I don't know whats wrong with me, but i could use some help(relationship issue)

[zappa_parappa]

So I just got out of a relationship about a month and a half ago. I broke it off because I was a superficial asshole and didn't treat her right, and I know that now. I was a total dick.

Not too long after we broke up I starting dating a girl i've known for a long time, and this has by far been the best relationship i've ever had. Everything you can possibly imagine is perfect, and I've told my friends and other people if I ever get married, she'd be the one.

But I can't get my old girlfriend out of my head. I think about her all the time. I'm not sure if its some form of regret or guilt or whatever, but she's all I think about. Here i am with the greatest relationship, and all i can think about is my ex, and how if I did it over again I'd have done things totally different, and we'd still be together.

No idea what to do, I think my ex is still hoping i'll come back, and now I'm even thinking I should give it a shot, but I really really love what I have now. I'm in love with two women and I can't break free from either of them! HELP!

[Deja Q]

1. I wish I could help you better.

All I can say is to find any means to put the ex out of your mind and concentrate on the existing one. Anything. It's not easy to do it, but if I can then anybody can.

Or else you'll ultimately end up with 2 exes and no existing ones. :(

[rug]

2. Solid advice.

:thumbsup:

[zappa_parappa]

3. Thats great advice

I guess i should be happy with what I have, and focus on doing things right this time instead of dwelling on the past.

[zappa_parappa]

4. I've been drinking tonight, which isn't good

and I've already been entertaining the notion of drunk dialing the ex...which I'm sure is a bad idea...MUST EXERT SELF CONTROL

[Madrone]

5. Man - I don't know.

This is definitely complicated. Too complicated to offer simple advice, I'm afraid.

It WOULD be cool if you let the ex know that you've realized how much of an ass you were - for your sake and hers. A letter would probably be best, no contact. If it's the guilt, that will help alleviate it.

Sorry, but that's all I've got.

[zappa_parappa]

8. Yes, I do need to at least contact her

I bumped into her the other day with my new girlfriend and it was about the most uncomfortable experience i've been through in recent times. I need to apologize for putting her through that at least.

[SPKrazy]

6. Wow, To Have Such Problems

just kidding

sounds like you haven't really let go of the old relationship

ask yourself if you proceed with the current relationship, will you be content, or will you always be looking back.

something is not worked out in your relationship


but what do I know? I sleep in the guest room, and my wife sleeps in our room. LOL

Maybe you'd do better with other advice

:hi:

[zappa_parappa]

7. Any advice counts at this point...and yours is sound

I with i knew what was goin on....its like i know I should just move on, but somethings not letting me...Im hoping with time it will go away.

[SPKrazy]

14. Move To Southern Utah

convert to a sect of mormonism that has polygamy

then you can take care of TWO FAMILIES at the same time

work your butt off and die young.

seriously

only you can figure out what is in your heart man.

If you are happy with what you got, then why are you stuck on what you don't got?

but then again,

I SLEEP in the guest room now! LOL I am not a good advice giver for romance

but your heart is and you should follow it

[bif]

9. Put a hit on your ex.

Just kidding. She'll haunt you forever. You need to move on though. Go with the best thing you have going. Heck, don't listen to me, I'm nuts.

[Ariana Celeste]

10. Write a letter to your ex

Pour your heart into it. Write down everything you feel. Then burn it.

Sometimes it helps just to get all those feelings out and in order you know?

Good luck, whatever you decide to do. :hug:

On edit: I have a couple of exes I think about a lot sometimes... love never completely goes away, it just changes

[Schema Thing]

11. You may get a pm from my friend Elder Jeffs. He'll know what to do.

[zappa_parappa]

13. Good, I'll wait for it, I need it!

[Generic Brad]

12. Male hormones can be a bitch

Someday you will be old and things like this won't matter to you anymore. Until then -- good luck with your dilemma. I hope it all works out without anyone's emotions getting unnecessarily hurt.

[caty]

15. A woman wants to

be with a man who is in love with her. Not someone who is love with his ex girlfriend. Would you want to be with a woman, loving her, taking care of her, and being good to her---and wondering if she is thinking and fantasizing about her ex? You are not being fair to the new girlfriend. You have to make a choice and let one of them go. It is a betrayal to the new girlfriend, and to the relationship you have with her, if you love someone else.