My stepfather just passed away

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

He was at Stage 3 Alzheimer's, and wasn't in good shape physically. He and my mother were married for 36 years. He loved wood carving and birdwatching. He was a hunter, but only for meat, not for trophies. He was a conservative, and he and I made a deal decades ago never to talk about Kent State. Mom has been really worried lately because health care costs were taking away their life savings. She's voting Kerry this November. I know my thoughts are scattered; forgive me. Even though one knows something like this is going to happen, it is still a shock when it does.

Thanks for listening....just writing this helps.

[NMDemDist2]

1. so sorry to hear of your and your mom's loss

:hug:

[MrScorpio]

2. My condolences to you and your family

You'll be in our thoughts and prayers

[Fovea]

3. Go, find your center, and then get it down somewhere

We, your community, are happy to listen.
Sorry for your loss.

[mirandaod]

4. How sad.

Such a terrible disease. Peace to you and the family.

[Nite Owl]

5. Sorry to hear of

your loss. Sending thoughts of peace and closure for you and your mom.

[IdaBriggs]

6. Sympathies to you and your family.

We will keep you in our prayers....:( Ida

[madrchsod]

7. sorry

hold your moms hand then give her a hug from all of us

[blondeatlast]

8. God has placed him in His loving embrace, safely and at peace.

Sending a prayer for your comfort, dear friend.

:hug:

[antigone382]

9. I'm very sorry for your loss

I know a thing or two about watching someone you love go slowly...it's tough, because you don't want their suffering to continue, but you don't want to lose them, either.

I know this is a painful time, but my thoughts and prayers will be with you.

:hug:

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

10. thanks to one and all

I know he is in the arms of the Beloved, and no longer suffering and in fear. I appreciate your kind words and prayers.

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

11. My sincere condolences

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Take care.

[ewagner]

12. So sorry for your loss

My Mother-in-law has been in a nursing facility for 12 years with Alzheimer's. She is almost in a vegitative state but her health is good......sometimes I wonder......

[Jokinomx]

13. My condolences...

None of us get out of here alive....He sounds like he was a good man...

:grouphug:

[ET Awful]

14. My condolences to you and the family :(

:hug:

[Barad Simith]

15. I know how you feel

Even though you know it's coming, you don't know how to react to it once it happens. I know what you're going through now, as my dad also passed away before his time. My thoughts are with you.

[deutsey]

16. My condolences

My stepfather is the only real dad I ever I had. When he passes (assuming it's before me) I will be terribly sad, despite any differences he and I have.

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

17. So sorry

My grandfather passed away in 95, and he too suffered from the effects of Alzheimer's. How I wished in the final moments of his life that he had remembered everything he had ever given to me.

:hug:

[Philostopher]

18. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

It's hard to lose your dad -- I lost mine before his time, too. No doubt you know this, and I'm not trying to be patronizing, but your mother will need you -- my parents had been together 47 years, my mother never even dated another guy seriously before they married. Take care and be there for her.

[NNadir]

19. I lost my mother almost 30 years ago; my father remarried, then died.

I dread the thought of losing my stepmother.

Condolences. You never can be ready for it.

[UrbScotty]

20. Oh darling...

My grandfather passed away rather suddenly in April. That was the saddest day in my life.

I offer my condolences.

:hug:

[July]

21. I'm sorry, ayeshahaqqiqa.

He sounds like an interesting man. It is almost impossible to "be prepared," even with warning (at least, that is my experience). I hope you will remember the things you're telling us about as you help your mother deal with her loss -- you seem to care about the man he was. You and your mother have my sympathy.

[bigwillq]

22. So sorry on the loss of your stepfather

My thoughts are with you and your family at this time.

Your stepfather seemed like a very interesting person.

[AmyDeLune]

23. Sympathies, Condolences,

and (((((HUGS))))):hug: :grouphug: :hug:

---Amy

[BigMcLargehuge]

24. I am sorry for your loss

take comfort in that his suffering with Alzheimers has ended.

[Soft Georgia]

25. my best thoughts and prayers for your mother and for you

May your mother have peace, and may you have strength to comfort her -- and find comfort for yourself.

[Gothic Sponge]

26. I'm very sorry.

[arwalden]

27. I'm Very Sorry To Hear The Sad News

My condolences to you and your family. I hope that you all can draw strength and comfort from each other.

Regards,
Allen

[johnnie]

28. I am so sorry to hear this

You and your family are in my thoughts.
My grandmother had that dreadful disease and was unable to comprehend anything for over 10 years. It was such a sad sight.
She died 3 years ago from it.
Please take care....
Johnnie

[Rhiannon12866]

29. I am so very sorry, both for you and your mother

He sounds like he was a very nice man and that you loved him a lot. I lost my own Dad, so my heart goes out to you. Keep in touch with DU. I wish that I had it when I lost both my Dad and my grandmother. People here are sympathetic and it does help to talk. You will be in my thoughts.:hug:

[tibbir]

30. I'm so sorry for you and your mother.

It seems to me that the great tragedy of Alzheimers is that you lose your loved ones and then they die too. You can never be prepared.

[Skittles]

31. I'm sorry, ayeshahaqqiqa

be good to yourself

[Nikia]

32. I am sorry

My condolences to you and your mother and other family. It is always tough to lose a loved one, but it sounds like he was suffering for quite a while. I don't know about your mother, but many people start the grieving process when their loved one has a debilitating, terminal illness. Regardless, be there for each other.

[Rhiannon12866]

33. I just hope that both you and your mother will be okay

Alzheimer's is the worst, and he probably left you long ago. My grandmother was terrified of getting Alzheimer's and even joined a support group, though she was the only one in it who was not caring for someone with the disease. When she hit 90, I told her that I thought she was pretty safe, from what I had read on the subject. She never got it, of course. I am sharing in your grief, since it was six years ago, today, that we had her funeral. September 13th was also her birthday. My thoughts are still with you. I understand, since I still really miss my Nana.;(

[MaryBear]

34. Even with Alzheimer's,

while they live, hope exists that they might somehow survive. And with death, the agony ends. Such mixed feelings must be going on within you. I'm so sorry he is finally gone from you.