What is the most insulting thing anyone has ever said to you?

[terrya]

My former roommate would tell me how stupid I was if I did something wrong.

[NMDemDist2]

1. Sunday I gave out cards about the PDB at the Outfoxed screening

with info on the Kerry campaign on the back

some woman told me if I was a Democrat and voted for Kerry I'd have "blood on my hands" because Kerry and the Dems are pro choice

The lady also said "You are killing babies"

:argh:

[MsConduct]

91. And you didn't shoot her? LOL n/t

[NMDemDist2]

103. what? and prove the hateful witch correct? heck no, I gave her a big

smile (1000 watts minimum) told her I'd never have an abortion and she didn't have to either :-) (esp since we were both in our 50's)

she left in a hurry

[MsConduct]

104. Good Answer...

Like my mom always told me, kill them with kindness.


Peace

[LiberalVoice]

2. Bad, Bad, Bad

I prefer concentrating on the good things I think about myself. Shame on you!













Now that I have succefully ruined your thread I will go sit in the corner, stare into a mirror, and gloat. :P

[eyesroll]

3. When I was a student teacher, I had a parent tell me on the phone

That I was an awful person, a terrible teacher, if he ever saw me or my cooperating teacher in public he'd punch us in the face, and he was going to call my college and have something so nasty put into my permanent record that I'd never get a job doing anything again. (I was too stunned to hang up immediately, but I did pretty quickly after that.)

This was in response to me calling him to let him know his kid hadn't been bothering to show up -- apparently, it's my responsibility to ensure his child goes to bed before 3 a.m. and arrives in my classroom on time.

Anyhow -- we called the police liaison officer because there was a threat of bodily harm, and eventually, the guy was not allowed to call teachers directly or be in the building without a security escort.

[MsConduct]

94. Now that's really scary n/t

[ScreamingMeemie]

4. After two late term pregnancy losses, when I found out I was again

expecting (my beloved James) my father in law said to me,"If you lose this one I'll kill you." That's about it. :hi:

[Bunny]

11. Are you serious? He said that? And he wasn't "joking"?

Do you still speak or even enter the same room as this man? :shrug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

83. He passed away four years ago leaving my husband holding a lot of

baggage. Suffice to say, he was a lost soul. I try to tell myself that he didn't mean it...but somehow it still hurts. :hi:

[Bunny]

96. Of course it hurt. Lost soul be damned.

I'm sorry that you and Mr. G went through that. That is a darn shame. :hug:

[mac56]

16. Oh, Mrs. G.

That's just plain evil.

I am so sorry.

[ScreamingMeemie]

98. Thanks mac!

On the upside, that pregnancy turned into a beautiful little boy! :hi:

He was a very confused man.

[rockymountaindem]

5. "If you're Jewish, you should die"

Said to me by some ass in the high school cafeteria about 6 years ago.

[Misunderestimator]

6. That's the most offensive thing anyone has ever said to you?

Wow... I can't even count the things that have been said to me... For starters:

"Hey you fucking dyke, why don't you come here and suck my..."

"You just haven't had the right man yet."

"You goddam fucking fag." (Yep, I was confused for a gay man once years ago when I lived in NYC, had just gotten a very short haircut)

And on and on and on. I guess most of the offensive things I remember were directed at my being gay. Interesting ... I never thought about that before.

[terrya]

10. Oh, I've gotten the word "faggot" hurled at me a lot.

I honestly don't know which is worse...being told you're "stupid" or having the word "faggot" applied to you.

[ronnykmarshall]

85. If someone called me a stupid faggot,

I'd say who you calling "stupid?"

[lapislzi]

7. My ex-husband called me a whore

in front of my daughter.

He also told me that he detested my laughter and hoped I would never laugh again.

Yup, that's it...

[dave123williams]

111. I hope you took his ass to the cleaners in the settlement.

[SarahB]

8. A former friend of mine said to me....

"Around here, only lowlife type of people have children as young as you did."
I had my daughter at 20. I married her father and thought I was doing the right thing at the time. The fact of the matter too was that I continued with my education and was more educated than the woman who said this to me. So I didn't backpack through Europe during my 20's like she did? Having to grow up and be responsible at a young age is hard and the aftermath of the sacrifices I made still affect my life to this day. She actually thought that what she was saying wasn't a big deal, but it was incredibly offensive and rude. I had little to do with her after that.

[Carson]

48. SarahBelle

What you described is almost exactly what I experienced. I had my son and married at the age of 21. I, too, thought I was doing the right thing. I was in college at the time and had to drop out for awhile, but eventually did finish.

The negative comments I received (mostly from those I considered good friends) vastly outweighed the positive. I lost many of those "friends" once I wasn't the "party girl".

My husband and I divorced three years later but I have a beautiful 9 year old son who kicks the sun out of bed each day for me.

It hasn't been the easiest life but I have never regretted having my son.

[SarahB]

54. I can relate to the friends thing.

After I had a child, they all pretty much dropped out of my life. My husband worked full-time and was in school part-time. I went back and forth between part-time work and school. My life was so isolated back then that I think I withdrew into a shell that I didn't quite come out of until a couple of years ago. Things got better once my husband was done with school eleven years ago and we had more children after, but largely going through the motions in life and never quite connecting with each other on a real level either. Lots of underlying things on a multitude of levels that he didn't want to deal with for many years, so I withdrew from him too. Now after 13 years of marriage, we're divorcing.

I love my children and they made me who I am in so many ways, but it's been a hard road at the same time. I tend to look young for my age. I had a woman say to me last week, "I bet you have had no stress in your life." I laugh.

[gpandas]

9. someone once asked me...

"are you a browns fan?" that's really insulting to us stillers.

[fudge stripe cookays]

12. My mother told me years ago....

during a fight....that she wished I'd choked on my umbilical cord.


And people wonder why I have issues with her.

[SarahB]

15. If you want to get into mothers, that a whole book.

I have a brother with a severe form of epilepsy (likely due to head trauma from abuse by a babysitter when he was a year old). He is profoundly mentally retarded because his seizure disorder was so severe during his early, crucial development. My mom used to say to me as a child that I was a terrible person who did not deserve my good brain and I should have been the one who has this, not him (amongst other verbal and emotional abuse). Yep, that stuff messes you up a bit. Worked a lot of it out in therapy a few years back.

[fudge stripe cookays]

18. Sorry to hear that Sarah. Glad you worked through it.

Yep, what is it about mothers that can completely screw people up so much?

reprehensor has the patience of a saint to put up with what he has from mine. She loves him-- it's me that sets her off. For a long time I never thought I'd find a man who could handle her as a mother-in-law.

She and I literally cannot be in the same city for longer than 2 to 3 days-- wed' rip each other's hair out by the roots.

I dated a lot of guys who absolutely could not handle my mother. rep took it like a pro, and still does-- even watching the juvenile shit she and I throw at each other.

After she threatened to kill me last year, all bets are off. I don't care if the bitch lives or dies anymore. Neither does my brother.

FSC

[Misunderestimator]

41. My mom once told me that she wished that her diaphragm had worked properly

[fudge stripe cookays]

43. Sounds like your mom

and my mom should go bowling.

Nice, huh?
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[sus]

13. one of many things my father said to me:

when i was 16, he screamed at me, "do you know who is out at 4am?!!! WHORES AND DRUG ADDICTS!!!"

nice guy.

[Surf Cowboy]

33. Although, admittedly, he had a point.

My father always used to say that "the only people out after 2:00 am are cops and drunks, and you ain't wearin' any badge..."

[ronnykmarshall]

87. In which I'd reply

Dad, I don't do DRUGS!!!

[Magrittes Pipe]

14. "The thought of kissing you makes me sick."

[ronnykmarshall]

90. Which you reply back ....

That's OK, because just LOOKING at you and my lunch is about to re-appear.

[Beware the Beast Man]

17. Any number of jokes, comments and quips concerning my weight.

Too many to count.

[pagerbear]

19. "You're too fat and ugly ever to have a girlfriend"

By my dad. When I was young and thought that was what I wanted.

[terrya]

21. God, that's horrible. I'm sorry I started this thread.

I didn't mean to dredge up ugly memories.

PS. You are most definitely NOT ugly or fat. Not by any stretch of the imagination.

[pagerbear]

22. Thanks Terry

I've been working on that episode for years and years in therapy. Gotten past it for the most part, but hearing that combination of epithets applied to anything brings it back.

[terrya]

26. I'll be careful using those words here.

I shouldn't use them at all, actually.

:hug:

[pagerbear]

30. "Fat" is a perfectly valid adjective

...and the word in itself does not hurt me. I have no qualms about stating I was fat and am still a little fat. When you take away the hurtful energy, the word ceases to hurt.

"Ugly", however, is a judgment that I prefer not to apply to people.

[sus]

46. you are most certainly NOT fat and ugly.

p.s. you have a very nice smile.

:)

in my opinion, it's easier to shake physical abuse than mental. i remember stuff my dad said to me all the way back to age five. i certainly remember the physical, but the effects don't linger as much. (for me, that is.)

[Lavender Brown]

20. Someone once made fun of my parents' accents to my face

:mad:

[AngryAmish]

61. I found my parent's accents to be perfect font of humor

They really are/were funny.

[Lavender Brown]

62. They can be funny

but this comment was along the lines of, "Your mom's accent makes her sound like a retard." :(

[AngryAmish]

64. Fair enough

My mockery was done in love.

[liontamer]

23. excluding things said by mothers

Someone once asked me why girls from africa are so ugly. This same guy later asked me to the prom in all seriousness.
:wtf:

[redqueen]

35. What an idiot.

Yeah, that Iman... what an eyesore.

:eyes:

[fudge stripe cookays]

44. And don't forget Sade,

obviously one of the most beautiful women alive.

[trigz]

24. "You fucking commie jew motherfucker, I'm gonna kill you", as said by

a neo nazi immediately before attacking me, while I was helping out in the election campaign of the socialist party ten years ago (I'm not even jewish, but hey!) Unfortunately for him, he didn't know that I'd been doing martial arts, and went home with a fractured elbow and nose. I just loved it!

[YellowRubberDuckie]

25. My mom constantly comments about my weight.

"Those shorts make your legs look fat."
"That shirt makes your boobs look saggy."
"Why are you going out looking like Orca?"
And she's pissed at me that I'm still here and my sister isn't.
"Why couldn't it have been you instead of your sister. It's such a shame she had to die during her third trimester."
"Why don't you ever want to talk about your sister with me?" She asks as she's drunk.
I could go on, but I have to go get ready for class.
Duckie

[redqueen]

36. Sweet Jesus

:hug:

[Lady Effingbroke]

27. This is more humorous than insulting.

I was buying beer at my local grocery store about a year ago, and, since the beer was my only purchase, I decided to use the U-Scan registers. When you scan any alcoholic product, these registers 'lock up', and you can't complete the transaction until you show your ID to the employee who is helping customers figure out how to use the registers. I had my back to the store employee when my ID was requested, so she asked to see my ID. When I turned around and looked at her she said..."Oh, never mind. You just look young from the back." :crazy: :silly: She still works at the store, and I still joke around with her about what she said whenever I see her.

Lady Effingbroke aka ~Fangula~

:beer: :toast:

[pagerbear]

28. Another one

I started giving a friend rides home from late rehearsals, and his lover started began to suspect something more than transportation was occurring. (It wasn't.) My best friend suggested I should be flattered, implying that it's a surprise someone should think this very handsome man would want more than a ride from me.

[redqueen]

37. That's your best friend?

Ouch!

What... are the people around you blind or something? I think you're very cute!

[pagerbear]

42. I should keep posting things like this

...if it gets me compliments every time!

He was my best friend at the time. We're both older and wiser, and I don't think he'd say something that thoughtless now.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

102. You are a very handsome guy..

You have a great smile.
Duckie

[ProfessorGAC]

29. Someone Asked Me If I Was A Conservative

Man, that hurt.
The Professor

[Dookus]

31. Somebody once told me

I was talkin' outta my ass.

[ronnykmarshall]

93. Tell them ..

to stick their face near your ass and listen closer.

[Commendatori]

32. Someone asked me if I was a Cowboys fan

This thread looked a little too serious, so I thought I'd lighten it up a little :)

[redqueen]

34. "I don't want to be with a freak"

I was bemoaning my thinning hair - didn't yet know my thyroid was broken.

Oh oh oh... wait... that doesn't top my dad... when I was a teen... he thought it would b helpful to tell me why I had to help him fix cars and my sisters didn't. "They're pretty, they'll find a guy to help them. You need to know this."

[Misunderestimator]

45. Yikes.... my dad said a similar thing to me once...

I was one of those lanky, nerdy, shy types growing up and my older sister was Miss Popularity. Yep, SHE never changed a tire or oil. In the end though... I'm glad I did.

[redqueen]

47. Well to be honest, that was kind of the silver lining

I can do minor maintenance with no trouble (even some not so minor).

That stuff still messes with my head, though. It was routine --intentional conditioning -- I'm sure I've blocked out the worst (thank God).

[SarahB]

51. You know you're gorgeous though I hope?

I used to get this from my mom as well: "Sorry you look more like your father with that stocky build and didn't get my looks instead." My "stocky build" basically consists of larger breasts and less skinny legs, but I'm hardly all that "stocky" either. I didn't have any sisters, but she gave it to me instead.
My father never did though. He still tells me I'm beautiful. I don't have a great relationship with him because he isn't able to get close with anyone really, but he's never been blatantly mean or hurtful like that. Probably why I can get closer to men more easily than women. My early experiences were that women were cold or cruel and men were kind and nurturing. I probably did a lot of overcompensating with my own children to be this extra-nurturing mom, ignoring a lot of my needs for a long time because of how she was.

[redqueen]

55. To be honest, not really

Which is kind of why I do that stuff I do over there.

I think your build looks wonderful. :)

[SarahB]

71. Well, you are!

People in our pasts (and I'm including our pasts as adults as well) put us through things at times making us doubt ourselves when it is often their own problems more than anything to do with us. Stay strong! :hug:

And thank you! :)

[redqueen]

73. Thank you!

:hug:

[Rambis]

38. Ya ,Mike said you had gained a lot of weight

I saw a friend of mine's parents at a football game and his mother said that to me.

[Brewman_Jax]

39. "Are you from here?" as in the US

Just because I'm a soccer-playing black guy. To make matters worse, I don't speak with a foreign accent.

Americans come in all different skin tones.

[arwalden]

40. I wouldn't suck your lousy dick if I was suffocating and there was oxygen

TAFFY: "I wouldn't suck your lousy dick if I was suffocating and there was oxygen in your balls!"

[ronnykmarshall]

95. Writin' a book, hippy?

Why don't you go listen to some folk music and give me a break!

[arwalden]

114. It's HARD being a loving mother!

I've DONE everything a mother can do... I've locked her in her room... I've beat her with the car aerial... Nothing changes her! It's HARD being a loving mother!

[ronnykmarshall]

116. Get your hair done, you'll feel better.

[Aristus]

49. I was reading in the lunch room at work, and one of the others,

who fancied herself a reader, asked me: "Have you read the 'Left Behind' series?" I told her I tried, but it wasn't my cup of tea. She responded indignantly: "Well, it'll be EVERYBODY'S cup of tea someday!"

:eyes:

I burst my pimples at her and farted in her general direction.

[tigereye]

58. Gosh I certainly hope that isn't true!

Think of all the good books she's missing, too. Sigh.

Like they should feel proud about being "holier than thou." Sounds pretty unChristian to me.

[Jokerman]

50. "Teach me everything you know about computers in the next hour"

Actually had a client say this to me. She apparently didn't see anything insulting in asking this of a person with advanced network certifications.

[Phillycat]

52. This thread makes me sad.

I hope everyone who reads it will remember how powerful their words can be (especially with their children) and choose them with care. I certainly hope someone will not be quoting something I said 20 years from now as an example like this. I think I will ask for guidance and patience before I open my mouth.

[Carson]

56. Well said, Janesez...

That old adage about "sticks and stones" isn't really true. Words DO hurt.

[Phillycat]

63. I agree.

I don't have children yet, but I hope I remember this thread when I do have them, and I hope I remember that my child will take to heart everything I say in anger, or just off-the-cuff without thinking it through first. Granted, some of the things on this thread are just over-the-top cruel, but some also seem completely thoughtless. Like the person saying them just didn't THINK how much of an impact their words would have. So sad, and a lifetime of sadness for the recipients of those angry words. :(

[truthspeaker]

53. "You're technically a Christian."

People have probably said more offensive things to me, but I can't remember any right now. Stuff from my parents was always much more subtle.

[Heddi]

57. Most of mine have to do with weight

and most of them (not all) were from I'm sure well-meaning family members who never had to deal with a chubby girl before.

Things like

"Oh you'd be so pretty if you'd just lose a little weight"

"Your face is so pretty, and would be even prettier if you were skinnier"

"Oh honey don't wear that dress. no one wants to see your belly roll"

blah.

And then, of course, there's the assumption that anyone who is overweight (fat, tubby, chubby, voluptious, curvy, rubenesque, etc) MUST be on a diet or trying to loose weight because EVERY TIME I SEE FAMILY MEMBERS (either my own or in-laws), I get:

Oh heather! You've lost so much weight!
Oh you look so good since you've lost weight

But the funny thing is--I haven't lost any weight in the past 7 years. I've steadily put on weight and now weigh more than I ever have in my life. I find it interesting that because I'm fat, I *MUST* be unhappy with my weight and I *MUST* be trying to diet and obviously failing, but they must make me feel good with the empty "you look so skinny" comments. That really chapps my ass. I wonder if whenever they see a balding family member if they say "Oh! It looks like you've grown a few extra hairs since I last saw you"?

My sister-in-law was constantly making comments about how much weight I'd lost (when I hadn't) during a time when i was putting on the pounds at a rapid clip and was really distressed about it. I finally got fed up with it and this was the exchange

Her: Oh heather! Wow. You look great! You've really lost alot of weight since I last saw you (the last time she saw me was a month prior, and in that month I had gained at least 10 lbs)

Me: Oh that's odd, Audrey, because I haven't lost any weight at all. In fact, I've put on 10 lbs since I've last seen you. I can't fit into my old clothes anymore and just had to spend $100 to get new clothes.

Her: Well, you look skinner than you did, even if you're not

Me: Well, you look less rude than you are, even if you're not.

---

I didn't want to be rude, but she's a very "Apperance is everything" person. When I got married, my wedding dress was a thin-strapped, empire-waisted gown. She asked if I was going to wear a shawl or drape over my shoulders---Hell no! It was 98 degrees outside. She said that was too bad because my arms were really fat and it would be a shame if I looked back with regret whenever I saw my wedding pictures and wished I'd wore something to cover them up :(

You know---I'd seen myself in the dress many times before my wedding day. I know what the strong points of my body are, and what the weak points are, and I do have fat arms (fuckin aye--my whole body is fat) but I never thought that I looked 'bad' or "ugly" in my dress, but she planted that seed in my head and now I *CANNOT* look at my wedding pictures without thinking how awful I looked. And I can honestly say that I wouldn't have thought that if she in her asshole "I'm only trying to help the poor fat girl" way hadn't brought it up. :(

[zanana]

59. "You're a weak person".

Said to me by my brother, many years ago. It changed my opinion of him forever.

[Aristus]

60. My brother once called me "Socially retarded".

That was a long time ago, too. We are much closer nowadays. He's a terrific brother. God is good.

[skippysmom]

65. "No one will ever love you"

Written in a letter to me by my best friend's asshole boyfriend. She and I were fighting at the time and that was his idea of defending her. Thankfully, she dumped the guy and we made up.

[liontamer]

67. my mom has said that to me on many occasions

[AntiCoup2K4]

66. A few years ago, my friend's mom actually said....

...that when she first met me, she thought I was a Republican! :puke:

[HarveyBriggs]

68. "We ought to hang you right here, nigger boy."

1962, in the south. I was seven years old.

I was suspected of "passing" in an all-white segregated school. Dragged out of class, punched repeatedly as I cried in terror, locked in a janitor's closet with a bucket of fetid vomit, then after an interminable wait in that dark, smelly closet, I was threatened with lynching by the principal, a local preacher, the accusing teacher and two sherriff's deputies.

I will never forget that living hell as long as I live.

For you southerners, who constantly argue that the south is "not that way," you can protest all you want. Where were you that day? Where were your protests afterward?

In 1974, at a Dunkin' Donuts in the south, I was refused service because, "No matter what you Yankees think, we still don't have to serve niggers down here."

In 1982, again in the south I was told, "You Yankees may have Blacks or African Americans up North, but down here, we got niggers. Niggers, you hear?"

In 1986, after presenting an ad campaign that included B.B. King to the board of directors of a major manufacturing corporation I heard, "Why B.B. King is a nigger! We can't have no niggers in our commercials! Why, what would our dealers and customers in Raleigh, North Carolina think about us?"

Those are just a few of the lowlights of the insults I hear every time I make it south of the Mason-Dixon line.

From Cracker Barrel to Denny's to Waffle House, to Texaco, and inside every state that flies the remanants of the stars and bars, I know you have not changed one bit. The worst offenders are the ones who swear there is no problem and turn their eyes away.

I am a direct descendant of an Ohio abolutinist who married an escaped slave he met while working on the Underground Railroad. I'm proud of my heritage. I walk easily in both the worlds of black and white.

I know there is no grey area. I know southerners lie through their teeth when they say they are no longer that way -- because I've seen it so often. From my face to my tail end, I've run out of cheecks to turn.


Harvey Briggs

[Iris]

70. Wow.

That's horrible. I wish saying "I'm sorry" could make things better, but . . .

Didn't Burger King recently go through some kind of lawsuit because of racial slurs made in upper management? Several in my area have closed up shop.

[redqueen]

72. Yeah... 'no longer' that way my rear end

Thank you for sharing that... people need to know that although there are many who aren't that way, there are still far more than there should be. Germs die in sunlight... thanks for pulling back the curtains a bit.

[mark414]

92. "it's heritage not hate!"

a cousin of mine just moved to north carolina and he told me that's all he ever hears

get over yourselves motherfuckers, the south lost and the war is long over

idiots

[fudge stripe cookays]

117. Harvey, I'm so sorry.

This kind of shit makes me ashamed to be white. I can't believe the amount of hate and ignorance these people still carry.

You have my abject apologies for the behavior of these people. Even though I can't speak for them, I feel that I must.

There are good people in the south (Texas being a contrast between loving, liberal folks and the assholes in Jasper who dragged a man to death)

I recently read "We are Not Afraid," about Goodman, Schwerner & Cheney, and parts of it really made me physically ill. The fact that my mother tried to raise me to be like these bigoted sons of bitches makes me just as nauseated.

Thank God for a liberal arts college, where I was exposed to a rich multicultural environment.

For everything you've gone through, I applaud you.
FSC

[lapislzi]

69. Oh, I have to change mine...I just thought of a better one

In fact, it would work as a best/worst.

A former co-worker who I am convinced is actually from another planet said to me, "Ginny, you're so beautiful. Have you ever considered going on a diet to lose weight?"

My response was: "What? There's something I can do about my weight? Who knew?!"

[rene moon]

74. There's been many

I guess I am a magnet for this sort of thing. But the one thing that always gets me is, "You are preventing me from meeting hot women", said to me by my now ex-boyfriend. I never thought I was pretty and this comment cemented it for me. Sad.

[davsand]

75. No other man will ever love you like I do...

...and these people are NOT your friends.

It was my 21st birthday and we were at a surprise party planned by "those" people. Funny thing--within a couple of months HE was stalking me and 23 years later "those people" are still my friends.

Laura

[Droopy]

76. Somebody told me to "shut the fuck up" once

And it happened right here on this board. I don't think he would have said that to me in person. It's really a pretty cowardly thing to say such things on a message board.

[Merrick]

77. I mumble at times and my roomate once said in front of a couple people...

"Mumble, mumble, mumble. My name is Merrick and nobody can understand a fucking thing I say!"

it was pretty hilarious, actually. We're not roomates anymore but we still reenact it quite often.

[Nikia]

78. My stepfather said that I had no friends

The friends that I had either pitied me or were losers who were using me. He further said that no man would ever want to marry me so I should look into being a nun (not that there's anything wrong with being a nun). He also said that I would never survive in the "real world." My sister and I had to do all the house and lawn work perfectly because we were worthless and a drain to the household and just got in the way.
Of course, when I decided to move in with my dad, my mother said that I was obligated to stay with her because I ruined her life by being born.

[Butterflies]

79. "I hope you die! I hope you die!" - my mother

She hated me. She said hundreds of nasty things over the years, but that one sticks out in my mind.

[truthbetold]

80. Not insulting as much as devastatingly hurtful.

I was told by the man I was madly in love with and planning to marry one day, that he "did not feel romantic love toward (me) anymore". Ouch. Felt like my heart had been torn right out.
Heh, can you tell I'm still not over him?

[BluePatriot]

81. "Silly girl!" *head pat* UGH! i hate that! (nt)

[demnan]

82. A co-worker told me when I lost weight -

"You don't waddle any more when you walk, and you actually have cheekbones."

God save me from compliments.

[ronnykmarshall]

84. With the exception of my abusive ex's crap ...

I was talking to this guy on the phone that I met (and made out with) at a club, and he asked me what I did for a living. He replied, "oh I plan on being MUCH more sucessful when I'm YOUR age".

Needless to I never saw the little fucker again.

[devilgrrl]

86. Jesus... where would I begin?

I have had people tell me that I'd never get into art school and that I wasn't good enough to be an illustrator.

I've been told by teachers and guidance counselors that my only hope in life would be flipping burgers.

I've heard so many disparaging comments made about my looks that I'll never have the confidence to even date.

etc...

[MsConduct]

88. This jackass I used to work with

once told me "you are somewhat intelligent." I asked him how intelligent did he think he sounded making that statement. He did
a lot of tap dancing and a** kissing the rest of the week. LOL

Peace

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

89. My mother accused me

when I was 16, of being my stepfather's "wifey" and wanting to see him naked.

Yes, she was and is insane. No, there was nothing untoward my stepfather was doing, EVER. We were both horrified by her comments and she kept making them over and over and over.

She has Borderline Personality Disorder, Schizo-Affective Disorder and is bi-polar. Among other things. And unmedicated.

But WOW that hurt more than anything anyone's ever said to me. My own mother.

Oh geez, I am remembering more. She also said it was too bad I was born a few years before abortion was legal.

And she called me a slut when I was 16, as well.

And my favorite uncle in the WHOLE world made a dig about my weight two years after my daughter was born. He said, "You'd think you would have lost that weight by now." Well I HAVE NOW UNCLE GLENN! WHAT you think about THAT? That one reallllly hurt because of how much I genuinely loved and admired him. Why would he say something like that?

[AlFrankenFan]

97. Being a Jew, a female and a liberal...

I've gotten my share.

My father, after helping my brother beat me at chess, said this upon seeing my fury "Well, you better get used to it, because boys will be beating you at everything the rest of your life." I was 13 at the time. Yeah, he's a fuck.

I've been called things like "dirty Jew", "Christ killer", etc...by many ignorant hicks I went to school with in Colorado. I've also had to publicly defend my Jew-ness when a kid in my band class called a kid a "Jew" when he wouldn't come into Jazz Band rehearsal to say hi. I screamed, "EXCUSE ME, BUT THERE'S A JEW IN THE ROOM!" at him, and everyone thought it was a joke. My music teacher to this day, well, at least last time I saw him, is very sorry for this happening. Amazing that a Catholic Republican would jump to my defense!

Concerning my liberal-ness, my father has called me (along with Zinn, since I was reading his book) a left-wing socialist/communist. He's also called me the "welfare princess" when I jumped to Paul Wellstone's defense when Rush was bashing him.

And to think I'm only 14. :eyes: Jesus y'all, have some dignity!

[JohnKleeb]

99. anti semtism is still around jeez

Fuckheads!, well this wasnt directly thrown at me but I took offense to people bashing Catholics, I was like hey now I am Catholic. But the most insulting thing ever, I really dont have a clue.

[AlFrankenFan]

101. If you think that's bad, picture this:

A little Jewish girl trying to befriend a Christian girl, only to hear, "I can't play with you 'cause you're going to hell."

I HATE HOW KIDS CAN'T THINK FOR THEMSELVES!

That gives me an idea for a thread...

[Dastard Stepchild]

100. I am a former chubby child...

So, basically the whole of 1975-1991 was an exercise in sheer trauma and humiliation. Still can't walk past a group of 13 year old boys without getting heart palpitations.

[SheWhoMustBeObeyed]

105. "I figured you were really talented because they just don't hire

fat people here."

The woman who said it was really drunk and started apologizing immediately. I laughed. It was more a backhanded compliment than an insult.

At that same job I had a boss who would sift through my work, dropping the papers on the floor and drawling, "I dunno, I just don't think this is very good work, do you?" Right, bitch. I handed it in because I didn't think it was very good. The capper was, she would turn it in behind my back and take credit for it. :mad:

[ofrfxsk]

106. At 15 and after a suicide attempt that left me in the ICU for 3 weeks

I had a heart to heart with my loonie aunt who was closer to me than my crazy parents but still far removed from my every day existence.

Depressed and ashamed after I started to recover I said, "I feel like such a loser." Her response, "Well, ya kinda are."

Edited to say: I hate that woman to this day and it's been almost 19 years.

[Bossy Monkey]

107. I'm thrilled to report that I no longer remember it

Turns out that premature senility is good for something. :)

[last_texas_dem]

108. Hmm, here's a few...

In high school a girl I had gone to school with since Elementary accused me of having my mom help me write a paper for our English class since she was an English teacher. Sure, maybe not that big a deal... but it was to me since I'm actually a pretty good writer (not sure if that's all that apparent from my posts here but my writing ability is one of my few abilities I take much pride in) and I just found it pretty damn insulting.

A cop once asked me if I was "Taliban" when I said I didn't support Shrub. This pissed me off and got me fired up more than insulted me, though...

Got plenty of good put-downs when I was young: "ugly buck-toothed motherfucker" was probably the most insulting.

One of my best friends really shocked me when he told me that I "never took responsibility for anything" when we were in high school, only because he was/is one of the most irresponsible people I know, despite being a pretty good guy in other ways.

Breaking up with me, my girlfriend of two years told me we couldn't be together anymore because she was no longer physically attracted to me and that being "intimate" with me would be like being with her brother. I remember literally responding to her that she had just broken my heart. As cliched as that sounds, I think she did. I've honestly never recovered from that relationship. I'm 21 and haven't dated in two years.

Well damn, this is a downer of a thread...

[devilgrrl]

109. My hair is very curly...

up until my early 30's I wore it short - I never thought I could grow it out :shrug: it looked like an afro. I used to jokingly refer to it as a 'glo as opposed to a 'fro because of my anglo-"glo"-saxon ancestry. :+

However, throughout my youth I was asked if I stuck my finger in a light socket, called a "White Nigger", a "Jungle Bunny", a "ragamuffin" and a few other vicious racial slurs... :evilfrown: These were not rare occurrences either - there were a few assholes who spewed this shit at me throughout elementary and Jr. high school!!!!! :cry:

Then, everyone wonders why I'm such a feisty bitch... :wtf:

If people could know how much rage I feel when I hear the "N" word or see derogatory behavior towards Black people... :grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr::grr:.

[dave123williams]

110. After the suicide of a friend...

After the suicide of a friend (Jewish) a Bible-thumper, shiny, happy Christian jackass said, 'It's really so sad. Because she's burning in hell.'

We Jews, you see, don't truck with the whole concept of heaven and hell - it's more like degrees of closeness to the Divine. Pretty fucking insulting; not sure if the ignorance of our religion or the callousness of the remark was what pissed me off more. I'm getting pissed just thinking of it right now.

[steely]

112. "Insults - I've had a few"

but rather it's been the things that people did that really bugged me.

On the other hand tho', my motherinlaw has a syrupy way of delivering a nasty shot. I wouldn't wish her harm, but I can't stand her. I've all but stopped going to her house. But I digress.

[Qanisqineq]

113. "you look like a nazi"

just because I am blonde, blue-eyed, and fair-skinned (100% Scandinavian). I was appalled.

[DelawareValleyDem]

115. You look like

a Bush supporter, care to make a donation to the Republican party?