shock: I found email addy of an old friend on Google last night.

[Bertha Venation]

I wrote to her. I don't expect a reply, since I'm living a sinful lifestyle in willful defiance of God's word. But since she was a safe haven for me for many years when I was desperately hurting, I want to find a way to tell her and give her my gratitude. If she'll listen. We'll see.

Had experience with old friends found who want nothing to do with you?

[Iris]

1. actually the opposite

The area I grew up in was fairly repressive. I had a friend who I worked with who just loved me because I was the only white person (besides herself) that she knew who had voted for a Democrat!

Anyway, she was pretty crazy, mostly from growing up where she did. She contacted me recently and I realized I had nothing in common with her any more. I got away from all that and she didn't, even though she still keeps trying to live her own life. But it was a pretty depressing call.

[Bertha Venation]

2. Religious repression?

I hope she makes it out alive, whever kind of repression. Dang.

[Iris]

3. Relgious, sexist, racist, homophobic

Any kind of oppression you can imagine.

She lived in a farming community, so everyone was pretty dependent on one another to some extent.

One of the saddest things to me was that the men in the town called her husband a "pussy" because he cooked dinner for his family. (She worked as a teacher and he got home before she did.)

[Bertha Venation]

4. behavior like that is beyond my comprehension

now I REALLY hope she gets out alive.

[Iris]

5. Mine, too.

I hope she does as well, but she is a fairly self-destructive person.

Right now, she is just waiting for her child to graduate from high school. Then I think she'll move somewhere else. Personally, I think she'd be doing her daughter a favor by moving NOW, but it's really none of my business.

[Iris]

6. but anyway,

I hope your reconnection goes well. I have had some good experiences with looking up old friends. This one was just the most recent (and the saddest)!

[Deja Q]

7. I did that once...

Found a school chum 2 years ago. Lives in Duluth...

I thought he was gay... (I'll explain someday)

Turns out he's hetero and was to marry his g/f in summer 2003.

After hearing about his marriage I got frightened off and never responded. Too many thoughts went through my mind and I didn't know what to say. I still don't.

I wish I could find an old co-worker, from a financial institution where we were both doing data entry... he WAS gay and made passes at me. Everytime we looked at each other there was this electricity. But I was too frigging shy and ignorant and stupid to do anything about it. I wanted to but didn't know what to say or do. That was back in 1994. It's now 2004. Haven't met anybody like him since. :cry: Would LOVE to. But my fate is sealed. :-(

[unblock]

8. a college buddy predicted kerry would one day become potus. in 1981.

i sent him a congratulations taunt.

[lpbk2713]

9. I don't give em a chance.

I graduated from high school 40 years ago. Haven't been to the first reunion yet. And I still live in the same city. If they want me, I'm in the phone book.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

10. Well I called my brother

and left a message on his cell phone last week, congratulating him on his new baby and he hasn't called me back. I doubt he will. Haven't seen him in years.

Oh well, I tried. That's all you can do, right?

[flamingyouth]

11. I never once heard from one of my lifelong friends

after my husband's death. I tell myself that he was probably uncomfortable and didn't know what to say. But it hurts all the same. If this person is a true friend, she will stand by you no matter what.:hug: