Well, it happened god dammit, starting to fall for some female

[HEyHEY]

I figured we would just be friends, but we went out again tonight and I got the stupid little feeling that's gonna end up giving me a lot of headaches.
DAMN, this, I don't need.

AS well, even if I had the stugats to do anything, I'm already in the friend zone.

Must.....supress.....feeling.

[ewagner]

1. Or..........

I could be the best experience of your young life!!!!!

[LynzM]

2. ah yes....

The joy of being human.... :) I hope if it happens, things go well for you!

[The_Casual_Observer]

3. No such thing as "friends "

Never.

[Nikia]

34. There is

If there wasn't, bisexuals would really be screwing everyone, just like the homophobes would have you believe. In some friendships, both people fall for each other. In other friendships, only one falls for the other. If both these things can happen, it also means that sometimes neither one will fall for the other. In other friendships, both or either one fall for the other but use their brains. Just because two people are attracted to one another doesn't always mean that they will have a successful relationship. Sometimes people realize barriers to a relationship and focus their "love" into building a friendship because they know that it is the best realtionship that the two can have.
HeyHey, your fears and past history are not necessarily barriers to having a good relationship with this woman. By barriers, I mean if she were already in a relationship, if either of you had habits or did things that the other couldn't live with, or if you had much different things that you wanted to do with your lives.
Just see how things happen.

[2Design]

4. Just consider it practice for the real thing and take the pressure off

yourself. Have fun with her!

[shraby]

5. Don't worry,

it's not fatal.

[Gore1FL]

32. You obviously never met my ex wife!

Beleive me --- another two days -- it would have been fatal!

[Maple]

6. It may be

exactly what you need.

[HEyHEY]

7. History would argue that point with ya!

;-)

[The_Casual_Observer]

9. The other night you were broke

These two events are usually mutually exclusive!

[Maple]

10. You have been looking

for a purpose and direction in your life.

[LiveWire]

8. When talking about that special "feeling"...

Dont have a picture of polar bears looking like that...

[Nikia]

11. She may or may not develop feelings for you too

Not everyone has love at first sight or even after the first date type event together. IT may be true that my husband and I weren't really friends before we started dating. Before I met him, I did fall for a couple of friends though, after knowing them 3 months to a year. Depending on the type of person she is, your interest could make her more likely to fall for you or lead to a firm rejection. If you are both young and single, just have fun for now. After a few more months, you will be able to better determine if there is any hope for a partner type relationship between you too or if your relationship will continue as friends.

[lakemonster11]

12. my problem too

That's always been my problem. I'm never attracted to anyone unless we're already friends. I'd like to think that it shows my maturity (but I secretly fear it has more to do with insecurity).

It leads to a lot of frustration, and, once I get up the nerve to tell the guy, he looks so shocked. Usually I get "But---I hit on you six months ago and you totally blew me off!" Of course I did! I didn't know you!

And now of course I'm in the "friend zone" (and really quite bitter). Curses.

Please accept my sympathy. May you have more luck in this situation than I have.

[Shananigans]

17. My thing exactly!

I never end up liking people until I get to know them. By then it's just too late so I end up supressing it. Occasionally I have made comments about dating some of my guy friends, but usually by the time I do that it is (like I said) too late.

I think I need to start dating strangers.

[CanuckAmok]

13. You need to move to a smaller town.

No. Not really.

[JohnnyRingo]

19. Bullitt Rules...

At least that Mustang does:

[CanuckAmok]

21. I guess you missed my Mustang thread...

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=1606584

[JohnnyRingo]

24. I did miss it....Good for you.

As a "car guy"...I gotta say: Cool car!
I like the Mustangs over the 'Vettes.
Mustang styling gets better every year. I especially like those '05s.
I knew when I saw the concept car it would be a hit.

And now I have an excuse to post my TR6 (Summer's ending too soon):

[miss_kitty]

14. was this the one you were wondering about taking to the party...

in Vanc a week or so ago?

[CanuckAmok]

15. Take my advice (Borrowed from, I think, DemoTex)

Just save yourself some time, find yourself a woman you don't like, and buy her a house.

That's what I did!

[HEyHEY]

26. yup

At the time I really didn't feel anything for her, but tonight I just saw something else...I don't know

[miss_kitty]

33. i think you did! :)

you were pretty concerned about:
1) not hurting her feelings-you didn't want her to get the wrong idea
2) about what your friends thought.

You also spoke admiringly about her. i think because i was pretty new then, that i could see it...i don't know-i probably wasn't the only one though.

it sounds like you value her friendship. it can be a good basis for a strong-erm-something else.

[Nay]

16. Relax and enjoy, HeyHey. You're tying yourself up in knots

for no reason. If your heart gets stomped on, well, it gets easier the more it happens. Sad but true.

[amjsjc]

18. Hey, these things happen...

I hope that the feeling is mutual. Good luck.

[jpgray]

20. My brother has this problem

Every somewhat attractive girl that came into extended contact with him he fell for. Stranger girls he dismissed priggishly as stupid or ugly, depending on how attractive they were. Mostly it was just his own insecurity trying to puff its chest out at them. :D

[tarkus]

22. Try and cut off all contact with her. You will eventually forget her. NM

[Celeborn Skywalker]

23. Well, just see how things pan out

If there seems to be mutual attraction, then go for it.

[JackDragna]

25. NOT a good thing.

Take the advice of the person just a few posts above mine. Stop talking to her. Stop taking her calls. Cut her off, cold turkey, no questions, no excuses. You'll be a lot better off in life without giving more than half of your life away to a "better half."

JackDragna. Single, mean, judgemental and LOVING it!

[Tom Kitten]

27. I don't understand....

why are you trying to supress what could be love?

[HEyHEY]

28. Past experience

And my own chickenshitedness, have made me realize I'm more than likely going to live out my life alone. So, I have to get used to that. This isn't a sympathy thing, just my reality

[Tom Kitten]

31. ok I can relate to that...

in the great baseball game of love I have a lifetime average of .050...Struck out so many times, but once I hit a grand slam...unfortunately with her I made one error too many and I was released... been trying to find a job in the love department ever since but so so far it's been nothing but balks!

[Kenneth ken]

39. try a new theme song

I suggest this one:

Fearless Heart
(Steve Earle)
Don't you worry bout what you've been told
Cause honey I ain't even close to cold
It's kinda soon to fall in love again
But sometimes the best that you can do is just jump back in
I got me a fearless heart
Strong enough to get you through the scary part
It's been broken many times before
A fearless heart just comes back for more

Folks'll tell you that I'm just no good
But I wouldn't hurt you honey if I could
I can't promise this'll work out right
But it would kill me darlin' if we didn't even try

I admit I fall in love a lot
But I nearly always give it my best shot
I know you must think I'm the reckless kind
But I want a lady with a fearless heart just like mine


that's a good thing to get stuck in your head. But you also need to stop and assess your strengths and weaknesses. Glom on to the strengths and keep them in your head too; the weaknesses, are the things you should consider changing in your self. It isn't really hard, "chickenshittedness" just stop being that for today, and let your fearless heart rule the day.

Tomorrow, it will be today again, so today, let your fearless heart rule the day.

[roguevalley]

29. whatever you do, don't go to some fancy-schmancy restaurant and

get into a conversation about orgasms. 'K? :evilgrin:

[HEyHEY]

30. Mostly, we talk about work

She does the same thing as me, only she's way better at it

[Robb]

35. (giggles)

She does the same thing as me, only she's way better at it.

snarf. :D

[jackieforthedems]

38. Well

Maybe she's way better at alot of other things than you, too!;-) Maybe she can teach you some new tricks?! :evilgrin: It could be a match made in heaven.O8) You don't know 'til you try! :shrug: :hi: Good luck!

[UpsideDownFlag]

36. i happily have the same affliction.

heh.

[Mikimouse]

37. The most critically important question is this...

Does she know one end of a fly rod from the other? The second one is: Does she consider it primitive camping if there is only one shower for the entire campsite. The answer to question one should be a resounding yes, and the answer to nuber two should be a resounding NO, because she should be willing and happy to camp where there are NO amenities, and like it! Then, maybe, but only maybe, she might be a 'keeper'.

[SarahB]

40. The odd thing about all this stuff is....

whenever one thinks one has sufficiently become pragmatic enough to avoid all this emotional muck.... someone comes along who abso-fucking-lutely knocks your socks off, often at rather inconvenient times. The universe has a way of laughing at our best laid plans I think.

I hope it all works out for you. You're a good guy who deserves plenty of happiness. :hug: