Being single and in my 30s sometimes sucks! (stuck home tonight)

[Gothic Sponge]

All my friends are married, have kids, or live a few states away. Since my breakup, i feel like the 3rd wheel when we get together. All the bars here cater to the teens/20s crowd. Not to mention... i don't drink, and i'm shy.

I don't know why i'm bitching, i'm still not well enough from my bronchitis to go out tonight anyway!

I guess i'm going to get under the covers and watch an old film.

[bigwillq]

1. What movie are you going to watch?

It's best you stay in anyway since you are sick. Get better, please!

I think my sister feels the same way. A lot of her friends are married and/or getting married and she hates to go out with them since she is the only one with a partner.

But, you still have all of us here at DU to keep you company!:hug:

[Gothic Sponge]

4. Thanks!

Not sure what i'm going to watch. I'm in the mood for Chaplin, or Keaton.

[bigwillq]

7. Do you have any good snacks over there

while you watch the movie?

[Gothic Sponge]

8. Just popcorn and green tea.

[bigwillq]

11. Well, those are always good choices

Hey, you could always come up to CT and we could go out. I have a partner but I usaully go out a lot after work with out him.


Sorry. You did say, you don't drink.



Just an invitation. I don't like it when people are lonely.

[Gothic Sponge]

14. Thanks!

On day all of us local to NYC should meetup. I wanted to go to the march this weekend, but my lungs had other plans. ;)

[brainshrub]

2. Try this:

www.match.com

Thank me later.

[Gothic Sponge]

3. Hehe! Thanks, but i'm not ready to date.

If that makes sense....

[brainshrub]

5. It does.

I'm in the same boat right now.

[KG]

6. try being in your 40s and single - major league suckage

[Gothic Sponge]

9. Sorry to hear.

I'm close enough....I'm 37.

[Warren DeMontague]

10. You haven't been single for that long, have you?

Unless I'm mistaken. It's really tough at first coming out of a long relationship. Give it a little time, before you know it you will be meeting women all over the place.

I'm married, now-- so, wouldn'tcha know it, women are always flirting with me. Something about that "taken/not interested vibe". But 5 years ago I was exactly where you are.

Political meetups, events, farmers markets, coffeshops, etc. all seem to be good non-drinking places to make new friends. Hang in there. And you really never know what might be right around the corner. I can personally attest that sometimes you have to lose the wrong thing--- to find the right thing.

:)

[Gothic Sponge]

13. Thanks!

Been single for almost 10 months, but i'm still in that "regrouping myself stage." I didn't take my breakup well....

[Warren DeMontague]

24. I know how it goes. There's a period of mourning for any LT relationship..

As an adult, it always seemed to take me about a year to truly come out of it.

[tridim]

12. Your life sounds so familiar

My group of good friends had a baby spurt last year, now everyone is married with a baby, except me and one other.

30 something, check. Shy, check. Don't drink, check. Bars suck, check.

[politicat]

15. Would ya'll just move to Colorado??

Or tell me where you are and we'll move there??

God, it sucks being the only non-parents in our age group (25-40) and never having anyone to do anything with because they've got their spawn. (some of the kids are okay... some are.... curtain climbers.)

Let's designate a city and all move there, huh?

Pcat

[GOPisEvil]

16. Austin!

I just bought a house - I don't wanna sell it. :D

[Gothic Sponge]

18. Where to find a city for liberal/progressive singles?

[henslee]

17. Welcome to Uncle Henslee's school of womanizing. First I agree bronchitus

is not a very big turn on. Second, don't put too much importance on the next girl, she's the rebound girl... it might not last because you'll be way too neurotic, bringing way too much baggage and expectations to the relationship. Third, the best place to meet someone are friend's dinner parties. People are not so guarded and there's mutual friend-validation factor. Third, it would be better if you could have a glass of wine, though... sort of loosen you up. If not, definitely don't smoke pot instead, its too anti-social.
Fourth, someone once said the art of seduction is making someone feel like the person they want to be. I buy that. I also buy that most folks are so busy talking, they don't listen. Good listening goes a long way.

You seem like a funny, sensitive interesting cat. Get back on the horse. So what if there's a little rejection. It's good practice. It builds character. Richard Pryor said "YOU AINT A MAN TILL YOU HAD YOUR HEART BROKEN ONCE" And I believe it. Get out there. Life is good.

[Gothic Sponge]

20. Ha! Thanks for the tips.

[NightTrain]

19. "Married" does not automatically mean "happy."

Why do you think the divorce rate in the U.S.A. is over 50%?

[Gothic Sponge]

21. I'm not looking to get married again.

Just want some companionship.

[NMDemDist2]

22. i get the "RID"s (restless irritable and discontents) as I get better

but aren't quite "well" yet

so you got a case of the RIDs tonight

an old movie will be good.

on another note, time to start joining... your local Dem Party, a bookclub, take bridge lessons whatever

it's ok to be shy in places like that, just be a good doobie and volunteer for jobs and before you know it VOILA! social life :)

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

23. Hey Goth

I am sorry to hear this. I agree with what people have said in this thread. Curl up under the covers, enjoy a good movie.....

This seems so silly, but when I am down sometimes it helps to find a REALLY good book I can really sink my teeth into and just lose myself in it. I hope that makes sense.

Shy AND cute AND available? Too bad you don't live around here! (Not for me, I am married, but I know a lot of great women who are in their 30s in similar situations...).

Hang in there, take it easy, ok?