Dr. KittenHearts is now in................

[Darth_Kitten]

advice doctor for the lovelorn.... :loveya: :hug: :D

[Mikimouse]

1. Hmmm, I'm scared to ask...

I read your thread yesterday about cramps, so I am understandably hesitant to ask Dr. Kittenheart's advice, but if all is well today, then I will do so.:evilgrin: Dr. Kittenheart+cramps=Danger, danger Will Robinson!!

[Darth_Kitten]

2. it's okay, I've had plenty of chocolate and pain pills.....

I'd like new. ;)

[Mikimouse]

3. OK, but I will still approach with caution, for now...

What would Dr. Kittenheart advise for a cool middle aged, relatively good (young) looking and educated single man, who has had two bad marriages and is looking for companionship, but is really turned off by the thought of remarriage?

[Beaverhausen]

4. WOW!!! You sound like my once and future boyfriend

he is middle aged, twice divorced, doesn't want to get married again. We broke up recently but are trying to work it out...well I am.

[Mikimouse]

8. It isn't easy, for sure...

My trust level is in the negative numbers, and now my ex is trying to distance me from our (actually her biological) grandchildren. I have no intentin of letting this get out of hand, as the grandkids will only be upset by the hassles. I am simply going to leave it up to my step daughter, and hope that our relationship as step daughter and 'Dad' is really something that meant as much to her as to me.
Years ago, my mentor asked me what I was looking for in a female companion (I was between my first and second marriages, and had a reputation for being unapproachable, in terms of long term relationships). I laughingly told him that I wanted a companion who had an education, could converse well, didn't care where in the world worked, and enjoyed the outdoors (a fly fisher was desireable, but not required). He, also laughing, seriously told me to save up my money and then make a bid on a companion from an emerging nation. At that point, I laughed so hard that I was unable to eat. He was serious.

[Beaverhausen]

12. sounds messy- there are kids with my ex too

and his ex-wives are pretty bad. Such a shame the way people use children as pawns.

But have faith and keep the vision of your perfect woman. She is out there.

I am reading a great book called "The Mastery of Love" by DOn Miguel Ruiz. (he also wrote "The Four Agreements") I'm learning a lot and it must be working...my ex is coming over tonight!

[Mikimouse]

16. Well, I look at it this way...

I am sure that there is at least a good companion for me somewhere, but I am not looking. If I should accidentally run into her, the fine, but at this point, I am frankly not willing to put any effort into it. As far as the children/grandchildren issue, well, I have two daughters of my own, but we have been estranged for some time because of the nature of the first divorce. They are both grown young women now and I hope to re-establish our relationship at some point in the near future.

[Darth_Kitten]

15. it's hard to trust, I know......

but take it from me, don't ever break ties with the other important relationships in your life. You seem to be taking a healthy approach towards those....

Never limit yourself in your relationships....you will find people whom you will trust, and find easy to converse with, etc. If these don't end up in a love relationship, then so be it. At least you will have relationships that will enrich your lives.

Hope Dr. Kitten was somewhat helpful. :silly:

[Mikimouse]

17. You're always helpful, Dr. Kitten, but...

I really miss sniper kitty. AND, you still haven't given me a report on Folklarama, so get crackin'! :hippie:

[Darth_Kitten]

19. If someone can find me a sniper kitty again...

I'll use it. :)

I don't go to Folklarama, still too broke from the Fringe Festival!! :)

[Mikimouse]

20. OooKKKay (pouting)...What is Fringe Festival though...

I am not familiar with that? <Sigh>, maybe I'll make it back to Winnipeg by myself, one of these days. I would still love to get a position at U. Winnipeg or U. Manitoba. I love the city, and the surrounding area.

[mike_c]

10. there are quite a few of us out there....

A growing demographic if ever there was one.

[Mikimouse]

14. Bachelor's Club, anyone?

restricted to those of us who have already survived once or twice?

[Darth_Kitten]

7. Another cat?

Seriously.... ;)

Dr. Kittenhearts says if you have been hurt :( you must take time out for yourself to heal first. Also, don't limit yourself by the word "marriage". Now is for thinking about "fun" and "friendship". How about joining a new club or starting a new hobby?

Remember the number one kitten rule: If you makes you happy, it's sure to make someone else happy, too. Just be patient..... :silly:

[Mikimouse]

13. I wish I could afford another cat...

I can barely afford to keep the ones I have in food and litter, not to mention the vet visits. I have gotten to the point that I converse with them as I would with other humans. They, at least, understand why Dad has to go to work at a certain time, and why he is tired and needs a nap in the afternoon (I teach mostly morning classes, and the downside of the endorphin rush is that one gets very sleepy afterwards. I do have two hobbies though. I camp and fish (not exclusive to men, certainly), but at the moment I take trips with my best friend, who is my confidant. He lets me rant and rave about the past, but never judges, which I really appreciate. He has been where I am right now, and not very long ago, but long enough that he can look at things objectively. My second hobby is DU, where I come to read the trheads about relationships and recent hook-ups (I don't like the term, but it is the current vernacular).

[Darth_Kitten]

18. Pets enrich our lives, and it's fine to talk to them.

There's unconditional love there. Everybody wants to love and be loved, and pets are always there to listen and care. (cynics may say that they are just in it for the food and treats and toys, but Dr. Kitten scoffs at such nonsense) :(

Pets and best pals are a winning combination. :)

[rbnyc]

5. I can tell my husband is getting tired.

I'm about 8 months pregnant now, and have some complications because of my injuries last year, so I can't lift anything over 20 pounds. I can only stay on my feet for a few minutes at a time. I'm in pain most of the time. So my husband has been doing EVERYTHING, cooking, cleaning, laundry, comforting me, taking care of the cats, moving furniture, getting the apartment ready for the baby. All I do is go to work and come home. I also to dishes, and fold the laundry and a few other things I can do in short spurts or sitting down.

I can tell he's starting to burn out and I want to give him some relief, but there's very little I can do.

He's so wonderful. He deserves a break. And he deserves to feel really great about himself.

Any suggestions?

[Darth_Kitten]

9. Make it up to him in about 6 months time....

spoil him rotten when he least expects it. ;)


right now it's "Mommy" time for the up and coming new "Mom"!!! (Congrats by the way!!) :)

You sound like you have a swell guy there, but right now it's time for you to be tended to! :) You sound like you are doing your best right now, so don't feel guilty! :(

[rbnyc]

11. Thanks.

He is great, and he doesn't want me to feel guilty either. But it's hard for me not to worry about him when I see how much he's taking on. I will spoil his butt off as soon as I can.

:)

[Elidor]

6. Hiya, Doc

:hi:

No advice needed. Just thought I'd say hi.

[KG]

21. Dr. KittenHearts: loves stinks

yeah, yeah.