Doh! She called - well, text-messaged me

[HEyHEY]

Remember this?

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x5182519

Got a late-night TM from her.
This blows, now I'm going to have to call her back and we'll both be pretending everything is normal.
Goddamnit.

[Skittles]

1. why do you have to call her back?

I'm just asking

[HEyHEY]

11. I don't wanna be a dick

Thing is, I'm bound to see her again as her friend is dating my buddy.
Which is why, when she didn't call in the first place I was happy to leave it. Then the next time we met it would've been fine, and we probably would have ended up friends.
So, if I don't call her now, it's a basis for situation el akward next time we meet. I sent her a TM back that just said "If you wanna go out sometime, let me know. If not, that's okay."

[achtung_circus]

2. Context.

What did the message say (within reason, of course)?

[HEyHEY]

15. basically

"Sorry for not calling, I've been busy. Talk to ya soon."
Which, is pretty generic, hence she was just sending it cause of my friend's guilt trip. Hopefully this will pass.

[ScreamingMeemie]

3. Well, how about wiping the slate clean, pretend your jerky friend

didn't say anything and see what happens? Good luck HH

[stellanoir]

4. Ya know

everything could be "normal" if you make it so.

So you have a meddlesome friend. Big deal.

That could be interpreted innumerable ways. Some women are impressed that guys actually share stuff with one another other than sports. It's refreshing when guys show that they care. Doesn't make you lame at all.

It's totally plausible that she was indeed busy and that she didn't want to seem too desparate or needy.

Your friend may or may not have given her the encouragement and reinforcemnt she needed to know that she was not entirely forgetable.

Maybe chill and be tentatively casual and see how this unfolds. These incidents are often awkward for both parties involved.

Aaaand have fun dammit !!! You met a cool chick and enjoyed her company. Don't sabotage it over extraneous silliness. Okay?

[realisticphish]

5. hey, you never know

talk to her, gauge her reaction, see if she might have actually reconsidered :shrug:

[jukes]

6. send

her flowers, balloons, & a male stripper. leave Hallmark (tm) cards on her dashboard.

text a poem by marlowe (but claim authorship).

arrange a mariachi band to serenade outside her residence.


it's important to carefully coordinate all of the above for maximum impact. no avenue shd be left out, o/c...





seriously, let time unfold. not knowing the TM she sent, i'd sugg an off-hand reply, "was nice meeting you the other night, wd like to get together again soon. i'll call in a couple of weeks, when i sort out some projects i'm dealing w/."

my experience sugg's that females don't like a guy who seems too needy, y your bud has started that impression. play it casual, y tell your friend, discretely, that you'd rather he leave it up to you.

after some time has passed, give her a call. if machine answers, leave a number; but phrase the msg cool, way, way cool.

it's still salvageable. no dowt she's had a meddling friend of her own, so if you're cool, she won't feel pressured.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

7. Just go for it.

You have nothing to lose and there is no reason why this would make the relationship any different than any other.

[LaurenG]

8. You know as weird as this all turned out

She is probably your future wife. lol This could be interesting.

[Evergreen Emerald]

9. I can't take it anymore!

What did the text message say?

My two-cents: Call her up and ask her out if you are interested.

[Fleshdancer]

10. Make a joke out of it

Ask her if your friend paid her to text message you...something silly like that. Humor cures most dating faux pas...even if they're created by a meddling 3rd party. ;)

[JVS]

12. Ewww text message. She thinks you're icky

[HEyHEY]

13. That's the way I look at it

Plus, in the message she just basically apologized for not calling and said "Talk to ya soon."

Fuck sakes. I never should have decided to embark upon the pursuit of females again.

[JVS]

14. Are you about to don the robe and get a wicked tonsure haircut?

That would be cool

[HEyHEY]

16. No, I'm gonna don a panama hat and get drunk

[JVS]

18. The cause of intoxication and degeneracy need a class of dedicated clerics

Just as there were monks to work for the church in the middle ages, we need monks now to work for the principles of irresponsible partying down.

[HEyHEY]

19. Well, let's start it up

[kiraboo]

17. As a female I can tell you that I will say I'll call

but I won't whether or not I'm interested. I will wait for you to pick up the phone and make the overture. However if your friend told me you were, maybe, expecting a call then I might screw up my courage and telephone & then be REALLY GLAD to just have to leave a message and put the onus back on you again. :)

[Magrittes Pipe]

20. Pity is the desperate man's best friend.

;) :hi: