Do any of you sleep separately from your SO?

[sbj405]

That is those that live together. I've been sleeping poorly the last few weeks. The last couple of days I've slept in the extra room. It has helped and I'm actually sleeping through the night. SO doesn't like it, but is unwilling to admit that he wakes me when he comes to bed or that he snores/tosses/turns all night long.

[WindRavenX]

1. well, technically yes

Only because we only live together with each other on the weekends :D

(there have been nights where I've had insomnia and I just go on the computer in the other room while he sleeps, though).

[Ariana Celeste]

2. Once in awhile I have to.

Due to either insomnia, or aches and pains that cause me to toss and turn for a couple hours before I finally fall asleep. Drives my SO crazy sometimes... So I either go to the computer or lay down on the couch- fortunately we have a very comfortable couch. :D

[Courtesy Flush]

3. 23 years and still one bed.

We wouldn't be able to decide who gets the cat at night.

[bertha katzenengel]

8. We split 'em. She usually gets Charley (when she's in the house), I

usually get Toby, and the rest we split depending upon their moods.

Meow. :hi:

[bigwillq]

4. Yes

for a variety of reasons. We don't live together all the time (long story) plus he goes to bed early and I am up all night.

[ismnotwasm]

5. Sometimes

My husband has Multiple Sclerosis, and our bedroom is downstairs. He has a hard time with stairs. He often sleeps on the couch. Plus, I like to read and quiet, and he likes TV and a little noise to sleep.
We, ah--find a happy medium quite often, however (cough)

[gollygee]

6. We don't sleep together

it started when I was pregnant 4 to 5 years ago - I was sleeping very badly and keeping him up, and of course he had to work so that was a problem. He started sleeping in the guest room and got much much better sleep there, and so he's stayed there.

We still get together frequently enough :D That hasn't been a problem at all. But I think we both sleep better this way.

[bertha katzenengel]

7. I sleep in the guest room because I snore too loudly. Mrs. V. can't sleep.

You are not alone.

Sigh.

[progmom]

28. MisU can recommend some really great earplugs

:hi:

[NewJeffCT]

9. rarely, but sometimes

if my daughter wakes up at night, she sometimes crawls into bed with the 2 of us... and, she really tosses and turns in bed, so I can't sleep with her there. My wife could sleep through a war, so it doesn't really bother her.

[flamingyouth]

10. Temporarily, yes

He lives in Texas, at least for the next few weeks. ;)

I think sometimes people have to make arrangements like this to get better sleep. You might also try earplugs. I like the kind that you mold to fit inside the ear - they are a godsend. I need my sleep, so I can relate. Good luck, and sweet dreams. :hi:

[Broken_Hero]

16. I understand the ear plugs...

My wife and I still sleep in the same bed, but any noise will wake her up, and as you can tell, I like staying up late, posting on DU...:) and sometimes, she could hear, honest to god, the sound of my fingers typing and it would wake her up, or keep her up...

Needless to say, after a few...spats, she got soem flex fit ear plugs, and no problems, since. I jsut have to watch how much noise/movement i do when i crawl into bed....

[havocmom]

11. About half the time. Am older with arthritis and Havocdad is lite sleeper

Sometimes I am awake 2/3 of the night due to pain. Have to stretch and rock to get back to sleep. He is a very light sleeper AND more of a night owl than I am. He also is up a lot with acid reflux (and he WILL NOT go to the doctor). Between the two of us, the 90 Pound Hound can hardly get his zzzzz's! Oh, and the dog is a bed hog.

We prefer to sleep together, but so long as nobody takes it personally, sleeping apart is OK. I usually fall asleep fast then wake with pain after an hour or so. Easy to move into the other room if he is asleep. He will do likewise if he needs to sit up to sleep. We get used to it.

Sleep is VERY important.

Personally, I am looking for bunk beds in queen size :D

[Mutley]

12. We used to sometimes.

I'd sleep on the couch because he was so freakin loud. Snoring, grinding his teeth.... my God! That's one nice thing about being single.

Apparently I talk in my sleep sometimes. I used to sleepwalk when I was a kid, but the last time I did that was about 5 years ago.

[graywarrior]

13. Yep. One of us is usually wandering the house at 3 am.

So either he or I end up on the sofa or the other bedroom, or on DU.

[SeattleGirl]

14. Yep, nearly every night, actually.

First, he's an early bird and I'm a night owl. Oftentimes when I do come to bed, it wakes him up, as he is a light sleeper. He ends up sleeping on the couch. Other times, I sleep on the hide-a-bed in the lower level of the house, either because I just fall asleep there or I decide to do it, if MrSG is not feeling well (he has some health problems), and I don't want to disturb his much-needed sleep.

[mykpart]

15. Hubby has Combat PTSD.

When we invaded Iraq, his nightmares came back for a while, so we slept separately. Then we got twin beds, but the same bedroom. Still have the twin beds, but now they are pushed together. This works very well for us, since we are both light sleepers and toss & turn a lot.

[SeattleGirl]

17. Sounds like you reached a good compromise

A way to be together, and yet deal with his nightmares and both of your light sleeping.

[cobalt1999]

18. together at home, but...

we get hotel rooms with 2 double beds vs. the 1 king size when we travel. Being in different time zones, eating new foods, trying new things, can mess with our sleep habits, so we both do better in different beds away from home.

Of course, that leads to the discussion of whose bed gets used when we are together. :) Hint: Make your move and get to the SO's bed first! Then you can retreat back to your nice clean bed afterwords.

[Midlodemocrat]

19. Sometimes. I sleep poorly and he snores.

[ScreamingMeemie]

20. I just can't do it...My parents did and my grandparents did.

I don't want to end up with separate rooms, even though I fully understand those who do choose them. It just reminds me too much of "them". A head thing basically. So, instead, I come here and bitch about MrG's snoring to you fine folk.

[mcar]

21. Yes

21 years married, always slept together. SO recently started snoring and I am the world's lightest sleeper. Also, the slightest disruption in my sleep routine sends me into crushing insomnia.

So, SO usually sleeps on the bottom bunk in DS's room. Some nights I'll take the couch.

It's not ideal but not much is more important than adequate sleep.

[Iniquitous Bunny]

22. A couple of nights a week.

Opposite shift issues. We both have trouble sleeping when we're apart now.

[azmouse]

23. My husband snores VERY loudly.

I haven't been able to sleep through the night with him in years. But we get some cuddle time in the mornings when I go into his bedroom to wake him up.
I'm wondering what I'll do next year when we go on a cruise and I can't get away from the sound. Will I be able to get any sleep at all?

[WritingIsMyReligion]

29. My dad snores horrendously, and my mom uses hefty earplugs.

Any way something like that could work for you, if only for the cruise?

:hi:

[azmouse]

30. I'd have to get used to wearing earplugs first.

I think they're uncomfortable. Maybe sticking a HUGE cork in hubby's mouth would work better?
heeheehee...I'm bad! :evilgrin:

[WritingIsMyReligion]

31. I say, go for the cork.

:evilgrin:

I've worn earplugs before, though, and they weren't so bad... :shrug:

[China_cat]

24. We've slept in separate rooms for several years now.

My health is not good and I rarely sleep more than an hour at a time. I consider it a really good night if I get 3 consecutive hours of sleep. If I don't go elsewhere, he doesn't get to sleep any more than I do. We still spend a lot of time together. We just sleep separately.

[LaraMN]

25. Yup. For 4 +1/2 years.

I sleep in JackMN's room. My husband snores really badly, and I can't sleep in the same room as him.

[Debi]

26. Sometimes, unfortunately

We have a rule in our house, if someone falls asleep on the couch - let them sleep.

I usually fall asleep on the couch during the Daily Show or Colbert Report and my husband tip toes off to bed. I don't want to wake him up in the middle of the night climbing into bed, so I end up sleeping on the couch. *sigh*

I try real hard to stay awake or if I feel like I'm drifting to sleep I'll try to head back to the bed room and turn on the TV in there.

I really like to wake up next to my husband, so I hate it when I fall asleep on the couch. Again *sigh*

[slide to the left]

27. My parents do

My dad used to snore loudly and my mom was in grad school and would stay up studying. My dad sleeps on the couch a lot. Now, though, he travels most of the week so its not an issue as much. They have been happy for 24 years even in separate rooms.

[Roon]

32. Yep

We have our own seperate rooms. I hate sharing the bed with anyone and of course, you don't sleep as well.