What are some signs that a long friendship might be coming to an end?

[battleknight24]

If you're wondering why, post a message and I'll elaborate on my situation...


Peace,

[wtmusic]

1. You wake up to a half empty bed and your stereo's gone?

Do I win? Do I win?

[RandomKoolzip]

2. Friend supports Bush.

n/t

[battleknight24]

4. (OPH) No... she doesn't like Bush...

... I'm 22 and she's 18... I've known her for close to 5 years... She always been a little immature and childish, but I always thought that it would change over time... She still acts like the 13 year old girl I became friends with...

[Dookus]

6. that's a very natural consequence of being that age...

you've known her from 13 to 18. Both of you have undergone huge changes in that time. It doesn't mean the friendship is ending, but it WILL change. She will (presumably) go off to college or some other endeavor and her life will change even more.

Keep in touch, be nice to her, but don't expect the friendship to remain the same.

[battleknight24]

10. (OPH) We are going to the same college...

... At least of the next Academic year (2004-2005).


Peace,

[Dookus]

15. cool

then you have a chance to form a new frienship based on your new circumstances.

BTW, what is (OPH)?

[battleknight24]

16. "Original Poster Here"... I know its weird... but...

... sometimes when responses get pretty lengthy, people lose track which member started the original discussion... I know people could still tell by actually reading the post... but I don't know, I'm a weird guy...


Peace,

[roguevalley]

3. distance is the first signal

[battleknight24]

9. (OPH) Well, she has a serious boyfriend now...

We still hang out, although not as much as we used too, and we still talk on the phone often.

- This past May, she came very close to not graduating... literally, a few days before graduation, she found out she had and F in her college English class (she didn't take her final semester of high school english because a C would have given her dual credit...) First she told me she turned in the assignment by e-mail (it was an internet course) but that for some reason, the Prof. never received it... and she said that it wasn't saved on her computer and that she didn't save it to disk... late one night, when she came to my house so I could help her... and she confessed to me that she NEVER did the assignment... and she didn't say why.

- She's dating a 26 year old guy who was her coach/teacher in high school... and he's living with his ex-girlfriend and her son.

- The other night she went out of town with me to run some errands... later that night she came to my house and said that she needed a ride out of town to go see her boyfriend... you see, her parents think that they are just friends and that they just talk on the phone (her parents let her go to a movie with him a couple of times, but her little sisters went along with them...). Their not completely comfortable with her talking to him, obviously.
Well, she would sometimes go out of town to see him but would tell her parents that she was going to a friends house. After a time, her mom starting keeping track of the mileage... and well, she came over to my house and asked me for a ride to her boyfriends place... first I asked her how I would explain her truck being parked at my house... then she said that she would just drive out of town and tell them that she went out of town with ME... I told her if her mom called me, I was not going to lie to her... (whoever is reading this, you can think whatever you want of me... but keep reading...) I called her later that night as she was on her way back from her booty call... and I told her to stop by my house. She did and we hung out for a couple of hours or so. I agreed to let her tell her mom that she was out of town with me. (It was partly for selfish reasons... if she would have gotten in major trouble, we would not have been able to go out of town the next day. We had plans to go and see Evanescence in Corpus Christi, which we did.)
And later that night, I found out some things I was better off not knowing.


Okay, maybe this little story didn't have a point.

[LibDemAlways]

5. I had a long friendship that came to

an end last year. I could sense it was ending when the other person started calling less frequently, came up with a lot of excuses as to why we couldn't get together, and generally pulled back.

Our young daughters had been great friends the past seven years, too, so this was painful for my daughter as well.

I think in my case my friend was just ready to move on. She had gone back to school and her interests were changing. I can't imagine that it was anything I did or said.

Sometimes friends, like spouses, simply drift apart.

[Nevernose]

7. A friend's Dad once told us:

The friends you have in high school will be the very best friends you ever have in your entire life. But they won't stay your friends forever. Five, ten years down the road, the people you thought you once couldn't live without will be strangers. Don't forget them (she will always be your friend), but understand that you will have to let them go. I didn't believe him, but he was right.

Personally, some lasted ten years, but most fell by the wayside. There's only one person I still talk too that responds to the question" "Remember in the tenth grade, when..." A serious argument could bee made that he is the only real friend I have, except maybe for his wife. You will notice, as you grow older, that you have less and less "true" friends.

Losing these people is like watching a child growing up; a part of nature, but sad nevertheless.

[DemWitch]

8. you notice thier number on your caller ID and you ignore the

ringing phone...

they leave messages and you "forget" to call back or use the excuse "oh, the machine must have screwed up because I didn't get your message" when you finally hook up.

you have a noticeable increase in colds that prevent you from doing things with them.

[jdonaldball]

11. When their lawyer serves you with a complaint and demand for damages

[battleknight24]

13. ha ha ha ...

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[VoteDemocratic2004]

12. The hard part is letting go

You have to get use to not being able to talk to that person again or at least like you use to.

You also need to be able to put them in the past and move on.

It's very hard to do but each day that goes by you will realize that your friendship has come to an end and nothing is going to change that fact.

You didn't do anything wrong and neither did she. The both of you guys are growing apart and your taking different paths in life.

I speak from experience because I had to write an alcoholic friend of mine off recently and part of me misses him while the other part is glad that he is gone.

[battleknight24]

14. (OPH) I talked to my brother in June...

... not that long after she graduated... and I told him something like things were a lot different now than I thought they would be... and he said (I'm paraphrasing): "the maturity gap between you two isn't closing... maybe its getting wider..."