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FuzzySlippers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:27 PM
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So why are boring, nerdy guys .....
convinced that women are attracted to bad guys?

:popcorn: :popcorn: :popcorn:
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jpgray Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:29 PM
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1. I dunno. Want to meet for a sundae?
:loveya:
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devilgrrl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:30 PM
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2. Because all the women they find "desireable" like "bad guys"
That's what I keep hearing anyway....

:popcorn:
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Ava Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:30 PM
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3. i like nerdy guys
i can't stand jocks. i dated a guy on the soccer team once. he took longer to get ready than i do. he was so vain.

i find nerdy, smart, and funny guys to be the most attractive.
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Omphaloskepsis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:35 PM
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4. I'm nerdy....
Sure, it is 9:30 PM on a Friday night and I am at home. But, I wouldn't consider myself boring.

I don't really buy the Bad Boy theory.
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FuzzySlippers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:37 PM
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6. Mr. Guggenheim does.
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:45 PM
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12. How do you do strike throughs?
I love nerdy guys who can answer my important questions.

And if they can help me learn something, they definitely aren't boring! :hi:

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Oeditpus Rex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:50 PM
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15. You know how to do italics?
Use an 's' instead of an 'i'.

George W. Bush is a fine president.
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 12:17 AM
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16. Ohh my!
You make it so easy :blush:

Thank you!

ignorant about strike throughs

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Oeditpus Rex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 12:32 AM
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17. So, since I knew that
I must be a boring, nerdy guy. :cry:
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FuzzySlippers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 12:38 AM
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18. But that's the kind merh likes.
:D

My matchmaking duties are finished here.
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Oeditpus Rex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 12:42 AM
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19. But I don't WANNA be a boring, nerdy guy!
:cry:
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 01:04 AM
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21. No, nerdy guys are not boring
You may be nerdy, but you are definitely not boring. :pals:

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Oeditpus Rex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 01:13 AM
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24. Okay
I can live with that. :hug:
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sakabatou Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:36 PM
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5. Inferiority complex possibly...
And the fact the women see geeks as having some kind of germ, or "cootie" effect.
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alarcojon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:37 PM
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7. Not sure of the answer to that
Edited on Fri Apr-07-06 11:38 PM by alarcojon
but there are plenty of interesting, attractive guys who feel the same way.
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FuzzySlippers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:41 PM
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10. For the record, this is not a serious post.
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alarcojon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:44 PM
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11. Yes, I know
the topic had been going around for some time.
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OrangeCountyDemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:40 PM
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8. I Resemble That Remark
I suppose that as a CPA, sitting home working on tax returns on a Friday evening, it qualifies me as a "nerd." But I still think of myself as a "cool" person, and it's my intelligence and easy going nature which makes me into a nerd.

But women do in general seem to go for the guys who treat them poorly, and are phony in the end. But that is typical of our country, as evidenced by the large percentage who will believe someone like King george.

Oh, to meet a short, "cute" and younger liberal female who is geographically compatible, would be wonderful!
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NNadir Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:40 PM
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9. Because all the guys who are not us are bad guys. They have our gals.
All of my wife's former suitors think I'm a bad guy. And they are right. I am thrilled to be the bad guy in this case.
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:48 PM
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13. Because it's reality. It's that damn simple.
Got it?

Chicks love assertiveness and aggressiveness. No matter how cute the guy is, if he's a weenie or not asservive, what the fuckever, they will do nothing.
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FuzzySlippers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-07-06 11:50 PM
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14. Oh Hypno, this wasn't meant to be serious.
I hate aggressive, macho jerks.
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 08:26 AM
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43. Forgive me, I tend to take things literally.
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Lydia Leftcoast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 01:04 AM
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20. Because they mistakenly see themselves as "nice" when they're just
bland and emotionally stunted.
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FuzzySlippers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 01:10 AM
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23. Oh jeez, Lydia, this wasn't meant to be serious.
Please don't turn my silly copycat into a flamewar. Pretty please with sugar on top?
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Derailer Donating Member (332 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 05:35 AM
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33. I'm not a bad boy by any stretch*
but I agree with this post

*although Mistress does call me "BAD!" all the time...
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Random_Australian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 01:09 AM
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22. Because they think they never meet women when they are looking for a
relationship (WWTLFAR). 'Why will she be only friends?' plus seeing WWTLFAR as the antithesis to normal, and seeing normality as a reaction to their personality/actions, therefore the perceived antithesis if their personality, ie. bad guys, must be what causes WWTLFAR.

Make sense to you?

It is logical, just with a flawed premise.... that they do not beliece any women are attracted to them. Simple.
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Random_Australian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 01:15 AM
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25. Aslo, 'bad' girls prolly go with 'bad' guys. And what was the
Edited on Sat Apr-08-06 01:24 AM by Random_Australian
stereotype of a 'bad' girl? 'Special hugging' before marriage. Also not demure (ie. covered from ankle to neck in 15 sheets of pigiron), and whatnot, so sexual non-abstaining girls became associated with 'bad' guys.

That's two good reasons now.
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Derailer Donating Member (332 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 05:36 AM
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34. My God it does all make perfect sense!
It makes perfect sense to me

In unrelated news I'm going to shave my pet goose completely bald right now
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Random_Australian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 05:40 AM
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35. Um, mate, WTF?
Are you bieng serious? Hard to tell with them goose-shavers.
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Derailer Donating Member (332 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 05:42 AM
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36. What the hell was with all the acronym talk?
WWTFLAR was it? If you thought what I posted was bizarre try pretending you are an English-speaker and re-reading your post ;)
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Random_Australian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 05:43 AM
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37. I did tell you what the acronym was. I'll rewrite it.
Edited on Sat Apr-08-06 05:47 AM by Random_Australian
Because they think they never meet women when they are looking for a relationship. 'Why will she be only friends?' plus seeing women who are looking for a relationship as the antithesis to normal, and seeing normality as a reaction to their personality/actions, therefore the perceived antithesis of their personality, ie. bieng a bad guy, must be what causes women to look for a relationship.

Make sense to you?

It is logical, just with a flawed premise.... that they do not believe any women are attracted to them. Simple

-------------------------
O.K, better, goose shaver?
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Derailer Donating Member (332 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 06:05 AM
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38. OK I guess
maybe it was just too early in the morning for me because my brain was processing it as something akin to WWWKD?

...

VhatVouldVilhelmKlinkDo?
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Random_Australian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 06:15 AM
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39. Awesome!
:headbang:

My sigline used to be this joke I made when amazingly tired. It was obscene, yet cool.
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Derailer Donating Member (332 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 06:17 AM
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40. In that situation
mine would just be obscenely unfunny :)
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Random_Australian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 06:30 AM
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41. delete
Edited on Sat Apr-08-06 06:31 AM by Random_Australian
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ghostsofgiants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 01:16 AM
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26. Hey, I've never once made that assertion.
x(
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FuzzySlippers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 01:24 AM
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27. You're definitely not boring.
Nerdy....:shrug:
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u4ic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 01:31 AM
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28. I dunno
most bad boys think women are attracted to them, too... :shrug:
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ZombieNixon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 01:41 AM
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29. Because they've gotta be attracted to somebody
and it certainly ain't us. x( x( x( x( x( :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead:
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lakemonster11 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 04:29 AM
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30. I don't like boring guys, but I love nerdy guys.
To me being nerdy is all about being openly interested in a range of things that "cool" guys think they're too "cool" to care about. Why would I want to hang out with a guy who thinks he's too cool to talk about literature, art, politics, or science? Nerdy guys aren't afraid of being different---"cool" guys are all about conformity.

Most of the guys I know (pretty much all nerds) are very attractive. They're not built like models or athletes, but they're cute and charismatic. Best of all, they can carry on intelligent conversations.
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Elnendil Taramon Donating Member (17 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 04:39 AM
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31. I kinda buy it.
Well, I just usually see it because alot of women date these jocks and then get bitch slapped in the face and they're like "OH BUT I LOVE HIM!".

I saw a relationship go like that during lunch a few months ago, I was wanting to drop kick the guy in the face.
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EstimatedProphet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 05:28 AM
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32. You just think I'm nerdy because I'm not Patrick Swayze.
You and your 'bad boys make me hot!' attitude!

:)
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 08:00 AM
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42. Because they haven't realized that some women really prefer brainacks.

Like me! I really don't want a bad boy because I don't want to worry about my lover. I prefer a man with brains over the wild and crazy type.


:hi: It was nice talking with you last night!
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FuzzySlippers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 12:08 PM
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50. Fun talking to you, too, Joani!
:hi: Unfortunately, the other person I talked to didn't make a bit of sense.;)
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fortyfeetunder Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 08:46 AM
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44. It's a figment of their imagination
Women do like nerdy guys...it's not too obvious.
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progmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 09:01 AM
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45. i dunno about boring guys....
but nerdy guys just need to move to Ann Arbor. Every day we see hoards of nerdy-looking guys with beautiful women downtown. :shrug:
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Patiod Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 09:36 AM
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46. Bad = confident
It's all about confidence. Not necessarily badness.
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WritingIsMyReligion Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 09:44 AM
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47. Bad also often = idiocy.
Idiocy = not such a turn-on.

:D :P :D
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Patiod Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 11:19 AM
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48. You got that right
I remember a "bad" overconfident guy in college I thought was hot. Kind of lost his lustre after I saw him being led out of the stadium for peeing over the side of the stadium...onto a cop. Idiocy indeed.
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windy252 Donating Member (742 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 12:27 PM
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52. lol
When I was in high school, one of my fellow castmates in a play started peeing in a public parking lot. The look on one of the girl's faces was priceless.
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windy252 Donating Member (742 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 12:20 PM
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51. So maybe it wasn't my imagination
As a boring guy who could've sworn I saw in a woman's facial expression while her boyfriend was screaming at the gym "I know, he's an idiot, isn't he?"
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JackDragna Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 11:45 AM
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49. Because boring, nerdy guys..
..don't make the effort to do the little things to make themselves attractive. There are bad guys out there, to be sure, but their attractiveness to women is overemphasized by the pathetic to justify their inability to find a woman. When I say "pathetic" here, I mean the type who just moan about their situations without looking at themselves and seeing their own faults. Nobody, to me, is a nerd or "loser" until they give up.

I actually hate the uber-nerd complainer and their views of women much more than I hate the jock type. The nerds are much more into this idea, even if they don't say it, that women are dumb and always choose mates based on superficial criteria.

BTW, www.heartlessbitches.com is a GREAT site about this topic.
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