You and your SO, did it happen fast or slow?

[chaska]

Poll question: You and your SO, did it happen fast or slow?

When did you first sleep together?

I'm having an argument with my new ... hmm, dating partner??? about how most relationships begin. I say that they generally begin to get physical fairly quickly, and that actually getting to know someone comes later. It's all relative, of course, but I thought I'd do this poll to see what light DU can shed on the subject.

When did you first have sex with your current or former significant other - what is your typical pattern, if you have one?

Any comments are encouraged.

And no, of course I'm not gettin' any.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

1. we slept together before our first date.

[liontamer]

11. well there's no sense in my responding

Now no one will believe me if I say I wait till the third date ;)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

18. yes, no one will

[jedicord]

2. The chemistry was strong, we "did it" before the first date,

if we ever actually did have a "date". We've been together ever since, going on 14 years.

And, I'm happy to say, the chemistry is still there.

:pals:

[pagerbear]

3. Usually happens a little faster than I'd like

:eyes:

[Dogmudgeon]

4. My last "relationship"

First date.

Second date, she announced she wanted me to get her pregnant, because she wanted another baby.

Third date: There was no third date.

She's baby-crazy. Her tactic now is to sleep with guys and tell them she's on the pill. A very sad story, indeed.

--bkl

[arcane1]

8. damn is that my ex-wife??

spooky that there is more than one person out there like that

[Dogmudgeon]

12. Does she meet these criteria?

Is her name is "Crystal"?

You know, Crys wasn't all that bad a girl to keep company with, sexual and non-sexual, but I prefer to take it a bit slower when it comes to children.

What about your x-W? Did she tell you she wanted you to help her breed and THEN you married her?

Yes, there is more than one other person like that out here in SinglesLand. A huge number of women are baby-crazy. I like babies, too, but I'd prefer to have a happy, stable marriage first (which probably rules it out for this lifetime).

--bkl

[arcane1]

13. worse...

when the marriage was initially in the falling-apart stage, she told her best friend that she was seriously thinking about stopping the Pill, not telling me, and getting pregnant in order for me to HAVE to stay for the sake of the child :crazy:

fortunately, by that time she wasn't getting any from me anyway :evilgrin:

she has her kids and husband now, and I am happy to be 3000 miles away from that whole scene

I had forgotten all about that until reading your post, and it made me nauseous :puke:

[tigereye]

15. why would someone do that?

Kids need stable relationships. Wow. I would never have had a child by someone I did not know well and trust.

[mrboba1]

5. we were in college

nuff said.
:P

No really, we didn't have much in the way of dating - it was more of hanging out and by week 3, it was done. So technically it was the 1st date, but not really.
So I said 3 weeks.

[Debi]

6. It took us a month and a half to have sex.....

but only six months to get married.....head's still spinning eight years later....sigh..:loveya:

[Screaming Lord Byron]

7. A couple of dates or so.

[hunter]

9. Other, because it's none of your business...

Every relationship is unique. Me and my wife, it was love at first sight, but I shall not say a thing about sex, because in many ways that's the least of it. Be a gentleman.

I have friends who went years and years and years as "best friends" and then suddenly it got hot, they got married, and it's still hot for them.

"Getting to know someone" is always the best course.

[chaska]

10. Geez Hunter, no need to get POed.

Besides I'm in the middle of enjoying a wonderful sandwich with my own homegrown tomatoes and jalapenos on the best bread (Ezekiel) in the world. You're gonna mess up my digestion.

Don't misunderstand me, I'm not trying to pressure her for sex. The issue is that I feel like this relationship may go nowhere. I'm willing to wait if I feel like she has real feelings for me. I have several reasons to believe that we won't make it in the long run. And I have some personal issues at stake, i.e., I'm trying to decide if I want to continue to live here in this area.

The sex thing is a side issue.

[hunter]

19. Umm, post eleven.

By liontamer...

That pretty much describes my own life.

But I never kiss and tell.

And a lot of my friends did it different. Sometimes it took years and years.

[ProfessorGAC]

20. Same Here

I'm with ya, Hunter. I don't participate in sex threads and the like. I usually don't find that stuff humorous, so it's hard to participate in good fun.
The Professor

[hunter]

21. Wow, I am honored ProfessorGAC...

You are one of my DU heros.

[mrboba1]

14. that's the beauty of a poll.

You can answer truthfully and no one ever knows (unless you open your mouth)

[tigereye]

17. well initial friendship, then attraction, then

me running away (I only liked brooding rock boys at the time), and then us getting together about a year later. And we still are together after 22 years.

[SarahB]

16. It depends on how you look at it.

Technically, it was our first date, but we had been friends for awhile and even socialized together in group situations prior. That was a lloonnngggg time ago and now it would really depend on the situation. If I knew someone very well for some length of time, I could see sleeping with them immediately if we were to "date", but if I was seeing someone and we weren't friends already or knew each other well, I'd need a few months to establish the kind of intimacy I'd need to make me feel comfortable to begin a sexual relationship probably.

[chaska]

22. kick

[trof]

23. First date, 35 years ago.

And now I've destroyed all the perceptions of me as the dignified elder statesman.
It was lust at first sight. According to Miz t., it was love for her. For me, it took a little longer.
I am not at all sure what this might prove.
;-)