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Some of you may remember my posts last August about my robbery experience. I can hardly believe that it's been one year already. I can still feel the overwhelming, all-consuming fear, panic, disbelief, horror, anger, and then emotional exhaustion. I don't think I will ever totally get over that. How do you get over the feeling of having a gun shoved in your ribs, then your neck, and being told you're a liar because you don't have any more money than the few dollars in your wallet?
I can still feel the coldness of the gun barrel and it being jammed in my ribs every time he demanded more money and every time I kept insisting I didn't have anything more. My son's face kept showing in my mind and how horrible it would be for him if the thug pulled the trigger on me. The shock of realizing that all he had to do to end my life was to take a second and pull a trigger, and that my life was totally in this stranger's hands, was unbelievable. And I can still feel as if it were yesterday the sense of surrealness and total disbelief that it was actually happening.
And then the dealing with my bank, which claimed it never got my call immediately afterwards to block my ATM card (he demanded the card when he finally realized I didn't have any more cash than the four bucks in my wallet, then he got the number by jamming the gun in my neck and claiming he'd fire it if I didn't give him the number-at that time, I thought he was going to get in the car with me and make me drive to the ATM, so that's how he got my PIN), and he managed to get seven hundred bucks out in three separate transactions within three minutes almost FIVE HOURS after I made the call to block the card. THEN the fucking bank made me jump through all kinds of hoops and wait almost a month just to get my own fucking money back that they should never have allowed to be taken in the first place, I even had to take off work to deal with all the paperwork and investigations, etc. Not to mention they acted as if I'd somehow stolen the money myself, claiming I'd never actually called them. The policeman sitting across from me when I made the call, as well as the police phone logs, backed me up, however (don't you just love corporate America in action-GAG!).
Then they at first refused to issue me a new card claiming fraud on my record; my local branch's manager had to get on the horn with corporate and explain that, no, I didn't steal my own money and that it wasn't fraud, it was a fucking ROBBERY!!!!
And I've been amazed and disturbed at the blatant racism so many whites displayed and still display when we talk about it, because the kid who robbed me (and he seemed like he was only about 18 or 19) was black. Comments like, "well, now you know what they're REALLY like", and "why should you be surprised, that's how they REALLY are", and "bet you feel different about them now", etc., etc., etc., PUKEBALLS!
I admit, for the first couple of months afterwards, to my everlasting shame and disgust, I was afraid of every single black man I saw, no matter what their age or what they looked like. But I got over it and recognized it was just emotions and how ridiculous that was. You never hear these same people say that about all whites when one commits a crime, now, do you? Just amazing.
And there's still no suspect in sight and the police aren't the least bit interested in even working on it. They have his picture from the ATM withdrawal, but they just don't seem to give a shit. I think that's what really bothers me, that he's still out there somewhere and has gotten away with it. I guess it's not important to the police since he didn't hurt me physically.
But you know what? Here's the really important thing. I'm alive and in one piece. My son still has a mother, my parents still have a daughter. And that's all that really matters in the end. It could have been a helluva lot worse than it was and I'm forever grateful that the worst didn't happen. Grateful to be alive to really appreciate life. And I think of the tremendous fear and panic I experienced and I realize that far too many of our fellow Americans live everyday in neighborhoods and situations with that kind of fear, and I'm very grateful to be in the position I'm in because I can't imagine having to deal with that every day.
Of course, that means I'm still here to bug you all here at DU, but you guys can't have everything, now, can you, lol! And thanks so much again to those of you who gave me such incredible emotional support at the time, it meant so much.
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