I'm bad at keeping friends

[AlFrankenFan]

Part of it may be because I've never been able to keep a steady friendship with anyone because I used to move...a lot, and so I just kind of gave up on it and was anti-social until I've moved to OC. Now I've been here for three years and I've lost several friends because well, it turned out they weren't as friendly as I thought, and with my no-tolerance policy, I decided what they did was unforgivable, and if I forgave them, it would only happen again. Besides, we weren't even "in" to the same stuff - I generally don't care how I look and they were into make-up and clothing and such.

Now because of an odd grudge I have I think I'm going to lose another friend. It's more with an ex-friend that I hate but should I hate this friend because it's hanging out with this other friend...oh Jesus listen to me.

Friendship can be overrated. Let's just say I'm a jealous asswipe for reasons I don't even understand :-(

[loveable liberal]

1. dont let others control your emotions.

Only you control them. If someone else is an a/hole. let them know. its refreshing. but always be honest. People cant make you mad, people cant make you hate them. you are in charge of you.

[AlFrankenFan]

4. see that's the problem, i'm usually very honest but

something about this person just makes me not want to say the truth to it's face. but i have before hinted...but when it took a stab at it it didn't care. if i'm babbling please tell me hehe

[Meshuga]

2. no-tolerance is good!

It is better to be alone than with people you dislike.

[AlFrankenFan]

5. that's a good point n/t

[oldhat]

3. Poor you.

It's a good policy in life to be totally self-obsessed and have a "zero-tolerance policy" when socializing with other human beings. After all, people are robots and one should expect your friends to heap affection and praise on you all the time. Otherwise, it is safe to assume they are scheming and plotting against you. There can be no other explanation. The world revolves around you.

If you percieve a mere slight against you, immediately dump them as friends. That's a healthy way to live.

You are unique, a perfect little snowflake. Damn everyone to hell who doesn't understand that.

[AlFrankenFan]

6. believe me I know the world doesn't revolve around me

and the only reason i got rid of my other friends was because they were making relentless fun of me and taunting me, being a jew, with chants of "THE KKK!" and stupid things like that. it's just i went into this whole trust phase when I learned I couldn't even trust my dad after he stole my stuff from me and lied.

[mark414]

7. i'm too cynical to make friends

after taking some time off after high school i just started college this year...and i'm so cynical that i hate everyone and don't try to talk to anyone

[AlFrankenFan]

8. i'm beginning to be like that

it's mostly because family problems put me in a depressed mood...and knowing none of it will get better or go away makes me have such a MARVELOUS outlook on everything.

[mark414]

9. idiot problems did it for me

that is, being surrounded by idiots in high school

so now i feel like pretty much anyone and everyone is also an idiot

did i mention i'm also really judgemental?

[oldhat]

10. I don't think you're old enough to be cynical

80 year old Hungarian women who saw their country and themselves raped by the Nazis and then the Soviets get to be "cynical."

I think you qualify as a "whiny, dissatisfied teenager."

[mark414]

11. oh..thanks

i guess your whole outlook on life completely changes when some complete stranger who knows absolutely nothing about you nor has ever even met tells you what to think of yourself

you don't know a goddamn thing about me. how dare you presume to judge me or how i think or feel.

go fuck yourself

[oldhat]

12. Heh

You just dismissed vast swaths of complete strangers whom you know nothing about as "idiots" and you're tsk-tsking me about "judging" you without knowing you? You're hilarious.

I'm sorry, you're not a "whiny, dissatisified teenager." You're a "completely run of the mill, whiny, dissatisfied teenager."

There are armies of your clones hanging out at the mall. Pick up a carton of your fake ass world-weary "cynicism" at CostCo while you're there.

[mark414]

14. self righteous prick

for one, i'm not a teenager

second, i admitted that i had a problem with judgement and i'm working to correct it. my cynicism gets in the way of that, and i have much bigger reasons for being cynical than idiots in high school.

i say it again, go fuck yourself.

[oldhat]

16. Much bigger reasons?

Like what? Anything short of you being the reincarnated ghost of JonBenet Ramsey or that Iraqi kid who got his arms blown off merits a giant "shut the fuck up."

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[oldhat]

19. LMAO

fuck you for being brazen enough to question me

Heavens to Betsy!

I'm writing a letter to my Congressman to support the Constitutional Amendment to Protect the Sanctity of You.

[mark414]

20. just back off, alright?

i've had to deal with too many assholes in my life and now that everything is starting to come together i don't want to deal with any more. my experiences have left me emotional volatile and that's why i snapped on you. but you had no right to write off and laugh at what were and still are very real and very serious problems that i've dealt with in my life. i'm not looking for sympathy or anything, if i was i'd be going around telling everyone what they were. no, i'm just asking you not to assume things about me.

[oldhat]

13. Dupe

[LiberalManiacfromOC]

15. Who is that?

Because if it's me, I appologize for talking with Amy. I didn't mean to offend you :)

[AlFrankenFan]

17. you shouldn't have to apologize for talking with her

i'm just an asshole with a weird mental problem or something for not wanting you to talk to her for some reason because i can't forgive people and whatnot...sometimes i hate myself too much x(

[rasputin1952]

21. I am locking this thread....

It has become a bit of a flamefest.

Thank you for your understanding.