dating/birthdays question...

[LastKnight]

ok ive been dating this girl since the beginning of the month... her birthday is a week from today... im wondering how much is appropriate for me to spend. spending money isnt really a big deal to me, but i dont want to give the wrong impression since i havent been dating her too long. im thinking chocolates and flowers... but im thinkin i should maybe have a bit more on top of that... but im not sure.

please help a completley clueless guy... i suck at this dating crap.

edit: shes turning 18, if that makes a difference, both of us are too young to drink also...

-LK

[Kenneth ken]

1. buy her a ferarri

and hope she lets you drive it once i n a while. :evilgrin:

[LastKnight]

2. duh, how could i be so stupid?

all the time the obvious anwser was staring me in the face.

-LK

[Capn Sunshine]

3. Chicks dig earrings. Gold ones.

Or pearl, since that's her birthstone. Take it from me. Personal , but not too. Thoughtful, like you worked at it. But fairly easy to do. Women like to see some effort beyond the rote candy/flowers.
Or screw it, and give her some bubble gum.

Opposite philosophy: Then there's the Jedi mind trick. The weekend before her birthday, disappear. Don't answer your phone. Don't call until after her birthday. If she gives you grief , blow her off. This , for some unknown reason, seems to get them really intensely interested in you. Not recommended if what you have in mind is long term thing.

[LastKnight]

9. so should i just dump the candy/flowers all together?

and think up something else entirely?


-LK

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

4. Buy her several small things

Nice bath salts, a bottle of nice wine, put a gift certificate in there, a favorite CD - have them arranged in a gift basket

It's saying she means something to you without getting heavy duty with jewelry or the like

[Kenneth ken]

6. yeah yeah - good ideas here n/t

[Kenneth ken]

5. more seriously

flowers are iffy. One woman told me, "What do they mean? They'll be dead in a week or less, so what does that imply?"

It's always better if you can find a coll, unusual gift. Do you know any of her friends or family that can tell you something she might like?

You do kind of need to have been paying attention the past few weeks, so you have some sense of what she likes.

Does she have a dream car? Get her a key chain with that car symbol on it; you can say, hey we start with this, later we'll work on the car itself.

amuse, be clever, be original. put some effort and thought into it.

[Keebs]

10. And it's women like her

that results in me -never- getting flowers. I'm 26 years old and I've received flowers once in my life and that was from my father on my last birthday. *sigh*

[Kenneth ken]

11. you just

need to tell your beaux that you DO like and appreciate flowers. I kind of like giving flowers, but have learned to ask a woman's opinion of receiving flowers before I buy them.

Everything in dating is a potential mine field; because every person is different. That's why communication is a key.

On the bright side, 26 is still young, you've lots of time left to get lots of flowers. :hug:

[eileen from OH]

7. Gift certificate to a bookstore

Then make a date out of it - go to the bookstore so she can pick something out and then take her to dinner at someplace neat - not necessarily romantic - like someplace with outdoor tables. Or, if you're near a river or large body of water - a dinner cruise.

eileen from OH

[GingerSnaps]

8. A charm bracelet with one charm on it

Each time you have to give her a gift you will know what to buy. They are very popular right now and you can find charms at any price.

[LastKnight]

12. kick nt

[rinsd]

13. No jewelry....

In college or still in high school?

If still in high school; a decent meal, some flowers and maybe a reasonably sized stuffed animal.

If in college, a decent meal and some flowers.

[LastKnight]

14. we just graduated from HS a few weeks ago...

but not in college yet...

-LK

[rinsd]

17. Okay...

I would stick with dinner & flowers and maybe a small stuffed animal.

Dinner and flowers are classy and romantic without getting too hot in the early stages of a relationship. Get red roses, you can probably get short stemmed ones and not empty your wallet.

Good luck!

[BlondieK143]

15. Is she a freeper?

:) If not, why not take her to a nice dinner then buy tickets to Fahrenheit 9/11? At least you guys would have a good conversation if she shares some of the same opinions of you?

BTW, if this isn't your cup of tea, find out if she writes or something like that. Something simple like a cute journal would be nice if she does.

[LastKnight]

16. shes a leftie...

we had planned to see F911... but the LOCAL THEATERS ARENT SHOWING IT. agggh... damn conservative hellhole.

i think im gonna have to write the local threaters...

-LK

[BlondieK143]

18. PROTEST! LIE NAKED IN THE STREETS!!

Or you could just call. :D

[dr.strangelove]

19. Dinner and Flowers

Don't go crazy. You're still young, and just out of high schoolers should not break the bank for a girl's b-day. Have nice flowers delivered to her job if she works. If not, send them to her house. the delivery is special.
Then a nice dinner.

[rinsd]

20. Excellent!

I forgot about delivery....takes care of the awkwardness of handing someone flowers while going out to eat.

[AlCzervik]

21. If you were to buy her something

expensive you will be setting a precedent for future gifts. Just something to consider. think personal, perfume maybe, or does she like to read? Something along that line and no jewelry.