How come if I dumped my ex...

[Jack_Dawson]

I'm bummed at her "I met someone and he's everything you're not" email today? This girl is beautiful and gets lots of attention, but we've already broken up three times in 9 months and I'm almost sure if we got married it would've ended up in divorce. But still...if you've got nothing else going on it's hard to not obsess. :wtf:

[DoveTurnedHawk]

1. Take Solace From the Fact That If She's Still Writing You E-mail Like That

She still ain't over you.

Move on, my friend. :-)

DTH

[Jack_Dawson]

3. Thanks DTH

Miss talking to you from the Wes Clark days! Thanks for your comments they made me feel a little better.

[DoveTurnedHawk]

5. Now If You REALLY Want To Get Over It

Don't respond to any of her e-mail, just let her go be happy with her "ideal new guy" and then you can move on. Based on her e-mail, my bet is that your silence will get to her, and she'll still try to contact you, which will be an even more sure sign that she's not over you.

Ah, the games we play with our own minds to get over someone. :D

DTH

[Dogmudgeon]

6. Well, be nice

You can respond to her e-mail.

Just don't do it real, real fast.

Be polite, supportive, even affectionate.

Just not intimate.

Let nature take its course. Make sure to Let the (Polygamous Male) Eagle Soar.

--bkl

[DoveTurnedHawk]

7. I Dunno, That E-mail of Hers Wasn't Very Nice

"He's everything you're not" is pretty much a slam. Personally, I'd ignore it. But I guess some might go the polite route.

YMMV.

DTH

[Dogmudgeon]

12. Good point

Still, I've always found that being polite to my x-GFs was the best thing to do. If for no other reason, the apology nookie can be pretty hot.

Sex humor aside, the High Road always works out in matters of the heart (and loins). Skip a small get-back, gain a large share of esteem later on.

Be gentle. Be strong. Be A Man. :evilgrin:

--bkl

[Jack_Dawson]

15. She didn't say EXACTLY that

Just paraphrasing but it was along the lines of "You know what I wanted and needed and I have that now...I hope you're happy, I am."

[MikeG]

2. Isn't it too early for her to know that about a new guy?

Sounds like she wants attention. When they're done, they don't contact you.

[DoveTurnedHawk]

4. Exactly (eom)

DTH

[Jack_Dawson]

16. I don't know...she seems pretty into him

[Deja Q]

8. Get anything when you can.

Relationships aren't important to people anymore.

:-(

[Jack_Dawson]

9. Whaddyou mean?

[LincolnMcGrath]

10. Is that kinda like...

"Love the one your with!"

[traco]

11. I would say her intent

is to make you jealous. She isn't over you and hopes you will beg her to come back. Stick to your ideals. If you know it wouldn't work out, don't go back. She will regret ever taking advantage of you.

Tell her you are happy for her and hope she has a good life with Mr. Right. Then tell her you have also found your soul mate (or Mrs. Right).

[Dogmudgeon]

13. Eh, don't lie

The truth is usually far more effective. Especially when she realizes what a tawdry little gossip she's been.

"Yeah, I miss you, but it's better that you found someone else. I've been dating around, and I'm confident things will work out for me."

No moping, just the truth.

Want to bring a jealous ex down about a dozen pegs? Level with them.

You know, if I was dating a woman who was working the knife in her x-BF's wound, I think I'd keep the receipt for the ring.

--bkl

[Jack_Dawson]

14. BKL I'm in awe

You've obviously been around the block. Fantastic advice. Lemme buy you a beer. :beer: :toast: