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mazzarro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 07:48 PM
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My dreary day and saddest news
Just got the darkest news of my life - the passing of my mother - she was in her seventies and has been ill for a while. My father passed about two and half years ago and I had been hoping and planning to spend more time with my mother to make up for not doing same with my father in his waning years. It is hard and heavy for me now!
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crispini Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 07:49 PM
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1. Aw.
((( HUG ))) losing parents is always difficult. ((( HUG )))
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proud2BlibKansan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 07:50 PM
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2. Oh how sad
:cry:

Yes, that is dark news. But if she had been ill, she is in a better place now.

So sorry for your loss.
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Texasgal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 07:50 PM
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3. I am so sorry...
:hug:

Losing a parent is very rough.

May peace be with you.
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LaurenG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 07:52 PM
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4. I am so sorry
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Redstone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 07:52 PM
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5. I'd like to offer you my condolences.
"Ill for a while" or not, it's never easy to lose a parent or any other loved one.

Not ever.

Take as much healing time as you need, and do not, repeat not, beat yourself up for what you feel you "should have done." I am sure you did what you could, and that's the best any of us can do.

Redstone
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OrwellwasRight Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 07:56 PM
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6. I know we can't make it better.
But we can send good thoughts and hugs. I lost my dad several years ago myself.

And don't feel any obligation to feel one way or another, and don't let anyone tell you you are not upset enough or crying too much, or whatever. However you are getting through is what is right for you.

:hug:
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nini Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 07:56 PM
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7. So sorry... :-(
I can't even imagine and I don't want to know.

:hug:
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Callalily Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 07:57 PM
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8. Sending healing
prayers and hugs.
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RevCheesehead Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 07:58 PM
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9. my deepest sympathy to you.
you're in my prayers. :hug:
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maveric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 08:07 PM
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10. Sorry to hear that mazzarro. I went through that in March of this year.
My Ma died alone, in her bedroom, 3000 miles away from my brother and me. My Dad died in 2000 and she never was the same after that. I too wanted to spend time with her and take care of her but geography and other things prevented me from doing so. Try not to let the guilt bury you like I let happen.
Its very hard to lose a parent. Especially a mother.
Peace,
MAveRiC
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Metta Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 08:28 PM
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11. You can still be with her for awhile.
Just imagine/ask/ see/ feel (whatever works for you) that you're where she is and the strength of your relationship will bring you right there. See yourselves surrounded by gentle, flaming gold. Any movement or change in evergy/ image means that you're both processing. Stay as long as you want. Focus the flame on/between the two of you. Have all the conversations you ever wanted. Just remember to breathe normally. It's truly a peaceful connection. If the energy/ situation settles, you might want to bring up a perfectly formed, comfortably large circle around each of you and sit with whatever comes/ you make out of that.
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Metta Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 08:30 PM
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12. Sorry to hear of your loss.
Just imagine/ask/ see/ feel (whatever works for you) that you're where she is and the strength of your relationship will bring you right there. See yourselves surrounded by gentle, flaming gold. Any movement or change in evergy/ image means that you're both processing. Stay as long as you want. Focus the flame on/between the two of you. Have all the conversations you ever wanted. Just remember to breathe normally. It's truly a peaceful connection. If the energy/ situation settles, you might want to bring up a perfectly formed, comfortably large circle around each of you and sit with whatever comes/ you make out of that. You'll be able to access this transforming gift of grace for a few days more or less.

I'm glad you reached out to the lounge.
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 08:38 PM
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13. so sorry mazzarro
don't be hard on yourself
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I Have A Dream Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 09:38 PM
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14. I'm so sorry, mazzarro. Please take care of yourself and...
let us know if we can do anything to help during this difficult period.

:hug:
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redwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-07-05 09:44 PM
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15. very sorry for your loss
I too have lost both my parents, mom a year ago on December 12th. It's very hard. Hold on, you will get to a better place than where you are now.
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newyawker99 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-05 04:48 AM
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16. I send my condolences to you and your family.
May your mother rest in peace.


:hug:
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NMMNG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-05 05:20 AM
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17. A big hug and Metta for you mazzarro
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Bunny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-05 05:29 AM
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18. I'm so sorry.
My condolences on your loss. :hug:
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MissHoneychurch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-05 05:30 AM
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19. My condolences
:hug:

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Debbi801 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-05 09:12 AM
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20. I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you.
:hug:
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Strong Atheist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-05 09:25 AM
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21. Words don't help
I KNOW.:grouphug: Sorry anyway. The same with me and my dad, two years ago...
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Love Bug Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-05 09:38 AM
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22. Deepest sympathy, mazzarro
:hug:
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-05 09:39 AM
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23. I am so sorry! It must be tough!
:hug:
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rockymountaindem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-05 09:41 AM
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24. My condolences
n/t
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-05 09:41 AM
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25. I'm very sorry for your loss.
My thoughts are with you at this difficult time. :hug: :cry:
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progmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-05 09:43 AM
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26. I am so sorry to hear that.
:hug:
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RFKHumphreyObama Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-05 09:50 AM
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27. My dear Mazzarro. Please accept my deepest, most sincere
and profound thoughts, prayers and condolences to you and all your family on the loss of your mother and also on the loss of your father. While my parents are still alive, I can partially relate to how you are feeling because I lost my beloved last surviving grandmother two weeks ago. Once again you have my sincere and heartfelt thoughts, prayers and condolences:hug: :loveya:
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-08-05 09:52 AM
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28. I am so very, very sorry for your loss.
Someone sent this to me when my mom passed and it really meant a lot. Hopefully, it will bring you some comfort as well.

I AM NOT THERE

DO NOT STAND AT MY GRAVE AND WEEP,
I AM NOT THERE, I DO NOT SLEEP

I AM A THOUSAND WINDS THAT BLOW,

I AM THE DIAMONDS GLINTS ON SNOW,

I AM THE SUNLIGHT ON RIPENED GRAIN,

I AM THE GENTLE AUTUMN RAIN.

WHEN YOU AWAKEN IN THE MORNINGS HUSH
I AM THE SWIFT UPLIFTING RUSH,
OF QUIET BIRDS IN CIRCLED FLIGHT.

I AM THE SOFT STARS THAT SHINE AT NIGHT.

DO NOT STAND AT MY GRAVE AND CRY,
I AM NOT THERE, I DID NOT DIE.
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