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jiacinto Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 12:43 PM
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A potential employer was nasty to me on the phone
Edited on Fri Sep-26-03 12:48 PM by jiacinto
A man was really rude to me on the phone. I called him and said that I
had moved to Florida. I then explained that I left a nonprofit due to the
fact of pay not coming in.

He then said basically to me: "Do you want a career in sales or politics?"
He then laughed at the fact I worked at a dept store in DC and said that there was no
"way corporate sales would hire me" and hung up on the phone.

He didn't even talk to me or say anything. He was so rude to me on the phone
and was an asshole. I am really upset. He was then like "No company is going
to give me money to bring you to be interviewed."

And that was it. I am stung significantly but I have to persevere so to
speak. I applied to jobs at two stores here. One of them made me fill out a personality test
and said they would look it over and call me back.

And that is even more upsetting because I have an MA and a BA. That he would treat me so poorly is upsetting.

I am so upset right now.

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THUNDER HANDS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 12:44 PM
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1. keep your chin up
I'm sure with an attitude like that, HE'LL be the one out looking for work in a few months...

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KCDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 12:46 PM
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2. don'cha just love this economy?
:shrug:

Sorry, I hope that soon you will find something both lucrative and fulfilling. I understand how you feel. It sucks to be in a position where others can just laugh at your qualifications.

Take care.
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cally Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 12:46 PM
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3. ((((hugs)))))
Whenever I have looked for a job, so many folks are so rude. I just wish the same on them when they are unemployed. I promised myself that whenever I got in a position to hire someone that I would treat them with respect. There is no excuse to treat others this way.

Just ignore the assholes. :hug:
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meegbear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 12:48 PM
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4. Be thankful ...
if they act like that while interviewing, imagine what it's like working there.
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jiacinto Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 12:50 PM
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7. It sounded sketchy
And frankly it's his loss, not mine. I have two degrees, know how to sell things, and they are the ones who are missing out.
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noiretextatique Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 04:54 PM
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30. it's your GAIN
imagine getting the job and finding out he was an asshole later. thank goodness he uncloaked over the phone.
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Japhy_Ryder Donating Member (381 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 12:49 PM
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5. Asshole
If that guy is that much of an asshole with potential employees, imagine how he is with the people that work for him. You're probably better off not having to work with him, and besides which, people that are assholes to total strangers, tend to not be the happiest people in the world, so take heart that you're better than him.
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jiacinto Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 12:50 PM
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8. It's his loss
nt
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Don_G Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 12:49 PM
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6. A Free Republican Maybe?
I personally wouldn't want to work for anyone with the personality of outhouse contents. There are plenty of decent employers out there. Just keep on truckin'.
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Southsideirish Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 12:52 PM
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9. Employers are incredibly arrogant these days.
They are sitting pretty with mucho applications so they can be as nasty as they want to be. I have really heard some horror stories - the SOB's.
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JanMichael Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 12:55 PM
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10. A head-hunter right? Not an employer?
Fact is Carlos that those types of recruiters are not really interested in young, non-techy, job hunters.

Don't let it bother you!

A family member of mine knows a buttload of NC politicians, could you handle NC over Florida?

Then again, do you want to work in politics? The pay sucks until you can get graft...
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jiacinto Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 12:56 PM
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11. Well
I had posted my resume on careerbuilder.com or one of those search engines. They emailed me. I called them back and they were rude to me.
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Bossy Monkey Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 01:02 PM
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12. Write a savage letter to his boss. You don't have to send it,
but you'll feel better.

I again advise you to temp. You've been through 4 of the most stressful experiences of life right in a row: graduating, moving, starting a new job, quitting a job. You've got to give yourself a break and take some pressure off. Temping will allow you to do both as well as let you look for work at the same time. It will also bridge the time into 2004 when the campaigns are more fully up and running, so you'll be able to segue straight into a campaign job if you so desire. Consider it. Regardless, take care of yourself, and best of luck.
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Iris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 01:04 PM
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13. He's a jerk and cannot speak for every company out there.
Just try to let it go. He's not worth the energy.
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jiacinto Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 01:05 PM
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14. I know
nt
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sangh0 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 01:06 PM
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15. He did you a BIG favor
If you're smart, you'll review what was said and use it to figure out what to say and what not to say to the next potential employer. Also, you now know better than to go work for that asshole. It's better that you found out before you took a job with him.

I once had an interview that was something like that. After just a short review of my experience and background, he realized that I was nothing like what he was looking for, and immediately started in with some similar stuff as you experienced. I was also upset, but I realized that though he WAS an asshole, he did have some reason for being so dismissive. The fact was, I really wasn't fit for the job, and my being there was a waste of time for both of us.

Searching for a job is a lot like searching for a girlfriend, and blind dates are the worst.
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jiacinto Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 01:07 PM
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17. He didn't even give me a chance
That bothers me. And I do think I was a match for the job. I didn't even find out what the position is before he acted so rudely to me!
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sangh0 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 01:11 PM
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19. He's an ass
but sometimes, even an asshole can teach you something important.

Would you really want to work for people who treat other people that way?
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jiacinto Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 01:12 PM
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20. No
but I am back at Square One.
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sangh0 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 01:14 PM
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21. Another thing
I used to work in 2 WTC, South Tower. I worked for a company where many of it's employees were long-time with decades of experience working for them. At the time, I would have loved to retire someday from there. However, during my 5th year there, they hired a new mgr for my dept. He wanted me to engage in a fraud. I refused, and he forced me out. Now he's dead, and I'm still alive.

Sometimes, things that seem horrible turn out to be life-saving. Literally and figuratively.
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jiacinto Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 01:20 PM
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22. Ok
nt
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sangh0 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 01:31 PM
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23. Another story
After leaving that company, I went to wrok for another, but after 5 years they went out of business, and I was once again on the job market. Now one thing you should know is that for most of my career my skill set was centered on a technology that was very specialized. Basically, it's a small market, so I'm garaunteed a job somewhere, but my choices are limited.

Wanting to expand my choices, I started to learn about related areas that would offer me more choices. I learned it and started looking. In short order, I had an interview, and they offered me a position. For reasons I won't go into here, their offer was rescinded. I was very disappointed. This job was very promising.

Two weeks later, I got an offer from my present employer, a charity. I now work with people who are liberal, dedicated to helping people, and willing to be paid tens of thousands of dollars less than they could in the private market. I get to work with people I admire, and I get to help people too. My boss is a great guy, and my colleagues are also my friends.

Not getting the job I wanted was the best thing that ever happened to me because now I've got the job I ALWAYS wanted.
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rustydog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 01:06 PM
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16. Every cloud has a silver lining...
Actually, every cloud has rain..but...
Would you want to work for such an uncaring ass ?
the economy sucks, but keep your head and spirits up!
Good luck ont he search.
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ibegurpard Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 01:09 PM
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18. Job hunting sucks so bad.
I really feel for you. It's very discouraging. Hope that you find something soon.
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monkeyboy Donating Member (965 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 01:40 PM
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24. Here's what you can do to feel better
Go to your local marine supply store and buy one of those aerosol fog horns. Call the bastard back. Speak in a really low voice so that he has to press his ear against the phone to hear you. You know the rest...
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Nikia Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 04:30 PM
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25. Maybe he was jealous of you
Don't you wonder about people that majored in human resources so they can just hire people in a field that they've never worked in? (Sorry, human resources DUers) I experienced such a person at a temp agency that applied to after finding out that I didn't get the job that I really wanted shortly after graduating from college. She said that no one would want hire me because I did not have a specific technical degree like she did which was in human resources and did not have a career related internship in college, like she did. I sort of wondered what her point was in her comparision of herself to me. I got a job on my own two weeks later. A week later, she found a job that she wanted me to take. Even if I hadn't found a job, I don't think that I would have taken a job from someone so rude. I think that she probably was jealous of my potential and your interviewer was probably jealous of your potential as well.
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CMT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 04:32 PM
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26. write a letter to his boss and ask if that
is how they like potential employees and customers treated. It is uncalled for.
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ulysses Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 04:33 PM
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27. hi Carlos
A question that I hope you'll take in the spirit in which it's intended...

What *do* you want out of life?
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noiretextatique Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 05:11 PM
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32. this is a great question
Edited on Fri Sep-26-03 05:13 PM by noiretblu
i mentioned this in another thread: focus on what you want.

i know some think this kind of thing is woo-woo, but i'll use my recent experience as an example.

a few weeks ago, i missed out on getting what i thought was a dream job...an accounting job, with little room for growth...excellent pay though. when i didn't get that job, i decided i needed to focus on what i wanted:

a job that would lead to an eventual career change, from accounting to either property management/real estate or IT.

well...i'm vying for two jobs now, and both would eventully lead to the career change that i really want. the job i really want would start me off as an accountant, then after a year, train me to help manage their growing condo association business. this job is with a for-profit property management company...very solid, growing company.

and with the backup job, i'd be learning more about networking in addition to managing the finance department. this job is with a growing non-profit, so there is a lot of potential for future growth. plus the work they do is great.

i am really praying for the property management job because the income potential in that job (and field)...well, the sky's the limit.
and at this point in my life...SHOW ME THE MONEY!!!!!

figuring out what you want really does help you focus getting what you want.
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bleedingheart Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 05:13 PM
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33. very good question
I never have interviewed well for companies that I didn't like or work that didn't seem appealing to me...

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goobergunch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 04:36 PM
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28. Time for a group hug for Carlos!
:grouphug:
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 04:45 PM
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29. Nobody should be treated so poorly unless they made the first insult
Edited on Fri Sep-26-03 04:45 PM by HypnoToad
It doesn't matter if you have a BA or MA or are King of the Universe. Rudeness begets rudeness. It's sad that they are that way bcause they seem to cause more problems than they solve. (in other words, I'm amazed you didn't get rude back at him!)

That aside, good luck in getting a good job!

And as for those personality tests, if they're too intrusive, go find the state attorney general or lawyer or somebody. What's important is that you can do the job. That's what counts, nothing more. I'm still waiting for the call back from Best Buy. I don't think they will call back because I'm probably too much of a nutter for them. :eyes: (if all of corporate america was like retail, think of how many more people would be out of work! Corporate america is evil, period.)
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chadm Donating Member (480 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 05:03 PM
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31. The truth is, we don't know
Yes, the guy was a jack-ass...but sometimes jack-asses speak the truth and we can learn from them.

So, rather than asking for us to help get you off the hook, consider this:

Do you think he was right? Did you do anything that might be wrong for the field of sales?

His comments about politics being different from sales is dead wrong, by the way. It's the same field.

I've been in sales for 7 years so let me know if you have any questions.
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jiacinto Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 08:56 PM
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35. He may have been telling the truth
But I've worked for a dept store for almost two years. Also the man could have been more polite and said:

"Frankly I don't think you have the skills for this position and don't think this can work out. But thank you for calling".

It was highly unprofessional for him to insult me.
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area51 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 05:29 PM
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34. employers
jiacinto said:

"A man was really rude to me on the phone."

I'm sorry to hear that, jiacinto. I've had something similar happen to me. This is exactly the kind of sh*t some employers are doing now, since they know that we're in the middle of the 2nd Great Depression and job seekers are a dime a dozen. There are some very sick bosses out there.
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philosophie_en_rose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 09:30 PM
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36. I guess it's best that you know now
Instead of relocating and getting your hopes up, you will not have to work for that particular asshole. That certainly won't pay off any student loans, but at least it leaves you open for something else.

I feel sorry for the people who work with that asshole.
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jiacinto Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Sep-26-03 09:54 PM
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37. I think he was a middle man of some sort
nt
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