their sleeping around than with the shallow

attitude with which they approach it..which then leads me to believe they aren't being promiscuous in a safe manner.

Being someone who likes sex...I pass no judgement on casual sex as long as the parties are approaching it in a fairly responsible manner.

[HEyHEY]

17. Yeah, it's kind of shocking

When my friend can't remember the name of someone she slept with and then just laughs about it. I don't even feel comfortable walking around my friends with just a towel on, let alone having sex with a total stranger.

[Rowdyboy]

21. For Christ's sake, take that towel off, boy....!

Your friends already know what you have. All the guys have EXACTLY the same thing!

Easy for me to say, in my junior high PE class, all the guys showered together. In college, we had a communal shower stall with six shower heads.

Male nudity was never that big a deal to me (I think there's a bad pun there somewhere, but I refuse to bite).

[Magrittes Pipe]

16. Doesn't matter to me.

That's why Jesus made condoms.

[m-jean03]

32. Looking for some love, al?

Well ya ain't gettin it from ME!! :P

[buddhamama]

19. it's fine with me, none of my business. my one concern...

whether or not they were being responsible "playing it safe" for themselves and their partners. if they're not than that's not cool.

[camby]

22. How does one "play it safe"?

Everybody acts as if condoms will protect them against everything, and that just isn't so.

[buddhamama]

26. part of being responsible

for yourself and others is being tested on a regular basis.
even 'tests' are 100%...
there's no guarantee with anything,
so the answer is everyone should stop having sex?

not sleeping around doesn't guarantee anything either.

[camby]

27. You're correct

but I don't think there's any way you can have responsible sex with a complete stranger. You may get yourself tested regularly, but no telling whether they do. You have no idea what type of person they are, they might be the kind to have sex even knowing that they have a STD. After all, they're the kind of person to have sex with a total stranger.

[HEyHEY]

28. Yeah, all that a test can do is

Tell you you fucked up and it's too late

[camby]

29. In Your 20's

you think you're going to live forever. You may not think you're ever going to want to get married and have kids. It'd be pretty sad if 10 years from now these friends couldn't have children because they got a sexually transmitt disease that made them infertile. It happens.

[camby]

30. Of course if you're gay

having kids may not be an issue, but life or death certainly is.

[buddhamama]

31. true...

hopefully in addition to tests etc, they are using rubbers.

i don't know what you expect me to say. that they're bad people :shrug:

if they're acting responsibly and not hurting anyone;
it's none of my business and i'm not going to get all judgmental about it.

[mitchum]

23. They have brought me a great deal of pleasure...

I'm not casting any stones at them

[smiley_glad_hands]

24. As old as time.

[slutticus]

25. As my name implies...

...I highly approve of such behavior.

[NightTrain]

33. If people want to sleep around, that's their business. I, however...

...don't go in for it. Never have, never will. I want a monogamous relationship or nothing! Which I guess explains why I haven't been laid since the Clinton Era. :eyes:

[Lisa0825]

34. I don't know anyone who does that everytime they go to a bar....

but plenty who do that once in a while. The safety issue would be the only thing I'd be concerned about. Not just STDs, but leaving with strangers who could turn out to be loons. There have been times when I met someone and had an instant, really strong, mutual attraction, and I see nothing wrong with just going for it. But that just doesn't happen everyday.

[tilsammans]

35. Personal safety issues . . .

I have a friend who's doing online dating on one of the major sites. The first date consists of the guy going to her house, where they wind up in the sack. (Yeah, yeah, I know, it's a guy's dream etc., etc.)

Anyway, I really fear for her personal safety, and not just from STDs. I mean, what if one of these dudes turns out to be a crackpot? But she won't listen to me, unfortunately.

What to do?

:shrug: