My 13-yr-old came home in an emotional state

[CornField]

She no longer wishes to go to school (can't we transfer her to another district?)

She wants to change her hair color, get colored contacts and go underground. (As if the girl would make it 48 hours without cable television, her curling iron and the telephone!)

As I type, she is in her room cuddled into the corner of her bed, with the blanket over her entire body. Every so often, she draws up the memory of what happened today at school and I hear the sobs start all over again.

What terrible thing happened at school? My daughter is a 7th grader. Today, by the lockers, in front of all her friends, a 5th grader handed her a flower and professed his love.

:D I know... I'm a horrible mother. :D I shouldn't find it funny. :D

[ET Awful]

1. If she feels bad, imagine how that poor little boy feels . . .

I mean . . . talk about REJECTION.

Poor kid.

[Renew Deal]

9. That's what I was thinking.

It will be memorable for both of them.

[sui generis]

2. oh, the pain . . .

of trying not to laugh! I feel for you.

[veteran_for_peace]

3. I have three daughters who are about that age.

My eldest is in 6th grade and she is a real drama queen. I think that we can't help but find it funny. I am sure that our parents thought it was funny too.

[realisticphish]

4. why is she so upset?

i'd just be amused. but then, i'm not a 13 year old girl

[CornField]

8. She can "never show her face at school again"

:) Girls are weird that way.

[mr_hat]

10. 13-yr-olds want 16-yr-olds handing them the flowers. Poor dear!

[redqueen]

5. Awwwwwwww!

That's so sweet!

Thanks for sharing... she's not really crying about it, is she?

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

6. She seems to be too much into that popularity/clique thing

Just a random musing on my part. Maybe you should rent "Revenge of the Nerds" for her to watch.

[LibDemAlways]

7. I have a sixth grade girl....

She'd be mortified if a younger kid had a crush on her, so I know what your daughter is going through. She'll get over it.

Every day when I pick mine up, it's mood roulette. Some days cheerful and talkative, others the world is about to end. Hormones have kicked into overdrive.

[CornField]

12. Yes, that's exactly it.

Hubby and I often remind one another not to make eye contact with her anymore. You never know when you might give her the "wrong look" and send her into hysterics.

My mother passed away in 1991, but I have no doubt that, where ever she is, she is watching and laughing her ass off. :D As the saying goes: I'm payin' for my raisin'

[KitchenWitch]

11. ah the pains of adolescence

Story about my 14 year old. We were out to dinner and my son went to the bathroom for the second time in 15 minutes. As he is leaving the table, I made a comment about him having to go again....if looks could kill, I would not be here typing this.

There are some things that I would have bet would have embarrassed him, and he laughs, and other things that I think he would find funny that embarrass the shit out of him. Just a few more years.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

13. When she's 40 she's going to wonder

whatever happened to that boy...
Give her a hug for me.

[Zuni]

14. teenage girls have got to be among the weirdest things in nature

[stellanoir]

15. graciousness under fire. . . 101

Tough one.

But adorable. Ask her if she would have preferred to be confronted with criticism.

Awww forget it, either way would have been humiliating.

But I agree, just imagine how the younger boy felt.

I was just seduced by a dude 3 & 1/2 years younger and was most flattered. Funny how things change over time.

That fifth grader may just morph into a total beau hunk in ten years. Alas, teenagers live in the present though.

Hope she feels better very soon.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

16. Very cute story

[peekaloo]

17. Does he have cooties?

[Jokinomx]

18. I have two Daughters ...

11th and 12th grades. I am happy to put those middle school years behind me.

I know that it seems insignificant to you, but it is very important to respect your Daughters feelings. I have always told my girls that they CAN'T help how they feel. Give her a hug and see if you can get her talking more about her feelings to you. You may not even have to give advice.... with my children, once I got them talking about it they would ramble on... and feel much better in the end.

My oldest informed me that she is breaking up with her boyfriend of two years this Friday. She is very distressed about it...but she is going to different college this fall and she feels that it would be best to break up now rather than wait. She has very high goals and she told me last night that she couldn't see themselves together down the road.

Anyway.... listen, ask questions, listen... ask questions... listen...


Good Luck...

[mongo]

19. You only have a few more years of this to go through

so savor every moment.

At least you didn't bust out laughing in her face....I hope.

Poor kid. Everything is so important and devistating at that age.

[Renew Deal]

20. So.... Did she accept the flower?

[CornField]

24. She did

She's a good egg really -- a part of the geeky bookworm crowd. My understanding is that she and her friends pretty much stood there with their mouths open. After he left, some comments were made by the friends. Teasing stuff like "You could invite him to the next school dance, but he'd have to bring his mommy."

She's taken enough ridicule at school. She'd never purposefully hurt someone else -- even if she was embarrassed to the rim. :)

[TNDemo]

21. I guess I just posted to the copycat thread.

Didn't know it was a copy!

[Ellen Forradalom]

23. Me too

I'm so confused

[CornField]

25. A copycat, eh?

I guess it is true that nothing is sacred in the lounge. LOL!

[SarahB]

22. Be happy.

My 13 year old daughter beats up boys on the bus, yet they're always fawning all over her regardless. I think she scares them.

[Zing Zing Zingbah]

26. She'll get over it in a few days or weeks.

Junior high kids are overly emotional.