What would you do?

[goddess40]

This week-end I made a roaster full of veggie beef soup for a club function. It cost about $35 to make. Some busy body no it all decided it needed "fixing" and loaded it with pepper and some unknown sour substance. After she "fixed" it no one wanted anymore. To say I'm pissed is really an understatement.
After thoughts of doing great bodily harm I have decided either to tell her off or "fix" her drink at our next board meeting - nothing lethal just unappetizing perhaps a little jalpeno juice in her pepsi.

[radwriter0555]

1. oh come on.... you know that's childish and irrational. But it IS okay to

enjoy the revenge fantasy.

Someday, you'll get to remind her to NOT fix something (again)... she didn't do it to be spiteful and mean, one hopes, so nor should you. Accidents happen... take it with a grain of salt, so to speak.

[goddess40]

4. She did it out of arrogance, she's done it before and she'll do it again

She likes to claim others work as her own and she gets away with it because everyone gives her a pass. People are too nice to take her on - I'm not.

[Spinzonner]

2. Give her a bill for the damage

If she didn't have prior authority for such things, she misappropriated property.

[Floogeldy]

3. I actually like the jalapeno juice-Pepsi thing.

Go for it.

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[barb162]

5. what a fucking amount of gall! And you have the right to be

extremely pissed as she took it upon herself to fuck with someone else's creation without asking you the creator. She has a complete lack of proper social boundaries and is probably a narcissist. Are there a few people there you really respect? I would take them on the side and tell them what happened and ask them their opinion. I somehow want to avoid saying my feelings because I don't know this social group and how you interact with each other. If someone said "Oh leave it alone; that's the way she is" well that is not okay. You have to confront her in some fashion OR the next time she brings something, ruin it. Thing is if she has lousy social boundaries in the first place, she may not even understand what you are talking about. My mother in law is like this (I could kill her!!!!) and she doesn't GET it.

[trof]

6. My resident authority on such things sez

"I would light into her like nothing she'd ever seen and she would know NEVER to mess with my cooking again! That's just about the rudest, most ill mannered thing I ever heard of."

This from the very proper...ahem...immediate past president of our local women's club.

Personally, I believe a good ass kicking is in order.
Skittles can give you some pointers.
;-)

[barb162]

16. I like it

[CBGLuthier]

7. She is a jerk, but don't tamper with food

Even something non-harmful can get you in serious trouble.

But I would send her a bill and tell her to never ever touch anything you cooked again.

[meti57b]

8. Do they usually make the request ...

to the entire group for people to bring food? If so, next time reply in the presence of the group that the last time you brought food, this person completely ruined it. Tell them that you will be happy to contribute some money for food but you won't prepare food or bring food.

[candle_bright]

9. Acccckkk ...how annoying!!!

I had someone do that to me once. I made a HUGE batch of homemade pasta salad for a party. I spent a decent amount of $ on it too b/c I used artichoke hearts, sundried tomatoes, olives, etc.

Because I was a vegan, I wanted to make sure there was something I could eat (and share with others).

This arrogant idiot lady decided to mix SALAMI into the whole bowl of it when I wasn't looking!!!

I swear I almost took her out back.

I don't know what advice to give you, because reading the other responses you say she always does this and wont stop. Maybe gather a small group of you whose food has been screwed by this lady to all approach her together???

[n2mark]

11. How nervy of her

I would take her aside and say something. Her habit belittles everyone who brings a dish and preventa others from giving. Her self esteem appears to be distinct and controlling . Time for her to face the facts.

[goddess40]

14. When I make my black bean chili, I watch it like a hawk

because I worry someone will do the same type of thing to it. We have a vegetarian that comes for the college bonspiel (curling tournament) and he never had anything but microwaved potato's to eat.

It amazes me the gall of some people, and then they pretend they didn't know.

[Boswells_Johnson]

10. Put a square of Ex-Lax in her Pepsi. n/t

[Semi_subversive]

12. Plant a foot directly between her cheeks!

I hate it when people screw with my cooking! And send her a bill.

[goddess40]

13. Darn she can't make tomorrows board meeting

I sent her an e-mail letting her know it was a good thing she couldn't make the meeting because I was extremely pissed at her for ruining my soup and that she better leave her hands off others contributions unless they give the OK. I can't wait for the response.

If she doesn't respond I'll be forced to ask her next time I see her if she got my e-mail. Could be interesting.


edit: "unless they give the OK." sorry I wasn't clear, I meant the person the made the dish must give the OK to any additions to their contribution.

[trof]

15. Hold it! NOBODY else can "give the OK".

Period.
Your cooking.
Only you can approve "improvements".
It's the law.
You could look it up.

[barb162]

17. she also sounds passive-aggressive; I bet she likes to rearrange

people's collars, pins, hair, etc., like she is doing them a favor. Of course what she is really doing is acting out that her taste is better than yours.

Okay, if it makes you feel better, the next time, whatever she brings, screw it up (2 pounds of salt, whatever). Then leave an anonymous note 2 months later, "how did you enjoy having your food plate ruined. One good turn deserves another.
Love, the gang"

Even though it is childish, she deserves it after what she did to you. Nobody says we always have to act like adults.

Also when this person is dealing on such an "out of it" basis as to manners, I wonder if she would understand an adult conversation, like you telling her to leave your plates alone. Fight fire with fire