Being (almost) single again SUCKS!

[Pale Blue Dot]

On Tuesday, I flirted with one of my customers She's an attractive woman who runs a non-profit welfare-to-work program (so I'm figuring, perhaps naively, that she's liberal - not a safe bet in these parts.) Anyway, I had a great time flirting, and after she left I felt confident and attractive.

Today, 2 days later, she came back into the store. This is unusual - I usually only see her once every couple of weeks. And today, she was flirting with me big time, dropping hints about being unattached, etc.

I completely lost it. It was like high school. I began stammering, saying stupid things just to fill the pauses, and generally acting like an imbecile. Any attraction she had for me must surely be gone now. I simply have no idea how to handle it when a woman makes rather obvious overtures.

In the meantime, the future-ex has 2 guys chasing after her, one of whom I'll meet tomorrow.

I am completely unprepared for any of this. :scared:

[dorktv]

1. Be honest with her. Explain that you are just starting to get back into

the dating game and are apt to make some mistakes. But that you like her as a person and would like to get to know her.

[yorgatron]

2. don't worry so much

she probably got a kick out of seeing you get rattled :P

[physioex]

3. Take it slow....

Don't rush into anything.....Don't worry about what she might think, it's futile....

[HEyHEY]

4. You should just chill

Remember it's not all life or death

[Wheelie_Alex]

5. I kept my game up,

by carrying on numerous affairs while married. You will lose it if you don't use it!

[prolesunited]

7. Are you proud of that?

Was that an arrangement you had with your wife?

[Wheelie_Alex]

11. You gotta be kidding!

If the wife knew, it would take all the "adventure" aspects out of it.

Anyway, I am only kidding. I did not cheat on my wife at all. Not even once. But I was always quite a flirt so I did keep my game up in that way.

[Pale Blue Dot]

9. I'm not having an affair

My wife and I are getting divorced. It is amicable, and we are actually comparing notes on our various flirtations.

[Pale Blue Dot]

6. I actually thought it was pretty funny.

So did the rest of my staff. This is not the end all and be all, it's just a casual flirt. It was just funny to me how quickly I reverted to my geeky high school persona. :D

[chiffon]

8. Look inside yourself and do not be afaid

Beware of co-dependency and enjoy being scared. It is a wonderful and protective kenetic. Also, realize that you are not in competition with your ex. (her callers are just that....who knows what their substance consits of)

If the attraction is genuine or reflexive, only you can assess that. I have read some of your posts in the past, and you (my dear) have plenty of substance.

[Pale Blue Dot]

10. Wow. Thanks, chiffon!

:loveya:

Being scared is going to be par for the course for now, so I might as well get used to it. :D

[seventhson]

12. Best Advice ever!

ask her out for a drink (if you do that).

If not -- ask her for coffee and then go for a walk!


next time a movie. I recommend the Village it's stupid-good conversation and then


but just fucking invite her somewhere to do ANYTHING.

and get over yourself.

Being single again is like going to dunkin donuts.

You get to pick what you want and try anything....

[dolo amber]

13. Oh fer fucksake

She's only a PERSON...what's the worst she can do, point and laugh? :shrug:

(Drunkenly trying to be supportive... :hi: :D)