Should I read my latest e-mail?

[Deja Q]

Last week (the 8th), I got an e-mail from a guy I met online. He uses marijuana and I'm not into that sort of thing. He made an ultimatum, hoping I'd say 'yes' but said in the e-mail (and phone voicemail as well) that he doesn't want me to help him get off of it, offered me to try it, and basically said it was his last response and hoped I'd reply if I was still interested.

I thought about replying that night but aborted the message.

He decided to send another e-mail, dated 6/14 (though I was online yesterday and didn't see it in my mailbox. :shrug:)

Should I read it?

Why does he continue to send e-mails when HE made the ultimatum?! (he's an otherwise cool and decent guy, but I don't like drugs unless they're necessary.)

Thanks for any advice you could tell me!

[LynzM]

1. Dude doesn't keep his word...

I'd say that's a pretty clear sign that it's a relationship not worth pursuing in any aspect, really. Maybe that's too harsh, but I've gotten to a point of being more selective of my friendships... I think you kind of have to be, given the number of people one meets online.

[Deja Q]

3. Possibly, but...

we have similar personalities. I know exactly how he feels in life.

I'd say he's upset that I just won't do that sort of thing and that he really was interested in pursuing a relationship or friendship.

And maybe my attempt to try and help him was off-putting to him.

I just don't know. You might be right.

Drugs are bad news. From the often half-baked laws to the vile, inhuman pushers. But this guy is merely a user. He is not scum or any other derogatory term the media and other propaganda processes indoctrine into us from school-age onward.

[Not Me]

2. Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing...

if he's pressuring you to do weed now, what's next?

[MrScorpio]

4. If your creep radar is buzzing, ignore his ass

There's a drug-free dude out there for you. All you have to do is find him

[gollygee]

5. I'm trying to think how I would have responded

if I'd learned my husband was using drugs when I first met him. I'm not anti-marijuana by a long shot but I think it would have given me pause as well. It just isn't part of my life and I would never have felt comfortable being that close to someone who was using them.

I say trust your heart and your insticts. If you don't feel right about it, that's probably the right way to go.