Any Other DU Loners?

[B. P. R. D.]

I have been postponing this topic, but what the hell. Who here considers themselves to be a loner? I have read that to be a loner you must choose to be alone and greatly enjoy it. I get lonely and feel alienated sometimes, so I don't think I fit this category completely. That is about it, post away.

[NightTrain]

1. Ooo! Ooo-ooo! Ooo!

I am one major, big-time loner. As far back as I can remember, I've spent significant amounts of time by myself--not just hours, but days, weeks, and even months. And it rarely has bothered me. I would much rather be alone than with the vast majority of people that I encounter.

[B. P. R. D.]

3. It Would Have Been Ironic If No One Replied.

So thank you.

[Ladyhawk]

55. I'm a loner out of necessity.

Most people aren't worth knowing. I go through periods when I'm upset about this fact, then I realize there isn't a damn thing I can do about it and go back to being a loner. I'm happier when I can get away from people.

[AlFrankenFan]

2. Hear, hear!

Gawd knows I am. I push away people who try to get too close too. I guess that's why my friendships don't last long. I don't even mean to, it's just I prefer being alone.

[short bus president]

4. "Neither a loner nor a borrower be."

Or something like that, right? Shit, I dunno. If you drink enough you don't much notice the people around you.

[Kenneth ken]

42. oooh - dolo is going to SLAP you

as soon as she notices you :P

[ogradda]

5. i always like to be alone

used to feel guilty about it finally just accepted that's the way i am

[Ready4Change]

6. I am! So's my wife!

I mean that, really. We both love being alone. We're together because we found we like being with each other just as much, and for us that's about the best compliment we can give each other.

We aren't anti-social at all.We have and go to parties, etc. But we have no problem at all being by ourselves, with or without each other.

[ofrfxsk]

7. Massive hermit here

I could go days, weeks and months without speaking to another person and it does not bother me. My SO thinks that is insane and goes to great lengths to lure me out to dinner or family gatherings. I'm always bored and just want to go back to my "cave" with my animals and books for company.

My goal is to have some property in the woods somewhere and continue my business online so I don't have to deal with people face to face. They annoy me.
Is that weird?

[jdj]

15. jeebus h.,

I'm not the only one?

"My goal is to have some property in the woods somewhere and continue my business online so I don't have to deal with people face to face. They annoy me.
Is that weird?"

If it is then I'm weird, too.

[jonnyblitz]

8. I am an extroverted loner. I prefer time to myself BUT

when out in a crowd I am hardly a wallflower, I work a room quite nicely and I am NOT shy. For my time in solitude I do lots of reading , movie watching, and thinking and I don't like to be disturbed by others. I am one of those people who doesn't think twice about going to a movie alone.

[Skittles]

43. that's me too, jonny

nt

[July]

57. Me, too.

Have fun with people, have fun alone.

Need my alone time, though, and don't need to go out much.

[XanaDUer]

9. Me.

Big time. Even arranged to work from home.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

10. This is the definition I heard

Extroverts, after being around people, feel energized.

Introverts get their energy boosts from periodically being ALONE.

It doesn't mean introverts hate being around people or extroverts avoid being alone, but it is in what energizes each person.

I do just fine with a crowd, a party, giving a speech, etc, but I know I am an introvert at heart because I am refreshed and energized by time alone.

[JohnKleeb]

11. you got that from Meyers-Briggs

That said, I know I am an Introvert, yet I like being around people and truly wish I was more extroverted.

[yardwork]

32. I'm just the opposite!

I feel energized after being with people, but I wish I were energized by being alone, because I figure I would accomplish more.

[MercutioATC]

12. I'm more energized being extroverted at a gathering, but

I'm more COMFORTABLE being introverted at home.

Am I an introvert or an extrovert?

[July]

58. Never heard this before, but it makes sense to me.

I feel overcharged after being with people, even if I've had fun. Like you, I can enjoy a party, stand up and talk before a group, etc., but if I had to do it all the time, without my quiet moments alone, I wouldn't function well.

[SarahB]

60. That's me.

I'm a definite introvert and I find it's hard for those that aren't to understand. I'm not shy and I'm reasonably social, but I need time for thought with myself alone to decompress especially when I'm going from one person or people to another.

[Komrad Sovietia]

13. Loneliness is lack of Communism

I understand how you all feel. It took me the revelation of Communism to change this feeling. It is so... exhilirating! One is never lonely in communism!

[jdj]

16. WTF?

[Komrad Sovietia]

18. Please review Communist literature...

...It is very enlightening.

[Komrad Sovietia]

20. Addendum...

There are also other resources on Communism. I would like to provide to you the following link, but I must both warn you and apologize to you in advance, as the site is very anti-progressive, and I have an interest in keeping track of such site. Yet it helps to understand Communism, just as the author states:


http://www.worldthreats.com/russia_former_ussr/Krutov%20Interview.htm

Sometimes one must dance with the enemy in this business.

[RandomKoolzip]

77. I DO get tired of the right-wing accusation that all leftist theory

flows from Communism or Marxism. It doesn't.

The oppressed and the well-meaning have always struggled against the power of the moneyed, if not always in concert. Marx didn't invent that shit.

And state power SHOULD be used for the good of the people. That's NOT Communism, that's just logic.

Anyways, tell your friends at Free Republic we say "HI!"

[DS1]

17. In Soviet Russia - society ignores ~you~ !

[Rabrrrrrr]

23. ROTFL!!

You truly made me laugh out loud, DS1. Brilliant!

[slinkerwink]

30. ha, enjoy your short-lived stay!

[DS1]

78. hey, that's not obnoxious

:eyes:

[DS1]

14. It comes and goes in phases

Unless I'm involved with someone in which case I prefer to spend a decent amount of time with that person :shrug:

INTP 4EVA!!! :eyes:

[LynzM]

21. I'm an INFP

I find Myers-Briggs really interesting. First took it as a freshman in college. The description for me was eerily accurate, so much so that I still have it around somewhere...

[GiovanniC]

73. I'm an ENFP

But I was on the borderline between "E" and "I".

[LynzM]

79. Yeah, me too

I'm only 'I' by a little bit, according to the numbers. But when I read the descriptions for INFP and ENFP, the INFP fit me much better, so that's why I go with that one. I'll have to try to find it sometime...

[PartyPooper]

19. With a name like mine...Are you kidding?

I love to be alone!

:evilgrin:

[miss_kitty]

22. I'm a loner

but I would like to be with someone...but I like being alone so much, the someone i would end up being with would have to be an excellent match for me-I'm not one of those people that has to be with someone so bad, I would give up being alone just to be with someone who wasn't pretty much exactly right.
I think that is proved by the fact that i have lived by myself a fairly long time.

[Rabrrrrrr]

24. Absolutely, I love being alone

and when I am with people for an extended period, especially when it moves into days, I can't WAIT to go be alone somewhere...

My partner and I are both loners. Many a day we spent in our individual offices, meeting each other only in the hallway or kitchen making tea, to regroup at dinner time, then be alone again...

The mark of the academic bookworm thinkers, I guess. :-)

I am very much happy to go out to eat alone, to a movie alone, or walk around NYC alone all day.

Of all the people I know, I never bore myself. Thank God for that!

[Dem_Loyalist]

25. I have always been comfortable

Inside of my own head. My kids are usually around but I still spend a lot of time "alone".

[peacebuzzard]

26. Me!

I have a house in the woods and am interested in a web business one day. (I saw two similar posts) My current job keeps me around people 14 days out of the month, but that is how I pay my internet bill for now.

[TrogL]

27. it's hard to be a loner and have a partner

He just spent the last hour yacking his face off.

[Presidentcokedupfratboy]

28. I'm a loner

I don't like being alone all the time but sometimes it is nice.

[slinkerwink]

29. yeah, I'm a loner

I really don't like being in a group because of my deafness, and everyone speaks way too fast for me to catch everything so I'm always out of the loop.

I like having a small group of friends, that I love talking to on one-on-one basis over a cup of coffee or a glass of wine in their rooms. That's how I operate in my friendships.

I'm also a bit of a wallflower at parties, I'm the one that likes to stand in the corner with a glass of wine and make funny cracks about people on the dance floor. I don't dance sober because I'm not very good at it and way too self-conscious.

[OneBlueSky]

31. that would be me . . .

I've always been something of a loner, and it's by choice . . . I think I just enjoy my own company more than that of others . . . I have a rich inner life, a wide range of interests and skills, a few close friends who I see regularly, and a burning desire not to be bothered by most people I encounter . . . and I couldn't be happier . . . :)

[fishnfla]

33. Even when surrounded by people, I am alone

that is the human condition. What goes on between the ears matters most. Not what goes in the ears or what comes out of the mouth. I have these rules.

look first
think next
talk last

as a loner many times poling my way across the flats, I end up talking to myself.

The confessions of a lonely fisherman.......

[mvd]

34. Another one here

I like a small group sometimes, but even in those, I like time alone with my computer, music, and reading. Hate public speaking and being in big social events. I just have trouble talking to strangers, but once I know people, I'm often comfortable.

[brainshrub]

35. I'm a loner.

But I didn't want to admit it until recently. Most people who meet me think I'm extroverted, but deep inside I just want to go home.

My idea of a great weekend: Hang out in down-town, practice my drawing, read in the bookstore, have a quit lunch at on the the many local cafes, play chess with the homeless and maybe treat myself to a root-beer float before I go the gym.

[EnfantTerrible]

36. "You get so alone sometimes

it just makes sense" --Charles Bukowski

:smoke:

[enigmatic]

48. Bukowski's My Hero

And I'm playing his "From The Run With The Hunted" sessions CD on my Spoken Word Sunday show this week. Bill Hicks on Saturday too, if you like him...

[mark414]

37. to an extent

i like to spend a considerable amount of time alone, more so than your average college student.

i refused to even consider the dorms because of the amount of people, and in my first year out of my parents house i willingly spent over half of my income on rent alone just so i could have my own apartment.

i have roommates now though, that i got it out of my system.

[Wapsie B]

38. I'm a loner's loner.

People sometimes just suck the life out of me. The times I spend alone whether at work or at home are times when i feel my best. There aren't a lot of people I've met who I care to spend much time with. I'd rather be lost in my own thoughts. That's just the way I am.

[kitkatrose]

75. Yes!!!! Another one.

I just wish people wouldn't assume that I spend my time alone because I have nothing better to do. I like being alone; I prefer being alone. It makes me far happier than being with people most times.

[Blue_Tires]

39. me too

only child, to boot

[allalone]

40. I'm one

check out the name. I'm happy with my books, music, dog and peace. The house is surrounded with trees. Cedar. close to the water. I live on an island. I'm not a hermit. I mingle when the mood hits me, but I do need my down time. The funny part to me is that people describe me as cheery and friendly and I see myself as quiet and thoughtful. hmm oh well.

[allalone]

41. funny thing

I kind of expected some of the people who are fessin' up to being loners to be here.

[Kenneth ken]

44. me

messages into cyberspace is about as close as I want to get to any of y'all - no offense.

I lived with my best friend when I moved out of parents' house; couldn't stand him after 4 months. He's still my best friend, but now I only see him half a dozen times a year.

I lived with a girl friend once; that lasted about four moths also. She's long since gone.

When I go to parties, I invariably find myself standing about 5-8 away from whatever little group has gathered in a particular place. Still take sme about a week to recover and start feeling like I have my proper space.

I don't even try to date; takes far more energy than I am willing to give.

and, yes, I do work from home.

edit: oh, and my favorite activity is swimming, which is very isloating - hard to yack with someone when toyr head is mostly underwater.

[uncle ray]

45. who wants to know?

hrumphh.

[LastKnight]

46. alone but not lonley here. nt

[enigmatic]

47. My wife and I are both loners!

How we found each other we'll never now;)

Seriously, we are, so we both understand the need for time alone. It's a big reason why our marriage works..

[Gothic Sponge]

49. loner here!

Part by choice, part by circumstances.

[enigmatic]

50. Hey!

Did you see my post the other day? I'd be happy to play your song on my station if you're interested..

[Gothic Sponge]

51. Sure feel free!

Thanks!

[enigmatic]

54. You got it!

I'll let yoiu know when it's on so you can catch it...

[Spider Jerusalem]

52. Me...

itoo much time around other people is physically and mentally draining; it seems I need about 2 hours alone for every hour spent being social just to recharge. And I find too much time spent with extroverts extroverts tedious in the extreme, because they seem to interact merely for the sake of interaction, and 95% of their conversation is just NOISE with no real meaning...I look at that, and I find myself HAPPY that I'm NOT extroverted. The idea of living like that seems rather horrible to me, actually. (As, to be fair, the idea of being a loner must seem to most extroverts...)

[complain jane]

53. LONER here

Card-carrying, certified loner. I love solitude.

[Gothic Sponge]

56. You're not loner!

You have your sisters:

http://satellitesisters.com/

;)

[RebelOne]

59. I'm a loner. I enjoy my own company and that of my dog.

If I didn't have to work for a living, I would move up to the mountains away from people.

[TheTrendIsDead]

61. I Have SA (Social Anxiety) and since......

...then i have become quite detached from people for different reasons
sometimes i think its because of the anxiety but lately it has been because i just dont seem to like most people, and now i cant seem to be able to watch TV, read magazines or listen to the radio or any other type of public media because it just annoys me. so really the best thing for me is to be a complete loner and isolate myself as best as i can.

[LWolf]

62. Yep.

I like people. Really. I sometimes make the effort to see them. But I'm happiest alone. I don't socialize on the phone, and find phone interruptions irritating. I don't even watch much tv; no tv running in the background for "company." And it is an actual effort to go somewhere to socialize. I'm most comfortable socializing in small groups of people, and once or twice a month is sufficient.

I'm irritated by people who have to fill every silence with talk. I'm extremely protective of my space and my privacy. I spend all day at work interacting with people, and don't want to when I get home. I spend a few hours with friends on most weekends, but don't need to to be happy.

My first marriage, 10 years' worth, was to an extrovert. He got bored easily. Something always had to be happening, or he'd look for something to stir up. He needed constant stimulation; he couldn't take silence or introspection. My second marriage, 12 years' worth, was to a fellow introvert. We had 11 great years together. He, however, was not as introverted as I was. While he was quiet and liked to spend time alone, he also needed more social interaction than I did, and was disappointed that I didn't entertain, or want to socialize as much as he did. He was deployed for 3 months twice a year the last 2 years we were married, and I discovered that I really loved the alone-ness. I also loved him, so I used to think, "If I wasn't married, I'd love to be a hermit in the wilderness where no one could reach me." Funny how things work; he found someone to be his social partner, and I became a hermit in the wilderness of my town. I have plenty of company; my dog/s, cat/s, hens, and horses, who can all be happy sharing space and time without demanding anything else (other than food, of course!)

[coolhandlulu]

63. Hell is other people!

Do I sound too negative?
Well, I'm not. I love people. Took me a long time to accept that. BUT...
People exhaust me. People piss me off. People "smile in my face, all the while they wanna take my place...the backstabbers." People want to feel superior. People cheat. People ride their bikes while going the opposite way down the street. People steal your ideas and hairstyles, and then act as though it was their idea or hairstyle all along. People throw trash on your lawn. People hardly ever want to wait their turn...gotta be first. People eat too much ice cream and then complain about being too fat. People buy things, abuse people or animals, wear too much makeup, have promiscuous sex, etc...to try to fill up the emptiness inside. People will support an illegal war and a lame duck president so that they can have cheaper gas. People suck!

[skypilot]

64. Definitely a loner.

I don't mind being around other people but they tend to drain me after a while. I love my time alone and don't feel lonely or alienated. Actually, I tend to feel more lonely and alienated when I am around others. I do have friends but it is a small circle. I don't need or want lots of friends. I don't want my phone ringing all the time.

On edit: Speaking of phones, the whole cell phone phenomenon completely baffles me. Being a loner, I don't understand the need to have people track me down whereever I am by calling me on a cell phone. I know they are great for emergencies and all but when I look around me that's not what I see them being used for. It just looks like people talking on the phone EVERYWHERE. I don't even like to talk on the phone when I'm at home.

[coolhandlulu]

65. Buwahkakash!

See we aren't really alone...
I thought I was the only one that hated phones. Most times, when my phone rings, instead of answering it, I ponder...
Who could that be? Well, who would be calling me at this time? Hmmm, better check the ID...Private? Who do I know that has a private number?
Or WTF, I dont know that number.
Or now why would they be calling me?
Or, damn, dont they have anything better to do than to call me all the time? I'm not in the mood for talking, but they know that I'm probably home screening... What the hell am I gonna tell them when they ask why I didn't answer?
By that time, the phone stops ringing, the voice mail picks up...No ringing, no dilemna...
I go on with my life.

[skypilot]

67. Sounds familiar.

Whenever my phone rings, my first thought is "What the fuck?" I so rarely give out my phone number--and most of the people who have it have begun to where out there welcome with me--that I usually assume it's an annoying telemarketer. Very often it is.

[kitkatrose]

76. Heh...

Or now why would they be calling me?
Or, damn, dont they have anything better to do than to call me all the time? I'm not in the mood for talking

I just wonder how they can talk so much about so little. On campus, people are always calling each other just to ask what the other is doing. It's not that hard to go see your friend in the same dorm as you in the evening, instead of calling them all day.

[allalone]

80. that whole phone thing bugs me too

I have a cell phone for emergencies, but geez, the car is the only place you can truly be alone. and I must confess, when more than 1 or 2 people call me at home in a day, my reaction is Oh now what!!
gee what a grouch eh?

[Dukkha]

66. I feel like a total outcast

Adrift in this mortal coil. Since I lost my girlfriend I never leave my home except for my DJ gig and then I barely converse with people. I used to work at home. I really miss that.

People think I'm strange for going to movies and concerts alone. I carry too much mental bondage to give a shit anymore.

[liontamer]

68. I wouldn't describe myself as a loner

but I can be perfectly happy alone. And I do occasionally crave solitude. But only for short periods

[gpandas]

69. there is loneliness...

and there is solitude. i need solitude.

[peacefreak]

70. Is it too late to post?

Or are there too many loners here? I work in a highly visible job, constantly surrounded by people. I must be even-tempered, knowledgeable & pleasant. I do all those things well. My truest pleasure is coming home, closing the door & not coming out for 24 hours. I always have plenty to do, things that give me pleasure. I have a few very good friends, but have no trouble enjoying my own company. Lonely? No. Very appreciative of ~solitude~.

[Surf Cowboy]

71. Do the voices in my head count as others?

OK, then I'm a loner, too.

[djeseru]

72. Seems to be my calling.

I just can't seem to fit in, so I gave up. Have had a few moments of isolation but for the most part it's very pleasant.

[bikebloke]

74. Seemed to have evolved into one

In my backpacking world exploring days, it seemed I was living a hyper social life. No complaints, though. Then I started bicycle trekking, which is pretty much a solitary endeavour. Every couple I met hated each others guts in the end. Though I usually socialized with folk at camp sites and hostels. My real life as a solitaire began when I moved to a very unfriendly city. Rather than be miserable, I adapted. I'm a light drinker and I never even experimented with the drug scene, so that excuse to mingle was out. Lately, I have veered away from folk. And I'm content. Though recently I ran into someone from high school days. Afterwards we both found ourselves running orienteering. As I've eschewed cars, I've been offered rides to meets. It would be nice to run in the woods again after all these years.

Stay tuned - we he go? Or remain the island?