"I haven't had a period in like ten years"

[HEyHEY]

Is what was just said to me, my co-worker is having stomach cramps, she had a hysterectomy ten years ago.

Back to the focus.

I'm a 25-year-old man, and I don't need to hear that kind of stuff. I don't come into work and talk about....whatever problems I may have do I?

I've said it before and I'll say it again - a 25-year-old male does not belong in an office full of middle aged, predominantly divorced women.

[Zensea]

1. I'm guessing you don't have any sisters?

:)

[HEyHEY]

3. two

But still

[Zensea]

11. Then you should be more understanding

I'm not accepting this "but still" nonsense!

[HEyHEY]

14. Hey, my sisters never told me things like that

Just like I never walked into the kitchen saying "Man, I woke up with the biggest woody today"

[Susang]

25. Funny, one of the guys I work with said exactly that this morning

You must be somehow be channeling him. Eerie!

[Zensea]

50. They must have been trying to protect your delicate sensibilities

Are you one of those girly men?:)

[HEyHEY]

55. No, they were just trying to be polite

ANd I'm much more well adjusted for it ;-)

[Zensea]

59. maybe

My sisters are younger than me.
It certainly hasn't hurt my adjustment to hear them talk about stuff like this or to hear them gripe about how the guys they knew were acting like assholes.
If anything it's helped.
I can see you are so "much more well adjusted for it," seeing as how you are so well adjusted that you feel the need to complain about behavior by your co-workers that I wouldn't even blink at myself and you're doing it on a message board to boot.


:-)

[HEyHEY]

63. You're taking this too seriously

It's not an attack against women. And nice of you to judge my "well adjustedness" by a few posts on a message board :-)

[Zensea]

71. speaklng of not having a sense of humor

I'm not taking it seriously at all unless you are also.
Why do you think I keep putting the smilies in the posts?:evilgrin:

[HEyHEY]

75. You just never know

There's some people round these parts that use smilies in a different way

[captainjack]

4. one

[captainjack]

2. word!

i hate that kind of crap - i want to be supportive of my friends but i feel so uncomfortable hearing about female problems.

man, i'm gonna make such a great doctor!

[Susang]

5. Quit now

We're about 52% of the population you know. Trust me, "male problems" aren't a whole lot of fun either.

[HEyHEY]

7. Like a bruised ego?

[Susang]

15. Like a swollen testicle

Need any more examples? ;-)

[HEyHEY]

16. Exactly, I would never blurt out "Man my pills are swollen today!"

:-)

[Susang]

20. There are those who would (and do!)

Work at a Harley dealership sometime, you hear it all. ;-)

[HEyHEY]

37. I know nothing about bikes

But I'll browse through the store one day

[Nay]

60. Work as one of the few mail carriers. You'll hear it all there, too.

[HEyHEY]

65. Bukowski?

[1monster]

46. Or Peyronie's Disease

:eyes: or E.D. :crazy:

[barb162]

13. I don't want to hear about "female" problems and I am a female

unless there is just one other person and me I don't want to hear this crap. I don't like group discussions of this stuff and certainly I never want men in hearing range. It's personal, dammit!

[tigereye]

28. then don't become a gynecologist or psychiatrist!

and get some sensitivity training... :)

[supernova]

6. When you're 65

we lovely ladies don't want to hear about your prostate problems either. :P

[flamingyouth]

8. Touche!

;)

[Susang]

18. Precisely my point

Pretty much all discussions of health related issues are off-limits for the squeamish.

Luckily, I'm not squeamish about much. :-)

[HEyHEY]

9. I'm having it removed before then

I can do without it

[supernova]

19. Not likely

prostate surgery usually affects sexual function, the the dreaded erectile dysfunction.

Are you planning on stopping having sex in your later years?

[HEyHEY]

32. I ain't having sex now in my younger years - so I don't see it getting

better!

[eyesroll]

10. My assistand editor -- a 24-year-old man -- is planning his wedding.

That's torture.

Hysterectomy talk is nothing.

[HEyHEY]

12. Yeah, wedding would suck more

At least, should you be invited, you can brainwash him into the kind of food and booze you want!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

17. you are being overly sensitive

[HEyHEY]

23. If a man told you "I had a great wet dream last night" what woudl you say?

[SmileyBoy]

You tell 'em, HEyHEY!!!

I hate this double-standard circulating around the ladies.

[HEyHEY]

36. YA!

;-)

[GoddessOfGuinness]

Do you wear special pads for those?

I've always wondered.

[HEyHEY]

34. We should

That would be comfortable

[GoddessOfGuinness]

79. Well there ya go...

I personally don't object to hearing the intimate details of men's problems. I'm sure there are some women who do. By the same token, I've met men who could or couldn't deal with listening to my female gripes. The trick is in knowing who can deal, and who can't.

Your coworker probably thought you were a sympathetic soul; and for that, I think you should feel honored. Since you find it difficult to handle, though, I'd suggest that you gently tell her that you're sorry she isn't feeling well; and recommend that she speak with a doctor, because you're uncomfortable talking about women's bodily functions.

[Susang]

38. They'd have to

Men would never use the same pads that were made for menstrual blood. ;-)

[GoddessOfGuinness]

81. Maybe jockstraps with absorbant liners?

An all-night maxi, with wings?

[JohnKleeb]

35. I sure wouldnt

and I hate to fart around girls too heh.

[tigereye]

39. well, most Western men hate that kind of talk

I had a housemate who was from Indonesia and he was the only one who didn't run screaming when the females started to talk about menstruation and such. What a brave guy he was. I think some guys would prefer there was still a menstrual hut in the village.

Actually, I don't really like hearing about guy stuff all the time, either. Middle-aged women, how scary. At least they aren't talking to you about how horny they are, Hey Hey. Or are they. ;)

[HEyHEY]

41. On occasion yes

brrrrrr

[tigereye]

47. middle aged women do know some things

that the youngsters don't after all. Seriously, I think people just prefer not to hear all that stuff at work. Usually it is better to save that stuff for lunches out.

What used to bug me at work was people who talked about TV shows all the time, while I sat there reading the Village Voice.

[SmileyBoy]

52. I LOVE The Village Voice!!!

I used to read it ALL THE TIME in high school!!!

[tigereye]

58. I read it for years.

I haven't lately. I kind of miss it. It was my sanity, living in the somewhat provincial Pittsburgh atmosphere when I was in college and after. Pgh is a lot less provincial now art and culture wise.

[Book Lover]

61. The website is updated often

http://www.villagevoice.com

I read it faithfully. Gives me a chance to pretend that I still live back home...

[tigereye]

74. I have never seen it!

Thanks. I'll check it out.

[eyesroll]

40. To be fair, HEyHEY, a wet dream is sexual. (Well, a "great" wet dream is.)

A hysterectomy is anatomical.
Apples and oranges.

Or, adenoids and orgasms anyway.

Not that I particularly like health talk at work...but it's pretty omnipresent...

[HEyHEY]

43. But it's the only thing I cna compare it with

Thefunction itself is not sexual

[eyesroll]

51. Compare it to an appendectomy or projectile vomiting then

It's surgery and stuff coming out of bodies, respectively. I really have no desire to hear about my (male) boss's kidney stones and root canal, but I don't consider it problematic to work with men because of it.

[HEyHEY]

53. I don't think it's problematic - it's just annoying

[liontamer]

67. a wet dream isn't the same thing as major surgery

that's a really weird example. Are they the same in your head? :crazy:
That being said, the workplace is generally not the place to talk about health problems.

[HEyHEY]

70. Hello McFly - I was talking about a period - no the surgery

;-)

[liontamer]

73. still, the wet dream is sexual

the period isn't

[La Lioness Priyanka]

77. sex is not the same thing as cramps

you should know better than that

[Beaverhausen]

21. what was the context? She couldn't be having a period

because she had a hysterectomy. She has stomach problems. What is your problem?

[HEyHEY]

27. The context, was me just sitting here and having her come up and say that

I don't CARE in an indignant way. It's just wierd

[tigereye]

62. she was upset since you weren't empathetic?

or did you just happen to be in range. :)

[HEyHEY]

64. She blamed me for making her sick

I said "I have a cold not stomach cramps" Then she just said "I haven't had a period in ten years."

[tigereye]

72. oh. I seriously doubt your cold made her had cramps

[Dogmudgeon]

22. The Ultimate Uni-Sex Riposte

"Let Me Tell You About My Colitis!"

Just like that malt liquor ... Works every time.

--bkl

[calico1]

24. I am a 46 year old woman

and I don't care to hear talk like that either but in my experience working in an office environment, men can be just as bad. So its not just a woman thing.

[HysteryDiagnosis]

33. Forward this to her... it should just about cover the 10 years....

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eom eop

[librechik]

26. Baby

butch up! You could be changing diapers in a few years. What are you going to do then?

Seriously, if you make friends with them, (and they are already confiding "intimate sexual details" to you) you could eventually learn a lot of cool secrets about how to please women. Sure, you have to put up with a little bitching, but believe me, that is an ETERNAL problem.

In contrast I have spent a lot of times working in places that are mostly men. I just keep my ears open and try to learn.

[HEyHEY]

30. I consider it sexual harrasment

[tigereye]

69. yeah there is a line

I worked in an office where almost all the managers were men who were incredibly crude; rape jokes, comments about women's bodies, complaining to me about one gorgeous staff I had who didn't wear a bra. I could have given a shit how she dressed. I told them not to look! etc. I had to bitch at them regularly, in as reasonable a way as I could. Eventually one of them had a sexual harrassment charge filed and that made them take notice. I had tried to tell them that this way of operating wouldn't fly anymore. And this was in a mental health organization! But I don't think women should be going around making jokes about men's bodies, either, or should cross that same boundary. Not sure what the answer is, maybe just to tell people that that kind of stuff makes you uncomfortable.

[SmileyBoy]

29. Do I go up to my female co-workers and say:

"Boy, my testicles itch like CRAZY!!!"???

No, I don't do that.

[StrongbadTehAwesome]

31. My male boss talks frequently and at great length

about his various health problems. Not all are "male" problems, but some of them are. It's not just a woman thing.

[jpgray]

42. Just start bitching out of nowhere about your 'pellagra'

:D

[HEyHEY]

44. I've played that card too many times

;-)

[JohnKleeb]

45. whats a 'pellagra'

[SmileyBoy]

48. Yeah, I'm a 22 year-old man, and I don't know what that is...

:shrug:

[captainjack]

54. uhhh

smegma

[SmileyBoy]

57. I heard the word before, but don't know what it is...

Is it STD-related??? If yes, I'll stop asking questions.;)

[jpgray]

49. Only the coolest disease ever! Cooler even than TB

It's just a niacin deficiency, I think. :P

[JohnKleeb]

56. Now discussing disease is interesting but disease itself

Now boobiephila is a disease, I recommend you all try to get :D.

[ScreamingMeemie]

66. Talk about your hemorrhoids (real or imagined) that should stop them.

Or, my personal dislike (my grandma does this to me all the time), tell them how your bowels opened up last night and just kept draining. :hi:

[HEyHEY]

68. Dear god!

Ah!

[ScreamingMeemie]

80. Yes!! But I put $20 on it working.

;)

[Misinformed01]

76. Try this one: I don't want to hear about anyone's shit at work

Leave your problems, and I mean all of them, at home. I am there to work, not to make buddies or listen to personal shit.

[ronnykmarshall]

78. You've got to rent ...

Margret Cho's "Notorious C.H.O".

She has this great bit about 'if straight guys had a period'. It's a riot.

Example:

Dude, dude, dude, check it out. Dude, dude. I just fuckin' knew I's gonna start my period, I just fuckin' knew I's gonna start my period, I just fuckin' knew it.

Dude, dude, I fuckin' start m' period right? The next day was super bowl sunday. HOW FUCKED UP IS THAT????

Dude, dude you gotta tampon in yer truck?