DU men; What female attributes are foremost in attracting you to a woman?

[Maine Mary]

This Q goes beyond physical appearance, but that counts too. Just curious... :-)

[coloradodem2005]

1. Two.

Common interests and a good sense of humor.

[pnorman]

7. When you said "Two",

I was expecting a different sort of answer :9 :P :9

pnorman

[JohnKleeb]

2. well

I wont lie to you that physical attractiveness is nice but on other attributes, I like a funny, smart, and a girl who shares my interests, and etc. as for physical attraction, I do like nice breasts, wont lie there, but honestly I think eyes are a nice attribute, most people do have pretty eyes though heh,

[Spiffarino]

3. Number one?

A wicked sense of humor.

[Rhiannon12866]

20. Welcome to DU, gtrump! Good answer!

I think you will find that most of us on DU have a pretty good sense of humor. I don't find the same amusing atmosphere on Free Republic.

[salinen]

4. Brains

Humor, Kindness, Sillyness, Animal lover, Nature lover, and good teeth.

[Maine Mary]

13. What do you say to a woman from Cherryfield, Maine?

Nice tooth. :-)


Sorry I couldn't resist. It's an old joke around here, but the woman's town often varies depending on who tells it. Somewhat offensive, I agree, but if you all only knew what some women around here say about men :evilgrin:

[peacefreak]

24. What's the difference between a moose & a woman from Maine?

The woman wears the flannel shirt. Sorry! More Maine humor.:evilgrin:

[Wapsie B]

5. Her eyes

are the first thing I see when looking at a woman. Then for the lack of a better word there's got to be a spark, a chemistry between you and her.

[Donkeyboy75]

6. In no particular order:

Intelligence
Sense of humor
Great ass
Smile
Nose
The outside bend of the knee
Independence
Straight up honesty
Self-confidence while maintaining modesty

Yes...I'm picky

[Snoggera]

8. I've narrowed it down to the point where I will not ever be satisfied

because, I think, I tried too hard in my youth.

Perfect woman:

Intelligent, liberal, with an easy smile an infectious laugh.

Distant, and yet seemingly close at the same time.

Physically: Of the female gender, and knows it.

I could go on...............

[Beaker]

9. since i'm married, i'd have to say...

opportunity.

:evilgrin:

[Gothic Sponge]

10. #1 sense of humor!

[patriotvoice]

11. Eyes

Followed by:
* smile
* symmetry
* curves
* posture
* breasts
* height

All of the above are immediately deprecated if she is unable to converse intelligently on a variety of subjects, if she isn't spontaneous and affable, and if she's cruel.

[Maine Mary]

14. Thank God for LiberaL men!

All of the above are immediately deprecated if she is unable to converse intelligently on a variety of subjects, if she isn't spontaneous and affable, and if she's cruel.


Tee Hee! I love your wit. :-)

[patriotvoice]

57. Being skilled with a silver tongue...

... has its benefits in many contexts.

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[WindRavenX]

15. You mentioned height..a question for you:

Do you mean you like women to be short (most men, in my experience, dislike dating women who are taller than them) or on the tall side?
I'm 4'11'', FWIW, and men have told me that short chicks are 1)more spunky 2) more hugable (too quote the BF: I'm "funsized").
So what say you regarding height?

[Bill McBlueState]

51. funsized

I like that. My wife is definitely funsized.

(A little off topic, I always wondered why the tiny bag of M&Ms is considered more fun than the normal size...)

[patriotvoice]

58. At least 5'6".

I'm reasonbly tall and generally prefer those who are within 8" of my height -- it makes intimate activities easier on both of our necks.

I did leave it open with just "height," because I'm not one to be rigid with rules. Height and weight proportional, combined with a positive and self-assured attitude, is a sexy combination.

[NewJeffCT]

84. I love petite women

My ex-wife was about 4'11", though she claimed 5'1". However, I remember a pic of her & a few friends that were more legitimately 5'1" and she was clearly shorter. I'm not a giant at an honest 5'9", but the only drawback to being with a woman that short, it was hard for both of us to comfortably hold hands while walking.

My current (and last) wife is 5'4" and very slim. So, I'd consider her pretty petite as well. Build-wise, they are complete opposites - my ex was voluptuous and curvy and had an oversized chest. My wife now has the very slim Asian build

My first two serious girlfriends in college were 5'3" and 5'1".

However, I would say the most common things among all the women I've dated seriously is that they are all quite intelligent, strong willed and outgoing. Other than the time immediately after my ex-wife filed for divorce - when all those hot college-aged women that I was too shy to date when I was in college suddenly seemed interested in a divorced guy in his early 30s - those personality features were common in all the women I dated. Though, both my wives had very fiery tempers

[Fovea]

12. a good conversationalist

someone bright and sexy who can translate Latin and who can keep up a cadence of >70 on the flats, ~86 for hills, pushing a 21 gear inch bent up a 15% grade.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

83. Hmm, I don't match that description, but if you ever get bi-curious

I know the perfect man for you.

:evilgrin:

[VOX]

16. Start with intellect, wit, liberal viewpoint and a pretty face...

And if she happens to have dark hair and light eyes, I'm a goner.

My wife fits the above description to a tee, with numerous "extras" thrown in the bargain! :evilgrin:

[JackDragna]

17. Breasts.

I'll be honest here..none of this emotional "eyes" or "smile" crap. I like a good feminine figure and nice breasts are a good start.

[Beearewhyain]

18. She doesn't agree with everything I say

She doesn't agree with everything I do.
She asks "stupid" questions that I can't readily answer.
She is the silliest person I know.
She is the most professional person I know.
She sees beauty in things I don't recognize.
She hates *
She is my wife.

[Forkboy]

19. Actually,for me there's no one thing that does it every time

Kindness would be the number one thing I guess,if I had to pick.

The ability to put up with my constant inner and outer child helps too :)

[Mike Niendorff]

21. I'm a sucker for deep, sparkling eyes.

Eyes you can get lost in.

Mmmm ... :)


MDN

[leftofthedial]

22. intelligence

sense of humor

eyes

hands

on edit:

oh, and she'll let me

[Guy_Montag]

23. She's got to be intelligent!

My first girlfriend wasn't that bright & I lost interest pretty quick - the only time I've initiated a break up.

I don't actually mind about politics, I would date a right-wing Tory if she could justify herself. However, I would struggle to date a girl with absolutely no interest in politics or current affairs.

Physically in rough order:
hair, long dark or red hair;
pretty face;
dark, brown eyes;
nice legs;
medium sized jubblies - not too big, not too small;

However, flash me your stocking tops & I'm yours forever.:shrug:

[Tredge]

25. It's simple...

...if she makes me laugh. There's really nothing better than that.

[Hubert Flottz]

26. Her Bass Boat!

:beer: And her voter's registration card!

[jus_the_facts]

34. LMAO......so a Skeeter really does it for ya....eh Hube......

:hi: happy fishin'!! :D

[Hubert Flottz]

47. #1 Boat #2 VOTE!

If the "Good Lord" made anything better than Worm Dippin' he must have kept it for himself!

[achtung_circus]

27. I've actually been thinking about this,

having fallen under the spell of a Celtic witch

Her eyes sparkle with wit and intelligence and humour. They are probably blue.

She is feminine, she knows it and it doesn't bother her. This category includes the fact that she has breasts. No gamesmanship about it, it's a fact of life.

She will say almost anything- either to get a reaction, to rattle people's cages or to get a rise out of me. She may swear, but if so it seems natural.

She's not necessarily a lady, but she's all woman.

Longer hair is good but not necessary.

A conveniently kissable height is good but not necessary.

[Mr.Green93]

28. grace under pressure

[GOPisEvil]

29. A nice smile, friendly demeanor, and huge...

...brains and sense of humor.

Hiya M! Long time no see! :hi:

[Maine Mary]

37. Hi Backatcha!

:hi: It's nice to be back! Did you do another Philly gathing this year? I thought you were going to. Wish I could've beeen there!

[GOPisEvil]

39. I was there!

It was in April right before the March for Choice down in DC. I wish you could have been there too! Of course, this just means I'll have to go NEXT TIME there's a Philly gathering.

[dr.strangelove]

30. Height, boobs and sense of humor

I can't lie, the first thing I noticed about my wife was her boobs. That said, I've dated lots of women with large breasts who were either boring or otherwise not emotionally appealing to me. Likewise I have dated several women with smaller than average breasts and found them wonderful companions, but it just didn't work out for one reason or another.
So while my wife's "great rack" (as I once put it to her and promptly was smacked in teh face) probably aroused my interest, so to speak, but it wasn't the reason I married her.
My wife is also very close to my height. I am a little under 5'11" and my wife is about 5'7". I like havign her very close to my height. I've dated shorter girls and found that height bothered me more than I thought. I once dated a girl who was over 6 feet adn I too found that bothersome. I think height has caused me to lose interest in some very nice women.

Overall, the thing that made me fall for my wife was her sense of humor. We have been together for almost 10 years now, but we still spend every Sunday mornign i bed, watching the various news shows, and making fun of pop culture, politics and mostly ourselves. We still do corny voices and sing to each other. My wife is the funniest person I have ever met. On many mornings I am laughing so hard I cry. I think I decided she was the one for me while standing outside John's marketplace, in Multnomah village in Portland, Oregon, when she made fun of a passing truck. I don;t even remember what the truck advert said, but I almost pee'd my pants. She is my best friend, and she makes me laugh.

[Tredge]

32. Terrific story...

...I liked reading your post, mostly for the second part. It sounds like you found the sort of thing I'm looking for (rack or not :) ).

[Beer Snob-50]

31. Does she breath???

that's it for me.

[galadrium]

33. Being liberal

[THUNDER HANDS]

35. A few things off the top of my head

1. A sense of humor
2. Brains
3. A round butt
4. A beautiful smile
5. Thickness

[GumboYaYa]

36. Without question, the smile...

My wife has a beautiful smile. It was the very first thing I noticed about her when we met. A good smile tells you so much about a person and is both physically and mentally attractive.

[sniffa]

38. her feet

[Beware the Beast Man]

56. Same here

Call me a freak, I dare ya!

[sus]

65. freak

okay now what.

[Beware the Beast Man]

69. I've seen yours already!

Very nice, by the way :evilgrin:

[sniffa]

79. i second that

grrrrr

[sniffa]

78. freak!

:D

[bemildred]

40. Being dotty over me is probably the most important thing ... nt

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

41. The ability to dance - let go and really dance!

That is THE most sexy thing I can think of!

The future CStheT can move that thing!!!

mm mm mm!!!

:)

[Bush_Eats_Beef]

42. Attitude

A good heart, a sharp wit, a creative streak, strong, honest, with the basic fundamentals of human decency.

Someone who doesn't try to morph me into her last ten boyfriends. (Men are guilty of this one too...you want your ex, go get your damned ex).

Monogamous. That one is non-negotiable.

And yeah, I understand that if I'm looking for those qualities in someone else, I'd better have them myself.

:toast:

[Burma Jones]

43. Let's see

Kindness
Creative
Yoga
Humor
Intellilgent
a bit randy
good driver
progressive
brave

And a looker

Wait, that's my wife.....

[BiggJawn]

44. A Pulse....

Respiration's nice, too...

[Commendatori]

45. Physical requirements are pretty much limited to

a pretty face and a reasonable height / weight (you can be taller than my 6'2", but don't outweigh my 225). Bra cup size is usually unimportant to me, except for this: anything bigger than a C-cup is too big.

I prefer girls who don't discuss politics at all. I'm a Dem, but I'm pro-gun, which means neither side is really happy with me. I'm not in the mood to deal with it when I'm dating someone. I've got firearms in my house - get used to it. If you insist that we spend the night at your place, one of them is coming along, so we may as well crash at my place. If we get married, be advised that although you can make all the decisions regarding the wedding and the decor of our house, we WILL live in a concealed-carry state.

The most important thing, though, is that the girl is secure emotionally - not too clingy, not jealous. Also, not wanting kids is a plus, because I've had them surgically precluded.

[Bonhomme Richard]

46. Kindness and Intellect............also

there has to be some kind of physical attraction but not necessarily in the textbook beauty sense. The physical attraction is harder to explain. It's just something you know, a connection of sorts.

on edit: There is no moral right or wrong about it, it just is what it is.

[Quahog]

48. Mmmmm... women....

Non-physical: Sharp wit, self-assured, able to see the humor in just about everything, spiritually inquisitive, devoted to family/kids, forgiving of others' shortcomings, kind.

Physical: I think women are so beautiful! Tall, short, thin, round, light, dark, doesn't much matter, I want you all! I suppose that I am most instinctively attracted to curvaceous women with dark hair and a very light complexion. I definitely like women with curves. But that doesn't count for nearly as much as non-physical attributes... my wife is a willowy blonde, so there you go.

[Magrittes Pipe]

49. Flexibility

In every sense of the word. ;)

[Maestro]

50. In this order

Intelligence, sense of humor, politically left, looks. However, I must say that looks is what will get me interested in the first place then the other attributes will make me want to stay.

[Ganja Ninja]

52. Good looks and sanity are helpful.

The first may seem a little shallow but I think it's true for both men and women. The second is a little harder to pin down. By sanity I mean having a nice personality and good outlook on life with reasonable expectation of what's required for happiness.

I guess a third attribute would be if the woman is someone I could trust in her being happy with me. The trouble with a lot of women is they pick a guy and then try to fix all his flaws.

[Zolok]

53. Kindness, a sense of humor...

"womanliness"...just don't ask me to define "womanliness" it is an ineffable characteristic.
:)
www.chimesatmidnight.blogspot.com

[WI_DEM]

54. I'm first attracted physically but without an intellect that is nothing

I like a pretty face--I don't like women too skinny or too fat. I don't mind a little weight (in the right places). I love eyes and tanned legs are a real turn-on. But as I stated if she can't talk intelligently then there is no use pursuing a relationship. I think an intelligent women is a great turn-on.

[GirlinContempt]

55. Was there

a copycat for women?

[Bombtrack]

59. Waist-to-hip ratio is big

Some famous people who have closest to perfect ratio's in my eyes are Rebecca Romijn Stamos and Elisha Cuthbert.

But also everything else. Face, breasts, legs, abs, butt, skin physically, probably in that order

kindness, demeanor, values, personality-wise.

[bo44]

60. humility and a sense of humor

pretty eyes and perky tits are secondary.

[TX-RAT]

61. Her eyes

Black hair and brown eyes.
No wonder my wife is half Mexican. But then so am i.

[bearfan454]

62. If I can trust her 100 percent,

if she is my best friend, if we get along and can communicate well, if we agree on most things, and if she will go along with me sometimes even if she isn't into it. There you have Mrs bearfan.

[never cry wolf]

63. Tude

Def the additude, saucy, perky... combined with intelligence and wit.

Of course the face, smile, eyes and a nice tight caboose don't hurt either.

[Angelus]

64. Nice rack, nice ass, nice legs, hot face, thin/athletic build...

brown "puppy dog" eyes...Oh, and the whole brains thing...but after the looks.

[Skittles]

82. I hope you will evolve with time

nt

[Angelus]

85. I will...

when I get desperate or when I get into my 30s. :)

[phillybri]

66. Brains first, then eyes, boobs, hair...

My wife hit the jackpot on all four counts!

[Anarcho-Socialist]

67. Intelligent, graceful, kind, feminine, witty, cute eyes

:loveya: Basically, everything my wife is :hug:

[Ratty]

68. Hope this is okay (a little kinky but ...)

I like a woman with a nice, shapely, sensitive clotilda. Sometimes, when I'm feeling brave or perhaps a little drunk, I'll ask a pretty girl to describe her clotilda to me. Often I'll get only a slap in the face for my boldness, but once I met this girl with the BIGGEST damn clotilda you ever did see.

[pdx_prog]

70. What the hell is a "clotilda"?

Oh well....if they are nice, give me one...lol

[dawg]

76. I'm in the dark here, too.

WTF is a "clotilda"? Do I even want to know?

[Ratty]

77. Oops, sorry about that

I think it's actually spelled "chlotilda," or maybe it's "clothilda." Aw I forget. Anyway, it's much funner to kiss than to spell.

[IronLionZion]

71. really big...

heart. :P She's gotta be a kind, compassionate woman. No bitches for me, thanks.

and in no order:
intelligence
self-respect
not too emotional (and not too un-emotional)
big beautiful round ass!
sharp nose (am I the only one who loves sharp nosed women?)
naughty look in her eyes
passion
fun to be with
must be at least a little perverted :evilgrin:

[slinkerwink]

72. a beautiful smile, sense of humor, intelligence, and softness

I love feeling how soft a woman's body is against mine. *sigh*

[TrogL]

73. abs

[Rainstorm]

74. I only have two basic requirements...

...a nice set of boobs and money. Everything after that is gravy.

Edited to add - her having a boat that can get out to the Grouper banks in the Gulf is a plus.

[mvd]

75. Attractively cute (that's pretty,) smart, Democrat/liberal, sense of humor

Also, these things, which aren't as important: can put up with watching sports, and is a music lover.

[LiberalManiacfromOC]

80. Intelligent and strong-willed

I don't care how ugly she is. (our personalities matching might help a little bit :))

[NewJeffCT]

86. agree with your headline

If you see my post #84 above, the women I've been most serious about have been intelligent, strong willed and outgoing.

While I physically prefer women that are petite with dark hair and dark eyes, I have dated women of all shapes, sizes & colors and been perfectly happy as long as there was a personality match. There does have to be a physical attraction - but, I try to find something attractive about every woman I date:
my first serious girlfriend it was her big brown eyes & her full lips;
my first real love was her crooked smile & her athletic frame;
my ex-wife, it was her big blue eyes & her gravity-defying oversized chest;
with my first post divorce girlfriend it was her slim figure & how she it up a room when she entered it;
with the girlfriend prior to meeting my wife it was her perfect feet, which I had never noticed on a woman before.

With my wife now, it is the total package - eyes, smile, slim figure, long silky black hair, sexy legs.

But, not a wilting flower in the bunch.

[jukes]

81. independence

liberalism, free-thinking, non-superstitious (atheist)



and small titties. seriously. :evilgrin:

[RedCloud]

87. Sadly, it's the brain!

I find intelligence to be very sexy. The more, the sexier. Bring it on.

All else has been rendered null and irrelevant with time's cruel passage.

Let's put the "sapiens" back into Homo Sapiens.