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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:04 PM Original message |
My 14 year old son just "ran away." Advice? |
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skooooo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:06 PM Response to Original message |
1. if you can get him into counselling.... |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:11 PM Response to Reply #1 |
4. He had a counselor coming to the house through the probation |
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skooooo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:16 PM Response to Reply #4 |
7. hang in there.... |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:20 PM Response to Reply #7 |
13. Thanks, anyway. I will. |
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aquaman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:34 PM Response to Reply #4 |
19. I am a therapist that works with adolescents........ |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 11:19 PM Response to Reply #19 |
82. There's an organization of parents called Tough Love |
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imax2268 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:08 PM Response to Original message |
2. Once he figures out |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:13 PM Original message |
Did you behave any differently after you got back, or did you just |
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imax2268 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:22 PM Response to Original message |
14. I just thought that... |
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7th_Sephiroth (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:06 AM Response to Original message |
36. ignore the bong and the weed |
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physioex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:08 PM Response to Original message |
3. Stand your ground..... |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:13 PM Response to Original message |
5. Do you know where he is? |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:14 PM Response to Reply #5 |
6. No. |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:16 PM Response to Reply #6 |
8. You know what? |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:36 PM Response to Reply #8 |
21. I was thinking I would do that. You see, I think he thinks I think he can |
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OffWithTheirHeads (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:53 PM Response to Reply #6 |
31. Been there, done that. |
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iconoclastic cat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:17 PM Response to Original message |
9. I did that all the time at that age. |
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gardenista (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:18 PM Response to Reply #9 |
12. That's a good insight. Does he have any interests that could draw him |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:29 PM Response to Reply #12 |
16. Not really. He signed up for diving, but couldn't do the flips. He is |
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CJCRANE (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 08:32 AM Response to Reply #16 |
72. Is there |
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iconoclastic cat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 10:16 AM Response to Reply #16 |
76. Good morning! I have a comment on this one: |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:27 PM Response to Reply #9 |
15. I know what's eating him alive. It's his father - or absence of. |
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OffWithTheirHeads (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:07 AM Response to Reply #15 |
38. I refer you to my earlier post |
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cally (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:11 AM Response to Reply #15 |
39. That's an excuse if it's what he's using |
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gardenista (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:20 AM Response to Reply #15 |
44. Oh my goodness. Wow, that's a very tough thing for a boy to take. |
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gardenista (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:17 PM Response to Original message |
10. I'd bet that he picked the fight to have an excuse to leave tonight |
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fairfaxvadem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:38 PM Response to Reply #10 |
23. Well, 20 years ago, 14 yrs old was about the time we all did it. |
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rabid_nerd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:17 PM Response to Original message |
11. Give him a night in jail |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:31 PM Response to Reply #11 |
17. He hasn't been to "jail." Just arrested. I think jail would be a badge |
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name not needed (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:33 PM Response to Reply #17 |
18. Get someone to talk to him about prison rape then. |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:35 PM Response to Reply #18 |
20. I suggesst Norm Macdonald |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:39 PM Response to Reply #20 |
25. ? |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:38 PM Response to Reply #18 |
24. LOL! I used to work in the jail! I've told him all of that stuff already |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:36 PM Response to Original message |
22. I used to volunteer with street kids, and |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:45 PM Response to Reply #22 |
27. He's my fourth son. I don't get too hysterical anymore. |
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Obamarama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:40 PM Response to Original message |
26. Let me get this straight.... |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:51 PM Response to Reply #26 |
30. WHO DO I CALL? This is the problem. I don't know who to call besides |
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MrSandman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:56 PM Response to Reply #30 |
33. If you don't, |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:02 AM Response to Reply #33 |
35. No other minors, but I will look into the residential treatment. |
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MrSandman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:15 AM Response to Reply #35 |
40. Google term... |
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Obamarama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:20 AM Response to Reply #35 |
42. Kimber, check your inbox.... |
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MrSandman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:51 PM Response to Original message |
28. Little late to ... |
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rasputin1952 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:51 PM Response to Original message |
29. Your son is going through some rough times... |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 01:01 AM Response to Reply #29 |
50. Thank you. You make a lot of sense. |
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TiredTexan (489 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:54 PM Response to Original message |
32. You need to tell him about the drug forfeiture laws that |
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Gryffindor_Bookworm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:29 AM Response to Reply #32 |
45. I found this hard to believe, so I asked my brother (the cop) and he |
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miss_kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:32 AM Response to Reply #32 |
46. i have heard that the 'following them around at school' is |
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miss_kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-27-04 11:58 PM Response to Original message |
34. YOU ALL need counseling |
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Rowdyboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:06 AM Response to Original message |
37. I offer neither advice nor criticism...I don't have kids (THANK GOD!) |
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Gryffindor_Bookworm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:18 AM Response to Original message |
41. I have a brother in law enforcement. |
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splat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:20 AM Response to Original message |
43. He has a future |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 01:06 AM Response to Reply #43 |
51. It's one of my biggest fears with the police. You call for help and |
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OffWithTheirHeads (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:35 AM Response to Original message |
47. Oh please! |
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Gryffindor_Bookworm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:40 AM Response to Reply #47 |
48. No, I didn't. |
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Cheswick2.0 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 07:29 AM Response to Reply #47 |
69. yeah I did too when I was 12-13, and it was a mistake I corrected at 14 |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 11:30 PM Response to Reply #47 |
83. I didn't |
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GoddessOfGuinness (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 12:41 AM Response to Original message |
49. Counseling...sound familiar? |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 01:08 AM Response to Reply #49 |
52. Young male counselor? Good idea. I hope we can find one. |
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GoddessOfGuinness (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 01:18 AM Response to Reply #52 |
53. Does he have a curfew? |
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jdj (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 01:29 AM Response to Reply #52 |
54. I don't have kids, but I am alcoholic/addict (recovering) |
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jackieforthedems (534 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 01:32 AM Response to Original message |
55. Right Now, It Helps To Keep Them Busy |
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jackieforthedems (534 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 01:38 AM Response to Reply #55 |
57. P.S. |
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Diogenes2 (344 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 01:37 AM Response to Original message |
56. Ease off |
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GoddessOfGuinness (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 01:56 AM Response to Reply #56 |
58. Interesting response |
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Diogenes2 (344 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 02:17 AM Response to Reply #58 |
59. Excuse me |
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RummyTheDummy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 04:08 AM Response to Reply #56 |
67. Great response |
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Cheswick2.0 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 07:32 AM Response to Reply #56 |
70. How old are you? |
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Yupster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 11:32 PM Response to Reply #56 |
84. If he's on probation and taking drugs |
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politicat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 02:22 AM Response to Original message |
60. taking away the material things doesn't improve the situation. |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 03:11 AM Response to Reply #60 |
64. I'll call ASU. I'm a student there, myself. |
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politicat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 08:26 PM Response to Reply #64 |
79. You might try SCA or Adria... |
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Champ (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 02:27 AM Response to Original message |
61. I was in a similar situation at that age |
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Kimber Scott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 02:54 AM Response to Reply #61 |
62. We've had many heart to hearts. He says it's just a phase. |
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Swamp Rat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 03:43 AM Response to Reply #62 |
65. You are doing fine |
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sasquatch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 03:10 AM Response to Original message |
63. Check him into an asylum |
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RummyTheDummy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 04:05 AM Response to Original message |
66. Military school? |
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DrWeird (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 04:47 AM Response to Original message |
68. I say give him back his stuff and smoke a fatty with him. |
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rasputin1952 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 08:50 AM Response to Reply #68 |
74. Fine, right up to the time he gets his next UA, and probation... |
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DrWeird (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 04:03 PM Response to Reply #74 |
78. Ah, unjust authority figures with unjust punishment. |
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Cheswick2.0 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 07:38 AM Response to Original message |
71. Kimber, I have been through this |
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YellowRubberDuckie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 08:45 AM Response to Original message |
73. If he's on probation, call his probation officer. |
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NashVegas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 08:53 AM Response to Original message |
75. "phone, t.v., computer, stereo and video games" |
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uncle ray (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 10:28 AM Response to Original message |
77. change the locks |
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SW FL Dem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 09:27 PM Response to Original message |
80. I don't have any advice but I hope for the best n/t |
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Maddy McCall (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Aug-28-04 09:37 PM Response to Original message |
81. Has he come home yet? |
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