has anybody any idea how to stay focused?

[ffm172]

on working out intead of getting lazy again after a month and trying to find excuses not to go?

[xmas74]

1. Nope.

I gave up about 2 weeks ago. I need to drag my ass back to the gym too.

[ffm172]

my bf is already kicking my ass through the phone

I wanna loose some pounds and stay fit and before I got together with him I never really way interested in doing it.

[xmas74]

3. I sit all day and I am afraid of the secretary spread.

Besides, I like to eat. Gotta burn it off somehow.

[ffm172]

5. same here

I sit all day and love to eat. So I HAVE to go to the gym to stay slim and fit. Once I'm there I am fine and I enjoy it but to get my ass out of the house to go there is the hard part.

[xmas74]

13. I just don't have the time right now to go.

I really wish that I did-I always feel better afterwards.

[ffm172]

15. don't you get enough exercise with your daughter

I can imagine that playing with her is quite some exercise.

I feel good after the gym also. Powered out but good.

Do you think you will have time again to go when you move back in with your parents?

[xmas74]

17. I am just about moved in.

I need the exercise for my target areas. I don't get that from my daughter. And my main problem is my work hours. They have some wonderful 5:30 am aerobic classes (I really want the power yoga) but I am stuck at work when they happen. She has swimming lessons coming up-I am going to try and squeeze in some water aerobics at the same time (since the pools are right next to each other).

[ffm172]

18. swimming is good

I like swimming.
I tried a couple of the aerobic classes they offer at my gym. But I have a problem with staying in the rythm. So I decided to just to the equipment for startes to get some shape. Bike, Cross stepper and all the other instruments of torture :)

[xmas74]

19. I used to do aerobics and I did drill team one year in high

school (I take that back-I made it through one game and then pissed off the sponsor). I enjoy the rythym. Even when I was a runner I had a rhythm to running-it keeps you more focused.
And this summer, Callie has swimming, t-ball, and a few other activities-so it might be hard even then to get time of my own. And Missouri summers can be very hot and humid-they really suck for outdoor runs.

[ffm172]

20. I am sure you will find a way

I was a bit taken aback by my bf the other day. We talked on the phone and I told him that I didn't go to the gym on Friday (didn't go to the gym the whole week due to different reasons - one was being lazy). Anyway he said then I need to get the step into it and the right mindset because when I am pregnant and have a child it will be even harder. And he was referring to me being pregnant with his child.

[xmas74]

21. Wow! He must be planning to pick out a ring soon!

He is right, though-a pregnancy is easier when you are fit than when you are not. The labor is easier too.
I let myself go during my pregnancy and I am still fighting it-nearly 5 years later. I just can't get my stomach back to what it was before (but I did have a c-section). And my hips got bigger-not too thrilled there either.

[ffm172]

22. I know he is right

and my hips are big as they are right now already.

we talked about marrying alreday but haven't set any dates yet. The first half year of 2006 he goes to school in the States, so before that there is no chance at all the I am willing to get pregnant (I'm taking the pill).

[xmas74]

23. Will you go w/ him?

[ffm172]

25. for the half year?

no, I have my job here. But I will visit him during that time. And I will follow him wherever he has to go when I am married to him. No question about that. But as long as I am not married to him and we don't know if he gets reassigned to Germany I will not give up my hob. I am crazy but not stupid.

[xmas74]

28. I didn't realize that it was only a half year.

I don't blame you for not wanting to give up what you have there.

[ffm172]

29. he is ok with it

if he gets reassigned to Germany (and I really hope he does) we are going to move together in the middle between Frankfurt and where he lives.

[xmas74]

30. That would be great.

[ffm172]

31. yes it would be

it is one thing I really want. Living together with him, seeing him every day. And because we both work it won't be like we sit on each other 24/7. But just the thought of having him next to me in bed at night ... sigh :evilgrin:

[xmas74]

32. Wasn't our freeper fun tonight?

[ffm172]

33. yeah

it is fun to watch how everybody here just reacts.

[xmas74]

38. I didn't reply this time.

I did reply much earlier today.

[Huckebein the Raven]

34. a real laugh riot

[ffm172]

35. yes

but I bet the people in GDP were really pissed because he just shitted like he had diarrhea

[Huckebein the Raven]

36. bad diarrhea

[xmas74]

37. He got tombstoned once, then tried again.f

I bet he'll be back again tonight.

[ffm172]

39. if it brings him something ....

maybe he has no other chance to get laid ...

[xmas74]

42. Probably not.

Might not even be old enough to buy a Playboy.

[ffm172]

43. but really, what does it bring those freepers?

if a DUer goes to freerepublic he/she is causing an uproar there because he/she tries to argue. But I don't think he/she will write obscenities.

[xmas74]

44. We have a scourge of sore winners in our country

from the last election. I don't understand it either.

[ffm172]

45. isn't that always a sign that they feel guilty about something

when they gloat?

[xmas74]

46. It's a sign of them being morally bankrupt

and having been raised w/ no manners.

[ffm172]

48. in a way one feels sorry for them

but with all their hate I can't. I never will understand why it is so hard to let people who are different not live their lives after their fa con.

[xmas74]

49. I will not feel sorry for people who hate.

I will become angered and more active towards ending the hate.

[ffm172]

51. what i ment was that I feel sorry for people who might not know different

like kids who talk like their parents. But to people who hate same as you ... just get the F* out of my way.

[xmas74]

58. I feel sorry for the kids

but I despise the adults.

[ffm172]

68. and the adults don't change and teach tolerance to the kids

[xmas74]

70. Well, my child has been learning tolerance from

the time that she was still in the womb.

[ffm172]

72. but you are no repub

you just have your mind in the gutter :P

[xmas74]

73. and very proud of it!

As to the thread from GDP-it's been erased and I keep getting kicked off the internet at work. So if it takes me a few minutes to get a response back to you, now you know why.

[ffm172]

74. ok, and you should be proud of it

and I am proud to be your soul sister in the gutter .. lol

[xmas74]

75. Thanks for staying in the gutter w/ me.

It's really not too bad of a spot-a little wet sometimes and stinky but I've been in worse.

[ffm172]

76. and just remember the fun we have in the gutter

just don't put on your nicest dress ....

[xmas74]

77. Never!

Black leather mini skirt all the way!

[ffm172]

78. that's what I am talking about

just didn't know the right way to put it without getting the otherwise innocent thread locked.

[xmas74]

79. and black fishnets

thigh high boots w/ the four inch heels, a white shirt mostly unbuttoned w/ my black bra shining through.
If your gonna go slummin' ya gots ta do it right!

[ffm172]

80. for me it will be a nice dress, forming the body

witha clevage to gulp and high heels of course

[xmas74]

81. See, I prefer to look like a complete tramp.

Just makes the image complete-besides, I secretly envied those girls when I was growing up.

[ffm172]

82. To wear mini skirts I need to get through with the gym ... lol

otherwise my upper thighs are just a bit too look good. But otherwise I love mini skirts.
How tall are you?

[xmas74]

89. I tell everyone that I'm 5'4

but I'm really only about 5'2 1/2

[ffm172]

91. I'm 5'4

so were are about the same size.

[xmas74]

93. i just lie about my height all the time.

I hate being short. My driver's license says 5'5. When I had to show my license to a coworker for a background, they starting cracking up (since I was standing in front of the height tape).

[ffm172]

102. LOL

Kylie is short also and sexy. So are you.

[xmas74]

107. But most of the men around here seem to prefer taller women.

[ffm172]

110. do you mean around where you live

or her on DU?

[Freebird12004]

83. Whee... closet flinging time!

Good morning Xmas74 & ffm172

[ffm172]

84. good morning freebird

:hi:
now what would you wear? Some hot biker outfit?

[Freebird12004]

96. leather

skirt and vest with garter belt and stockings:evilgrin:

my friend made up a song about "wearing leather chaps with nothing underneath" ... butt ... I think that might be drafty

[xmas74]

90. good morning!

We have decided that if we are going to talk like tramps, then we should look the part.

[Freebird12004]

92. looking the part can be fun

corsets look wonderful under something sheer

[ffm172]

94. corsets are good

everthing that gives my boobs a push up is good ... lol

[Freebird12004]

98. the waist looks smaller

it helps to give the illusion of an hour-glass figure

[ffm172]

100. well, the hips have that impression already

jut with my boobs the hour-glass would look a deformed ... lol

[Freebird12004]

103. men love it!

I love to dress to please my date.
However, I wouldn't dress like that to go out alone.
When I was younger I never wore red with my blonde hair.

[ffm172]

104. oh I love to dress up when I go out

no matter if to a classical condert or to the club.
Begin of January I went shopping with my bf. He picked out the clothes. He has a good eye. When we came home and I did a short cat walk for him all he could do was to keep his hands to himself ... lol

[Freebird12004]

105. That's the way to go!!!

however ... sometimes - getting help, being laced into a corset makes it very difficult to actually go out :evilgrin:

[ffm172]

106. I think the only minus point with corsets is breathing

and sometimes it is fun just to dress up for the partner just to get undressed again ... hmmmm ... what should I wear Friday? :evilgrin:

[Freebird12004]

111. lace them a bit looser

the corset will still stay in place and look better if you're not turning red in the face.

I suggest that you dress in lots of sexy layers for Friday. Make him work for his treat.

[xmas74]

95. I used to own a black leather bustier

but got rid of it when I was pregnant-I was feeling maternal at the time. Otherwise, I used to own many articles of leather and many pairs of stiletos.

[ffm172]

99. you must sent me a pic of you in that outfit

I bet you look just breathtaking

[xmas74]

108. If I ever find it.

Ex is the one who took the pics.

[ffm172]

112. go searching ... lol

[xmas74]

113. I will.

[Freebird12004]

101. stilettos are out

for me.

It's a wonder that I can still walk in heels. I moved to a rural area with no sidewalks or paved driveways and for many years I didn't wear heels because they would sink into the dirt unless I walked on my toes. I became the first in my neighborhood to wear construction boots with a short skirt!

Then I divorced the gentleman and returned to turning up the thermostat for heat instead of carrying in wood for the stove.

[xmas74]

109. But I am a short woman

I like the height.

[Huckebein the Raven]

50. I can't feel sorry for someone who wears their ignorance as a

badge of honor.

[ffm172]

52. and that is the bad thing

the ignorance and the absolute denial of other ways of life except their own. Who are they to behave like that? Who are they to say our way of life is the best and everybody has to follow it or else?

[Huckebein the Raven]

53. I agree. Could it be that particular mindset isn't

tolerated in Europe to the extent that it is here ? Since I haven't traveled to Europe, I'm trying to get some idea i guess...

:shrug:

[ffm172]

55. I think there are so many different countries in Europe

and therefor too many different ways of life than that a extreme mindset has a chance. And also because of the history of Europe and Germany esp. we are more careful because we know what happened.
People got killed and banished because of their religion over the centuries and it had an impact on our mind setting. We had enough wars on our soils to know what damage it brings.

[Huckebein the Raven]

56. Since it's almost 5 am here, I'm going to log off so

I can get a few hours of sleep. It was nice talking to you.

goodnight ffm172 and xmas74

:hi:

[ffm172]

57. good night Dark-Leftist

:hi:

enjoyed talking to you also. Maybe we can continue this discussion. Was quite interesting

[tjwmason]

69. To be fair

F.R. probably gets as many disruptors as D.U., and they're remarkably similar in outlook (i.e., just trying to push the buttons of the members).

[ffm172]

88. but are they saying something about the dick size of any congress members?

[Huckebein the Raven]

47. That could be the reason

[Huckebein the Raven]

40. I think he was tombstoned twice

The clever guy that he was :eyes: , he reregistered when a name similar to the previous one the second time

But I agree, the little shit will be back.

[xmas74]

41. He did get it twice.

I think he will do it again and that it will be at night.

[tjwmason]

66. I think that this is about all that would work for me

If I had a bf (or somebody similar) who kicked me into exercise.

[ffm172]

85. oh it works for me

the other day he called me while I was napping on my couch. First thing he said was "Why ain't you at the gym". Of course I went ... lol

[ffm172]

2. self delete

dupe

[Huckebein the Raven]

4. I wish I could help you but I haven't been to the gym since high school

:shrug:

[ffm172]

6. which is since when?

:)

[Huckebein the Raven]

7. 1997

:D

[ffm172]

8. so you left school only 3 years later than I did

and I haven't done anything resembling sport since then either :)
Just started it because I can see that there is no way past it to keep my weight and loose a bit.

[Huckebein the Raven]

11. I graduated in 1998, '97 was the last time I went to gym.

I'm still the same body size I was in high school though (thin as a rail ). It's very difficult for me to gain weight. Blame it on genetics.

[ffm172]

16. unfair!!!!

but I stayed slim over the years also. When I was in the States the first time in 1994/1995 I gained some weight due to the good food my guest family cooked. But when I came back to Germany I started studying and for some reason I ate not regulary and lost the pounds again.
But it is not only to loose weight right now, it is to stay fit also.

[Huckebein the Raven]

24. I can't help it

don't hate me :)

[ffm172]

26. I don't hate you

:hug:

[Huckebein the Raven]

27. Thanks

:)

[realisticphish]

9. get involved with other people who lift

make weekly appointments. the fact that they are scheduled with other people REALLY helps you get back into it

[ffm172]

10. I try to go two times a week

and that thought came me the other day also. That it would be easier if I had someone to go with. Problem is I don't have that many friends here in Frankfurt. My friends are living all over Germany. Maybe I need to find me a friend at the gym.

[shawcomm]

12. You have to find something you love.

Otherwise you're going to have trouble sticking with it. It doesn't have to be in the gym. It could be hiking, jogging, basketball, gardening, etc. Find something you love to do that's physical and it won't seem like work.

[Floogeldy]

14. There is nothing to it but to do it

[Skittles]

54. work out at home to tapes

all you need is a step and some free weights. Skip the sweaty gym route - they are expensive, inconvenient and smelly.

[ffm172]

59. at home I get distracted too much

no, I need to go to the gym. And paying money for it is kind of a motivation. "you paid for it, now use it"

[Skittles]

62. alright then, try this

stand naked, completely NEKKED, in front of a full length mirror and turn around slowly EVERY DAY. Perhaps when you get out of the shower. Believe me, it will motivate you - it has motivated me to work out 4 - 5 times a week for the past 11 years.

[ffm172]

63. I wake by my big mirrow every morning

after I got out of the shower to my bedroom to get dressed. So I see me every day. It is not that I am overweight, I weight 67 kg. I just like to loose 5-7 kg.
And it does motivate me. That and to know that my bf goes to the gym to stay fit also.

[Skittles]

65. keep doing it as you excercise more

the more you get toned the more you will WANT to exercise, look forward to it and feel bad only if you MISS it.

[ffm172]

67. that is what I am hoping for

that it kicks in my brain an stays locked there :)

[VOX]

60. Getting to the gym is 90% of the battle. Force, cajole, trick yourself...

whatever, just to **get** to the gym. Once you're there, give yourself permission to leave after, say, 15 minutes, or 1/2 hour, etc.

Once you've gone about 3-4 times, you'll feel that you've invested enough time and sweat that you don't want to just drop all that effort into the flush-file.

You can do it, ffm172 -- :toast:

[ffm172]

64. Oh, once I am there I stay for an hour and half

incl. changing, work out and showering. It is a pretty good time frame. But you are right, to have the motivation to GET there is the biggest problem after coming home after a long day at work and changing in comfi clothes

[KG]

61. try finding something you really like doing.

gyms suck.

i never have to 'force' myself to get on my mountain bike and ride. :)

[Donailin]

71. ask a friend to meet you at the gym

that way, you have to go. Once you're there, you'll try out some things at least. Treadmill, some free weights, whatever. The day or two after, your body will respond with a little soreness, but you'll like the feeling because pain means gain -- you've strengthened some part of you, and that's what motivates you to go back.

[Freebird12004]

86. focused - ha ha ha

I do believe that I have an allergy to gyms

[ffm172]

87. LOL

that is a good way to put it.

[Freebird12004]

97. I join

but then I don't go ... so I stopped joining