My family makes me feel so single.

[Shananigans]

Seriously, like 90% of the time I love being single. I can come and go as I please, I do what I want and when I want, etc. etc. etc.

But tonight I went out with some of my close-in-age cousins, all who are married or engaged. It was all the couples in me. The entire time they spend talking about couple stuff, which is fine because it's very amusing, but it makes me feel so damn single.

It's definately fun to hang out with my family, they are awesome! But I can't help but feel like I should be engaged or already married.

Does anyone else ever feel like this? I swear they don't do it on purpose, but damn. *sigh*

[brainshrub]

1. I understand!

I'm 34 and I love being single most of the time. On holidays I have nothing to talk about with them b/c they talk about their kids and their marriages.

That kind of talk gets dull after two days.

[Shananigans]

2. Ugh...yes it does!

I have decided that I just need to ignore it for now. I'm still young. I have plenty of time! They are just missing out on the single fun right now!

[mykpart]

3. I was divorced at 27 and

didn't remarry until my 50s. I felt that way all the time with family. Also seemed that they all thought I had nothing to do since I was single. Or that I knew nothing about "adult stuff." I also used to feel that way at church activities. But don't feel bad. They probably envy your freedom even if they're happily married. And they probably feel dull and uninteresting compared to you. :)

[JackDragna]

4. Don't feel that way!

You've got a glorious freedom, a freedom only the single and curious of mind can have. While others talk about their "issues" with their spouses and argue over their relations and what drawer the spoons go in, you're out there going you own thing, exploring the world without the ball and chain that is another person. Maybe I wouldn't feel this way had I lived fifty years ago, but television and the "me-first-ism" of the 70's and 80's has produced a world of greedy, asocial, shallow knuckleheads. Why bother picking a mate from such a population? Remember, everyone you know or care about could be dead tomorrow. It would sure stink if it happened, but ultimately you have to be comfortable with yourself and who you are.

Don't let other people, be they mates, family, friends, etc, define who and what you are.

[HEyHEY]

5. yup

I see my sister and her husband playing with their nephew an dplanning to have their own kids and stuff, and I feel that way

[Dem2theMax]

6. I'm 48, never married and I'm SO happy I'm single.

I'm one of only two in the extended family who never married. So far. ;) I've never been bothered by the rest of the family being married and having kids. I've seen the divorces, I've seen the pregnancies before anyone was really ready to have kids.

I've always looked at it this way. IF you are lucky, you might live to be 80 years old. Or older. Why spend most of it married? I'd rather go half and half. OK, so I'm past the 'half' point now. But I doubt I'll be ready to marry till I'm in my mid-fifties, if ever. And I never wanted kids, so that's not a problem.

You just do what is right for YOU. And put anyone in your family who says otherwise on *ignore*. :) Enjoy the 'single' time. Because once you get married, there will be days when you wished you were still single. All my married girlfriends have said so. lol.