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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 03:03 PM
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A webpage I made for my mom, whom I miss so much.
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Cuban_Liberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 03:05 PM
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1. That's a beautiful tribute.
I'm so sorry for your loss.

:hug:
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 03:39 PM
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8. Thank you. I keep remembering more memories. I am going to have
to add them to my thoughts section. Lkie the time she started the car at the laundrymat and drove into the side of it. Took the windowsill home under the fender!
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kiraboo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 03:07 PM
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2. The site is beautiful.
You've made your mom a real person for those of us who didn't know her. I lived in the Blue Hill Area for years and I wonder if I ever crossed paths with her. My heart goes out to you in your time of sorrow.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 04:08 PM
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10. Thank you. Perhaps you two did cross paths, and maybe even more than once.
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flakey_foont Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 03:09 PM
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3. Very touching
Thank You
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 04:29 PM
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11. Thank you for visiting her page.
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Lavender Brown Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 03:09 PM
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4. I'm so sorry GreenPartyVoter
This is a wonderful way of paying tribute to her life. :hug:
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 04:51 PM
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12. Thank you. You will have to come back another time when I have
added some pictures of her artwork. She was so talented on so many levels.
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villager Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 03:10 PM
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5. very touching...sorry she left at such a young age....
best to you during this grieving period, and later, too, as this becomes part of the "stuff" of your future storytelling...
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 05:08 PM
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16. Thank you. It's a guarantee that many memories of her will be passed on
not only as family lore but as part of my fiction writing too.
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BurtWorm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 03:13 PM
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6. It's wonderful how much you love her and want to honor her memory.
She looks like a lovely person. I'm so sorry for your loss. :hi:
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 05:38 PM
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18. Thanks so much
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demnan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 03:20 PM
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7. A beautiful website
I hope it gives you comfort! :hug:
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 05:58 PM
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20. It does. It really does.
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Anarcho-Socialist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 03:50 PM
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9. Thanks for sharing it with us
Edited on Wed Feb-02-05 03:51 PM by Anarcho-Socialist
:hug:
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 06:13 PM
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21. Thank you for visiting
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progmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 04:53 PM
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13. I'm afraid to look, since I am here at work
...and I know I will cry.

I will look later, after my kid is in bed.

I'm really really sorry for your loss. My mom is my best friend, and I don't imagine I would be able to function without her.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 06:26 PM
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22. Moms are irreplace-able :^(
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MsAnthropy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 05:07 PM
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14. What a sweet gesture. She did a good job raising her daughter.
Thanks for sharing this.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 06:47 PM
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24. Thank you. I wish I had told her what a great Mom she was.
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wovenpaint Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 11:04 AM
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40. Rest assured, she knows
That's a beautiful tribute and proves that she's a great Mom. I'm sure you showed her every day those same feelings (in many different forms, lol...speaking as a Mom ,myself)
It's so tough to lose your Mom, I know. I lost mine in 1998 but I've come to feel that she's never that far away...
My condolences to you and your family.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 08:08 PM
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41. Thank you. I swear I can hear her talking to me.. in my head.. answering
the questions I am asking. I wouldn't be surprised if that was really the case.
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 05:07 PM
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15. Its a lovely site. She would be pleased.
Having lost my mother in 1981, I know how hard the loss can be and how much you miss her.

:hug:
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 07:48 PM
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27. Thank you. I am sorry you have been through this as well
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plcdude Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 05:15 PM
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17. very nice
and it just goes to prove that the apple does not fall far from the tree. It is people like her and my mother and father that have given us so much so now we will spend the rest of our days returning to others their gifts to us. Carry on.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 08:12 PM
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28. Thank you. And you as well.
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bif Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 05:40 PM
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19. Nicely done
She'd be proud.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 08:31 PM
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30. I hope she is. I hope I am putting the right things there to remember
her by and that I have not forgotten anything that was important to her.
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Padraig18 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 06:28 PM
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23. What a wonderful page!
Quite a fitting tribute to a wonderful life. I think she did a very good job raising her daughter, too.

:pals:
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 08:47 PM
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32. Thank you.
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blondeatlast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 06:50 PM
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25. Beautiful, just beautiful.
What a great person she was.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 09:06 PM
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33. Thank you. She really was, and I wish I had told her so.
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miss_kitty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 07:06 PM
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26. your web page is beautiful.
so's your mom.

Again, sorry for your loss.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 09:20 PM
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34. Thank you.
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flamingyouth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 08:27 PM
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29. Your father's memories actually made me cry
Edited on Wed Feb-02-05 08:29 PM by flamingyouth
I'm so sorry for your loss. She was so young - younger than both of my parents. :cry:

The whole page is really lovely. :hug:
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 09:31 PM
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35. Me too. This has been so awful for him. They have
Edited on Wed Feb-02-05 09:33 PM by GreenPartyVoter
been together since freshman year of high school--44 years. His health has been precarious in recent years, whereas she (after coming close with death a couple of years ago in a freak accident) was getting healthier. She was down to 150lbs and was teaching exercise classes. We had no reason to suspect the terrible heartburn she had last weekend and the dizziness and lightheadedness the night before she died to be symptoms of heart troubles. I wish, when she'd had her physical a few weeks ago, they'd drawn some blood and checked her heart enzyme levels.

I think that a number of things may have been going on that explain why this happened, at least in the metaphysical sense:

1) My parents had an agreement that whoever went first would go in the arms of the other one. My dad wasn't there when she flipped her car off the causeway, so she walked away from it. He was there on Friday, though, so he was able to hold her in his arms and watch the light go out of her eyes. It is amazing that it didn't happen in her sleep, or when she was starting the car, or on her way to work. But everything was timed so perfectly that they could be together.

2) My own thought is that when she flipped off the causeway she was given some choices: go now, have another 15 so-so years, or almost 3
great ones. Obviously she opted for the last one.

3) I also wonder if she knew, at some level, that my dad is so ill that he might not be here much longer, didn't want to deal with tying up all the loose ends, and very much wanted to be with him again soon. So she just left first. (His BP the morning she went was something like 210 over 120. It's a miracle that he didn't just have a stroke and follow her, but the ambulance crew was keeping an eye on him even as they worked on her. It would not surprise me in the least, after we have set up her scholarship fund and fixed up the house to rent out to teachers who need an affordable year-round home, and sorting out what needs to be done when dad goes... that he will in fact, go. Not on purpose... but... it could happen. He may just be hanging in there out of sheer willpower right now.

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flamingyouth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 09:46 PM
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36. Jen, I am just so sorry
You are going through so much right now.

I'm going out of town next week, but when I come back, I'm going to pack up some books and send them to the library in honor of your mom.

:grouphug:
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 10:06 PM
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37. Thanks so much. I couldn't afford to sponsor a wing for her, but it is so
nice to know that strngers and friends alike might take out some of those books and be surprised and smile to see her name inside the cover.

We are going to make bookplates from her artwork for the books my own family sends over. And also for her textbooks, which will be donated to the school union.
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Fenris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 08:32 PM
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31. That's very beautiful and sad, GPV.
:hug:
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-02-05 10:10 PM
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38. Thank you
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 10:18 AM
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39. Thank you to everyone who replied. My Dad, GreenLantern, doesn't
post at DU anymore, but he does come in to read the main forums. I know it has meant so much to him to know that people are thinking of my mother and finding out what a wonderful lady she was.
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roguevalley Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 08:31 PM
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42. wow. your mom must have been so wonderful. I am so honored
that you would share her with us. Keep remembering and writing. It is for the future and your own heart that you do this. Hugs to you and your family, honey. Your mom looked like a pal.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-03-05 10:20 PM
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43. Mom was terrific. I am already wondering what we will do without her.. we
needed her for so many things. She always came to my rescue when we had to do artsy-crafty things for school as a kid, and she was helping my oldest son that way too.

It will be weird and sad, not having her around when we make up Halloween costumes or birthday party decorations (we made the coolest basketball pinata for Ian's party last year. It was so thick, it took the kids ages to bust it open.)
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