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prolesunited Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-18-04 10:54 PM
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Poll question: Politics and romance: Could you date someone apolitical?
Just curious how big of a role politics plays in your current relationship or is it a consideration when getting involved with someone.
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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-18-04 10:57 PM
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1. Relationships are hard enough.
My political beliefs are a core part of my values as a whole. I wouldn't want to ever start anything with such a chasm on that level.
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TheWizardOfMudd Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 02:56 AM
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18. Can a chasm be on a level?
Or are all chasms inherently so deep as to betray all other and preceding levels?
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Fenris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-18-04 11:00 PM
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2. I would date anyone except a Republican
That's too much of an ideological shift for me. I'd be constantly correcting their parroted FOX News talking points.
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Radical Activist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-18-04 11:00 PM
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3. I like to date activists
I could date someone with much more moderate view than mine, but not someone that is totally apolitical and apathetic. I need someone who can understand and apreciate my commitement to change through political action.
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flamingyouth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-18-04 11:01 PM
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4. I'd have a problem with someone who wasn't as committed as I am
It's just such a deeply ingrained part of my personality.
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Kat45 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-18-04 11:06 PM
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5. I have gone out with apolitical men in the past.
And I "converted" them and got them on the road to being political. Anyone I date would have to have a mindset similar enough to mine anyway, so it is pretty much impossible that even an apolitical guy would be one who would become a republican. And that leaves repubs out of the equation as well.
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prolesunited Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-18-04 11:09 PM
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6. OK, so who wants to 'fess
up to being willing to go out with freepers?
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flamingyouth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-18-04 11:10 PM
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7. It's a scary concept
:scared:
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Kipepeo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-18-04 11:14 PM
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8. seriously!
I could never date a repuke. I am not even able to be friends with repukes. Too little of me and my time to waste it on assholes.

I like to think I could date anyone of my political persuasion no matter how active they are, but lately it has been driving me crazy that I have fallen into this political-obsession-black-hole and my partner remains uninterested.

Everything is political.
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tandot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-18-04 11:21 PM
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9. alright guys, who is willing to do it with a freeper?
I can't believe that.

NO FREEPER IS HOT...EVER...YUCK...

Not even tied up with duck tape and with a paper bag on his head. Now I'll have to take a shower...that is just disgusting...
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Radical Activist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 09:08 AM
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27. "do it" with yes. "Date" NO!
I mean, if she's hot I can ignore her political leanings for a night. Not any longer than that though.
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Reverend_Smitty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-18-04 11:36 PM
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10. Politics are a big part of my life
and I think that it would be too difficult to date a man that has opposite beliefs on such a fundamental level. Some of the biggest arguments that I have ever had were over politics so I definitely could not date someone who didn't share that common interest. I wouldn't mind if he was apolitical but he has to have a "left leaning" deep down inside
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BiggJawn Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-18-04 11:44 PM
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11. Since stress is such a wonderful Aphrodisiac....
<sarcasm> Me and my girlfriend have LOTS of spare time to sit around and bitch about Bush...
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prolesunited Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 01:09 AM
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12. Could always be worse
She could actually like Bush

:hi:
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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 01:16 AM
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13. Apolitical...no problem. Maybe even Republican if they weren't very
'political,' but I do kind of wonder whether I could find some good stuff going on with someone who'd buy the Republican thing; I'm almost 100% certain that I couldn't ever get on with a rabid neocon variety. As for the 'regular,' old-fashioned Republican type, there're too many variables to say anything definitive up front, and a lot would depend on whether the relationship was short-term or longer. But apolitical?...no problema.
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TheWizardOfMudd Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 01:19 AM
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14. Dating is stupid. High dollar whores are good, though.
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durutti Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 01:49 AM
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15. Yes. I've been having a bit of a crisis of faith myself.
And may soon flee to Apoliticalville.
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LostInAnomie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 01:53 AM
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16. It really depends on how hot they are.
I could just drink until I just don't care.
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Interrobang Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 02:43 AM
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17. One of my best online friends is, weirdly, very apolitical.
Edited on Sat Jun-19-04 02:44 AM by Interrobang
He's nominally fairly left, by the standards of his home country (Israel), but he's one of the least political people I know. He says that "politics is boring."

On the other hand, he's hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhot, and I'd go out with him in an instant if he weren't eight time zones away... :)

Edit: Added a word for clarity. :)
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Lindsey Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 02:57 AM
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19. Only one of my close friends is as active as I am. Most of them
are quite conscious and progressive but not (gosh, I hate to use this word but)....as obsessed as I am).
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puerco-bellies Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 04:10 AM
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20. Yes even a freeper.
But that would require a world class rack!
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prolesunited Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 07:46 AM
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22. Wow!
Do you realize how shallow that sounds? You must be some catch.
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mede8er Donating Member (249 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 06:18 AM
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21. Apolitical yes.......Republican no.........
Rack or not....we'd still have to talk eventually......hehhehheh......
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 07:49 AM
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23. Married a mostly apolitical RW Christian
And if I had to do it all over again, I'd still pick him. :)
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terrya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 07:50 AM
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24. Not in a million years. Doug, my Canadian b/f, is interested in politics..
there. We're both liberal on issues and, wonderfully, he's gotten me interested in Canadian politics.

Being in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about politics is not an option, at least to me.
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Lefty Pragmatist Donating Member (430 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 08:02 AM
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25. As long as she's intelligent
I don't care what her particular political persuasion is. I've known enough people from all parts of the spectrum to realize that political beliefs are religious orientations -- they're "yeah boo" statements, not logical statements.

That being said, my fiancee is farther left than I am on most social and fiscal issues. She's garden variety academic left, I'm garden variety business left.
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drumwolf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 08:11 AM
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26. I wouldn't entirely rule out dating a woman who is
Edited on Sat Jun-19-04 08:15 AM by drumwolf
not as political as I am, or even a moderate Republican for that matter. It would depend on whether I found her compatible on other things (for example, shared interest in music).

The more apathetic, or the more hardcore GOP partisan she was, though, the less likely I would be to date her.
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 09:15 AM
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28. I would go out with pretty much anyone
Edited on Sat Jun-19-04 09:16 AM by supernova
I was genuinely interested in until I discovered something about them I just didn't like, anti-choice for example. Because that tells me they might have other issues with women.

But just dating, yeah. Why not? A good time's a good time.

LTR, no no way. They have to be more or less in the same camp as me. I care too much about this stuff to just let it go.
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eyesroll Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 09:36 AM
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29. There'd have to be some potential, at least
Edited on Sat Jun-19-04 09:37 AM by eyesroll
Politics has become such a huge part of my life in the last few years that it would be difficult for me to interact with, much less date, someone who utterly didn't care. There'd have to be some sort of opening -- "I haven't really paid too much attention. What have I missed?" could be a good start. "Eh. Bush, Gore, what's the difference? Oh, it's Kerry now? Well, same thing" isn't.

I think there'd be a better chance of me dating a Republican -- we could be decent sparring partners for awhile -- but I don't know if it would last.

Then again, I know very few utterly apolitical people now -- even my mom, who votes religiously but that's about it, is getting into it. My "swing voter" assistant, who called himself apolitical when he started, is starting to get fed up with all of the partisan sniping and is trying to figure out how to get more respect for the independent voter (other than the pandering both parties do to win their vote). It's a start.

For the record: In my current relationship, we are both very politically aware and active, and we're on the same side (with some natural disagreements about specifics). But you knew that...
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prolesunited Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 01:52 PM
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31. Well, you know where I stand
on this one as well. In fact, some of our plans are directly effected by this year's election cycle. Hmm... personal happiness or impacting the fate of the world?

Somebody less politically committed wouldn't understand, like my sister, who thinks we both are a tad obsessed.
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Athletic Grrl Donating Member (551 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 09:42 AM
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30. I have politics
he has international soccer. Doesn't bother me.
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belladonna Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-19-04 01:57 PM
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32. Second choice for me
As long as they're intelligent and can hold up their end of a conversation about SOMETHING that interests me, they don't have to be as into politics as I am.

For that matter, I've thought lately that as big a politics junkie as I am, it might be GOOD for me to find someone not so into it, if only to have a way to get away from it now and then.
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