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THUNDER HANDS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 09:38 AM
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Is It Weird For A Single Guy To Have A Cat?
I mean, I usually associate cats with more of a single woman living alone in an apartment than with a single guy living alone in an apartment.

But the apartment I could be moving into won't let me have a dog - just a cat because the previous tennent had cats.

So, is it socially acceptable for a guy to have a kitty?
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catmandu57 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 09:41 AM
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1. Nope
I've always had a cat around, even though I'm married now, when I was "single" there was always a cat around. Of course being a cat magnet helps they just found me. If you like them and want one by all means get one.
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SoCalDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 09:41 AM
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2. Why not??
Some of the most macho pets we have had were cats..:)and some of the biggest wusses were dogs..:)

Now.. if you start dressing them up and calling them Mommie, we will worry about you:)
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underpants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 09:42 AM
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3. Yes, next question
No of course it isn't.
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GOPisEvil Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 09:42 AM
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4. Of course it is!
Nothing at all wrong with a single guy who owns cats. Anyone that thinks anything of it is just wrong.
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shrike Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 09:42 AM
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5. You bet

I'm married, but I'd probably find a single guy with a cat quite attractive -- shows he's not worried about being macho.
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trotsky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 09:44 AM
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6. I had 2 when I was single.
It should be obvious that cats fit into the "swingin' single guy" lifestyle better than dogs do. You can leave 'em with a bowl of food and some water, and be gone for the weekend. Just TRY that with a dog.

Also, bring the cat to a park with a book. Can you say chick magnet? (The cat, not the book!)
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Caution Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 09:48 AM
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7. Absolutely!
I brought one of my cats to the park (wearing a harness and leash..she's an indoor cat except on these rare occasions). Not only does the cat love it but oh man women FLOCKED to me...it was surreal. Nearly every woman in the park came by to pet my cat and thought the harness and leash were the cutest thing ever. Now, if only I were single! Another of those "If I knew then what I know now..." moments. Seriously, this could have been a scene in a movie, three or four women crowded around me and my cat...
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Jokerman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 09:48 AM
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8. Absolutely NOT!
I've always had at least one cat. Now that I'm married we have several. Most women I've met think that a single guy with a cat is a good sign that he's not an insensitive jerk.

But don't get a cat just because of the landlord's policy. Get one because you want a companion.

I prefer cats over dogs because they’re more independent and less needy.
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StaggerLee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 09:49 AM
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9. Good thing
Cats are very therapeutic. Get one!
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NJCher Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 09:50 AM
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10. nah
I know several single guys with cats. They're interesting guys--one's a professor with numerous books to his credit, another's a Web site designer/wizard and a third is a market research analyst and software programmer.


Cher
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TXlib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 09:51 AM
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11. Animals are chick magnets.
:evilgrin:

No, there's nothing funny about a single guy owning cats.

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Jen72 Donating Member (847 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 09:59 AM
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12. One of the big problems for a woman with
a cat, is that the men can get competative. They can try are re-set the rules for the cat.
If a single man owns a cat, that is healthy well looked after and content is can show that they can care for something else.
It shows responsability, they respect independance and are confident in their manliness enough not feel that they need to look manly to attract a woman.
It will also mean that cat loving women do not have to negoitate to have a cat when they set up home with them.

I like dogs too and would like to have both, but if you lead a busy life a cat is better. Especially in an appartment.
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Jonathan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 10:00 AM
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13. cat cat cat cat cat cat cat
Women LOVE cats. Be sure to care for the cat asthough he were your best friend. Cats are NOT solitary creatures - their personalities
bloom with attention, same as a person's.
Five things cats deserve:
1. Clean the litter box every day
2. Kitty feast (over and above regular food and fresh water)
every day
3. Kitty game for at least 15 minutes every day (a feather on a string
works well)
4. Talk to your cat asthough you were talking to a person
5. Read some books on cats. They are a lot more interesting than
the truisms about them.
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ploppy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 11:03 AM
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23. Five Excellent Cat Tips!
Get a cat at the local shelter. It is life changing to have a cat in your life. You may want to get a brother or sister for your feline at some point - they love the company.

Number 3 - they love to play with pipe cleaners! You can twist them in to different shapes and they will play with you forever.
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LWolf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 10:01 AM
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14. No.
I've never trusted men who didn't like cats.

I've always thought that people who don't like cats have control issues, and I don't trust them to respect my independence. A man with a cat is one sign of a man who doesn't need to dominate.

And, on a lighter note, a cat in the house will surely delight your female visitors. I saw this first hand on the 4th; both my sons brought dates to our bbq, and the girls spent the afternoon gushing over my tom and serving his every need for attention.
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Buns_of_Fire Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 10:06 AM
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15. It depends. Are we talking for breakfast, lunch, or dinner?
NO, NO, NO, kittylovers! Turn off the flamethrowers! I was just being my usual, insensitive, smarmy self -- I LIKE kitties! I LIKE doggies! I've LIVED with kitties and doggies (and squirrels and hamsters and birds and children and other adorable small furry woodland creatures and more than a few cockroaches) and we ALL got along just fine! Really!

And I see nothing wrong with a single guy having one (or two) around to share their life with. I recommend German Shepherds for keeping your feet warm at night and eating your collector's copy of Steal This Book and Siamese for sitting on your head at two in the morning and leaving furballs on the kitchen floor.
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Khephra Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 10:09 AM
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16. Totally
Edited on Tue Jul-08-03 10:18 AM by khephra
ok in my book.
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jonnyblitz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 10:23 AM
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17. Cats are considered femme? you silly "hets" and your hangups..LOL
:crazy:
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molly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 10:29 AM
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18. My husband did
and he's a MAN.
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CBGLuthier Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 10:35 AM
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19. nothing wrong at all
Way back when I was single I and my roommate had cats. Once we even had a litter of kittens we named after the Chicago 7.

Married now, with dog and cats. But I think I really prefer the cats.
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LiberalLibra Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 10:56 AM
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20. OF COURSE it would be acceptable-I don't see why not!!! Better.....
....,imho, to be an animal lover than not to like animals at all. Get a a large male cat, or one that will grow to be large, and tell everyone he was in desperate need of a home.
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nuxvomica Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 10:57 AM
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21. The matter is entirely up to the cat, anyway
So don't worry about it.
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cmf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 11:01 AM
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22. It's not weird
If I were single and were dating a guy with a cat, I would think it was very cute. It would mean that he got over the stereotype of cats being a girly pet.
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roughsatori Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 11:06 AM
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24. seems very sissified to me
Just kidding. I just could not take reading another post telling you that owning a cat makes you the cat's meow--it does not.

I am allergic, and can't stand people letting animals deficate in a corner of their living room. I have a feeling some of these posters hate the word "pet" and prefer "animal companion" as some of my friends refer to the filthy beasts stinking up their homes.
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meow2u3 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 11:46 AM
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25. Real men love cats!
At least this female thinks so!

Suggestion: if you want to get a so-called "man's cat", your best bet is to pick up a Maine Coon, either purebred or mixed. These cats grow to be "horses", and the males can tip the scales at as much as 22 pounds! They look ferocious, but are big babies....

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SOteric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 11:50 AM
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26. I have known
and dated many single guys with cats. I can't fathom why their having cats would involve social stigma.
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ForrestGump Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 12:01 PM
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27. Cats are cool
Cool cats live with cool cats.

Besides, counter any of those 'macho' arguments with the fact that John Wayne's tough character in "True Grit" lived with a cat.
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XNASA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 12:02 PM
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28. As long as it's not...............
....in the biblical sense.
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Lex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 12:17 PM
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29. You will have the answer if you read
at least one Robert Crais novel. He has a super-macho bad-ass main character in his series of novels who has a very cool cat as a pet.

Here I found this little blurb on the 'net:

Elvis Cole is the creation of Robert Crais, whose books I’m currently devouring at the rate of one a day. Elvis looks a lot like a young John Cassavettes, has a taciturn homicidal partner named Joe Pike, a beer-drinking cat named “the cat”, lives in an A-frame house perched on a canyon overlooking Hollywood, drives a yellow ’66 Vette . . . But most important for our purposes, Elvis Cole is a stone smartass, and even if Crais weren’t great with plot, suspense, character and description, the dialog would be worth the ride. Most of the books are set in the Los Angeles area, with Elvis taking a sojourn into Cajun country in Voodoo River. If you like hard-boiled detective books with an edge of wit, you won’t be disappointed in Crais’ books.

The Elvis Cole Books include
The Monkey’s Raincoat
Lullaby Town
Voodoo River
Stalking the Angel
Free Fall
Indigo Slam

http://www.chrismoore.com/chris_picks_3c.htm
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Throckmorton Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 12:57 PM
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30. NO, I had two Cats,
Matty, the recently deceased wonder cat, and Bobber, the Cats cat.

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Rhiannon12866 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 01:32 PM
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33. I'm so sorry
to hear about your loss. I lost my cat, Rhiannon, who was nearly human, and still miss her every day.:(
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Ekaterina Donating Member (213 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 01:05 PM
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31. definitely
get a cat or two....remember to get them neutered (especially if they are males -- those guys love to spray) but you couldn't ask for better housemates than a cat or two. When I grow up I am going to have a cat farm and just hang out and play with the critters all day long. Til then I have to be satisfied with the half dozen at home.
:-)
oh, one word of caution-- don't tell Bill Frist where you live............
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Rhiannon12866 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 01:25 PM
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32. Most guys I know have cats
single or not. A cat can be a great companion, they're much easier to manage than dogs, especially if you work all day, and girls will love a guy who loves his cat!:D

If you're at work all day, you might consider having two, so they won't be bored and lonely. More landlords accept tenants with cats than dogs because cats are quieter and supposedly less destructive. Just be sure you invest in a scratching post. Good luck!:-)
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Rhiannon12866 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 05:06 PM
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36. If you do get two, though
make sure that they get along. If it was me, I would choose two from a shelter that are already buddies. I'd also avoid getting tiny kittens, although they're adorable, if they're going to have to spend any amount of time alone. I know someone who recently adopted a kitten and he keeps running up the curtains! Good luck and tell us how it goes! (And about all the women who are suddenly flocking to your door!):D
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Spirochete Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 02:06 PM
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34. It's only weird..
if the person's name refers to a mouse or a rat or a bird....
hehe
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BritishHuman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 02:16 PM
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35. Mine is asleep on the windowsill right now
She gives me an excuse to talk out loud when I'm otherwise alone.

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TheBigGuy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 06:08 PM
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37. It sounds kind of gay
...but at least you dont have a poodle,
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bicentennial_baby Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 06:20 PM
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39. Are you kidding?
Edited on Tue Jul-08-03 06:40 PM by bicentennial_baby
On edit: message removed entirely, due to misunderstanding. See below.

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TheBigGuy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 06:38 PM
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41. I AM gay....
...not a big cat fan, either.
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bicentennial_baby Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 06:39 PM
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42. Then I stand corrected
You need to indicate sarcasm when using it, y'know. I did'nt know you're gay, so to me, your post sounded horrible! I'm sorry and I apologize. :-)
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ldf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 07:08 PM
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44. well!!
we are just going to have to take away your membership card.

:spank:
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Kathy in Cambridge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 06:19 PM
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38. Adopt older cats
they require less constant attention. We just adopted two neutered males-ages 6 and 7-and it's the best thing we ever did. Older cats also don't get adopted in shelters-people tend to gravitate toward the kittens.

It is not weird for men to have cats-those that think it's not manly are insecure with their manhood to begin with.
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davidinalameda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 06:36 PM
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40. straight guys--no
gay guys--yes

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Darth_Kitten Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 06:51 PM
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43. Men who like kitties are sexy



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SPICYHOT Donating Member (345 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 07:51 PM
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45. weird???
Yeah! of course!!
don't even think about it!:hi:
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antiLoser Donating Member (36 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 08:09 PM
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46. hmmm
Did they catch that wacko out west killing all those cats?
Wonder what s/he is about.
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solinvictus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 08:10 PM
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47. Yep
Otto, my rescue cat, was my buddy through some tough times. Love him to death, even though he's 11 and crochity.
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Prisoner_Number_Six Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 08:11 PM
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48. I'm a 48 year old bachelor
and I have TWO cats. Although my weirdness is a different subject, I don't feel the least bit 'odd' about my cats.
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redwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jul-08-03 08:27 PM
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49. yup.
it shows he is sensitive, has good taste, is probably a democrat,
and a hottie too. :hi: Cats Rule, Dogs Drool! -
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