Well eharmony was quite the self-esteem crusher!

[MsAnthropy]

Yikes. I was rejected by 12 men I wouldn't want to be seen with anyway. That's $60 I'll never get back. Anybody had good luck with online dating?

[puerco-bellies]

1. I've been dating Alison for almost a year..

I met her on Yahoo personals. (cheap arn't I?)

[MsAnthropy]

3. Not cheap--smarter than I was!

:thumbsup: :applause:

I'm so glad you found someone!

[wildhorses]

2. eharmony ....well

the whole new millenium dating scene just SUCKS...

[MsAnthropy]

4. Got that right

and being 50 and single sucks double.

[Ohio Joe]

5. No luck here

I used Match.com for about a year and a half and the horror stories are plentiful :(

[MsAnthropy]

9. There's got to be an easier way

:scared:

[FarLeftRage]

6. I went through that too

Although my problem was, they set me up with fundy women... A no-win stiuation indeed.

[MsAnthropy]

8. I did use code words like "part of the reality-based community"

so that might be why I got kicked to the curb so many time. I wanted to weed out the right wingers ahead of time!

[FarLeftRage]

12. I approached it straight forward

and still could not get out of the position they were setting up for me.

A waste of time and money...

[Gidney N Cloyd]

7. eharmony creeps me out.

They make you take that endless survey before they ever mention what they're charging. And them calling someone whose survey results come closest to yours your "soulmate" is a bit of a stretch.

Still, the worst dating service situation I was in ever was years ago when I was literally locked in an office until the counselor had a chance to wear me down and make me sign a contract. When I got up to try to leave and found the door locked I had to threaten to break it down.

[MsAnthropy]

11. Yes, they matched me before I had even paid them!

that's how they hook you in. That survey was horrendous--too much like the Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory test.

[taterguy]

10. Used Spring Street

Lurked for a very long time. Responded to an ad in December 2002. Had face to face meeting after 2 days of exchanging emails. Been happily with her ever since.

[MsAnthropy]

13. Cool!

:toast:

Glad it actually works sometimes!

[wildhorses]

14. never heard of that one...how does it work? n/t

[taterguy]

19. not sure about their current policies

In 2002 registration was free and allowed you to browse / search. To respond to an ad you had to compose your own ad and buy credits. Of course now I have a bunch of credits I'll never use since you buy them in increments of 25. It was still the best money I ever spent.

[jukes]

15. i think there's a "liberal" dating site

i'll try to google it up y edit in a link.


EDIT:

http://liberal.date.com/dating/kansas.htm
Liberal dating, Liberal personals, Liberal singles, Liberal chat at Date.com

http://www.match.com/politic/Liberal.html
Match.com: Local Singles, Online Dating, and Personals in the United States (USA)

[MsAnthropy]

25. It'll take me a while to get my nerve up again

[jukes]

29. 'swhy i sugg'd a "liberal" service

plenty of nutjob libs out there, too, but WAY less offensive/distasteful.

[TallahasseeGrannie]

41. Don't give up!

But don't use eharmony. I heard it is a nest of pubs.

[redqueen]

16. I haven't tried it... married.

But I know a very wonderful man who has had very little (if any) luck with one of those services.

Good luck...

[eyesroll]

17. Try Adult Friend Finder.

:evilgrin:

'Course, you probably wouldn't want to be seen with any of those men, either (as your first introduction to them will be with pictures of their genitals instead of their faces). But as a single woman, you're virtually guaranteed hundreds of responses. :scared:

[MsAnthropy]

20. LOL! I've got to find that site!

:rofl:

[no name no slogan]

40. ....

:spray:

some "swinging" friends of my ex-wife used to use that site for their "hook-ups". ew.

[eyesroll]

43. Hey, if it works, it works. :D

Actually, I do have to give people who post on that site and sites like it some credit -- at least it's honest. They want sex, they post that they want sex, they sometimes get sex. There's nobody pretending they want romance and long walks on the beach.

Plenty of people use Match or Yahoo to troll for sex, but hide behind "looking for my soul mate" profiles.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

18. Yep

Had luck a while back with eharmony and luck this time around with match.com.

It takes time, and people will reject you based on just about anything. People tend to be far more fickle when it comes to online dating. Stick with it if you've already paid. It might pan out for you soon enough.

[snooper2]

21. eharmony

is for fundies...my ex-boss married another fundie from there about a year ago. They are happy, but the also both believe the Earth is 6000 years old, literally....

[MsAnthropy]

22. I wish they'd mention that in those commercials!

:puke: I got sucked in because the commercials made it look so easy!

[snooper2]

23. Yeah, but you will look at those commercials in a different light now

:)

[LeftyMom]

24. Never tried a service

but I met somebody pretty darn great here at DU, if that counts.

[crispini]

26. Try Craigslist.

It's free. And I got like 60 responses to my ad. Only one total asshole, the rest were pretty decent types. Already been out on 5 or 6 coffee dates. It's great!

[MsAnthropy]

27. Thanks!

I'll try it

[crispini]

31. I'm having fun this time.

I decided to just sort of leave my laundry list of qualifications at the door and just go out and "date" with no expectations.

It's sort of like being a tourist in the land of men. They are all so interesting and different. I haven't found a place to hang my hat yet though! :evilgrin:

[WCGreen]

35. I like that....

Really...

When I was just looking for fun and not a lasting relationship, I had the best time and met someone with whom I formed a lasting relationship.....

[WolverineDG]

39. Can ya dig one up for me?

:evilgrin:

dg

[crispini]

48. Girl, I wish you were here, we could double date!

Now we SHOULD be able to find us some hotties in Ft. Worth, bwahahaha!

[WolverineDG]

49. As long as they're liberal hotties

:thumbsup:

dg

[begin_within]

28. My niece met someone on eHarmony, married him 5 months after first

meeting him in person, then were divorced 9 months after that.

[crispini]

30. Oooo. Not good.

Ouch!

[Deja Q]

32. You passed their personal profile questionaire... I've lost far more money

on websites that have pay-for fees but will accept anybody with a credit card.

[Autonomy]

33. Oh-for-twelve doesn't really sound that bad

it can take a lot more than that. Figure that the ~50 crowd is looking more for a long-term relationship than a hookup, and the eharmony crowd ever moreso... even after narrowing down a few search parameters, like eharmony does, you'd have to assume that 1 out of every 12 guys is your soul mate to think you'd come up with a match already.

I guess it's easy for a guy to see it this way. We have to deal with far tougher odds from teens onward. One is 12 is NOTHING. Not to belittle your experience. But 12 "potentials"? You're not even halfway to warming up to start preparing to get ready to potentially begin stretching your muscles to begin the real search. Get back to us when you reach 200, then we can swap stories. ;)

[MsAnthropy]

44. You're probably right

my little ego has to be able to take a lot more than this, I think.

I LOVE THIS!:
"You're not even halfway to warming up to start preparing to get ready to potentially begin stretching your muscles to begin the real search."

That about sums up my whole life! :-)

[Autonomy]

47. "That about sums up my whole life"

That about sums up the half my life that I haven't yet started putting off planning to get around to procrastinating on someday.

The other half I am saving in case of invasion by the Nude Warrior-Women from the Planet Amazonia. Just in case.

[bikebloke]

34. Many of those online personals are fraudulent.

Some guy is suing Match.com and Yahoo for bogus profiles. He's seen the same ones listed in different cities. Or the site itself would send him a message, so he'd have to pay to reply.

Once as an experiment, I signed up with a bunch of personal sites when they were giving away free credits to try them. I've met a couple women. We didn't click. One had even had plastic surgery after her photos were taken (I thought she looked better before). I've since deleted most.

I have one in Nerve, plus some free credits for posting photos. But so far no one has impressed me enough to spend them. Then there's OKcupid.com which is completely free, but more fun just to take the tests.

[Autonomy]

37. Yeah, Yahoo personals are mostly fake

and it's obvious if you know what to look for: a single (only one) attractive headshot, followed by a large search range, large age range, a 5 lines of very general description that is correctly spelled, grammared, and capitalized. No other details.

[chaska]

36. I want to marry a Canadian....

Several, if possible.

But seriously, anyone know of any sites/whatever that try to hook us up across national boundaries? I know there is that humorous site - at least I thought they were joking. I'm planning a move to Montreal in a couple of months and, well, a boy's thoughts turn to love ... and filthy, nasty say-ex (fundy pronunciation).

[MsAnthropy]

45. I may join you if Jeb becomes president

:scared:

[Samurai_Writer]

38. I'm about to meet someone in person from eharmony

And no, he's not a fundy. He's a Wiccan and liberal as they come. We are meeting over Memorial Day weekend. He is the ONLY person I got through those numerous communication steps with. I had about 50 reject me before I got to him. He seems like a great guy and we have a lot in common. So hopefully the in person meeting will go well! If not, that's just the way it goes. I'm in no hurry to find a Mr. RadFem. I'll just keep looking. Craigslist has been a good place for me to meet people locally, too. And it's free.

[Dukkha]

42. how's this for sleazy

there's a service called Great Expectations that charges huge amounts, $3000 - $5000, for their services promising wealthy professionals. They tell their female clients that most women that come there charge their services on a credit card with the intentions of finding the man of their dreams who will pay off the credit card balance for them.

[MsAnthropy]

46. Oh my

:wow:

[xmas74]

50. Nope.

Smug assholes, the lot of 'em.