people suck

[Fleshdancer]

so I found out through the family grapevine that my oldest sister wants to disown me as a sister and my mom (her step mom, my bio mom) because...well because we're "not part of the family anymore" now that Dad died.

I don't know what angers me more: The fact that she would do this, the fact that she would do this but not have the courage to tell me herself, or the fact that this is actually hurting me.

Since almost every family has its own special form of drama, how do you handle yours? Walk away? Call and scream? What do you do?

[WindRavenX]

1. walk away...

...when their behavior becomes so toxic that it hurts to be around them, I go away and smoke a lot of pot.

My dad is almost cut out of my life due to substance abuse, mental issues, and just being an unpleasent SOB to my mom :(

they should've divorced many years ago.

[Fleshdancer]

4. true. I guess I really don't have much of a choice I guess

the odd thing for me is that it's not like I spend much time with my sister. we live in different states and we're both busy people so for her to say that I'm not part of her family to the one sibling she KNOWS to tell in order for the information to get back to me is just bizarre.

I feel like she wants to punish me for the fact that our dad divorced her mom and married mine. I can understand her anger toward her step-mom, but what the hell did I do aside from exist? Arg. I hate that this is getting to me.

I'm sorry to hear about your relationship with your dad. I don't blame you though, I would do the same thing.

[Gormy Cuss]

2. It depends. I usual bite my tongue and try to ask the family member what's going on.

I have sibs from my parents' other marriages and we all, save one, treat everyone else as equal family members. One of my paternal half sibs even came to my mother's funeral and joined in all our mourning of her. The one sib who keeps a distance hasn't disowned most of us, but because of a feud with one sib there is a distance. It's a pain in the ass.

The rest of us understand the limits and accept it, although we don't like it.

[MichiganVote]

3. I usually find its the family member w/o a pot to piss in who makes this threat

[GOPisEvil]

5. It's at times like this when I am glad I don't have siblings.

;)

I wish I could offer you some insight, but instead, all I've got is :hug:

Take care of yourself.

[Fleshdancer]

8. aww, thank you sweetheart

At least my mom and I are shut out together...I would hate to go through this drama all alone :crazy:

[Dude_CalmDown]

6. Smoke a big fat fucking spliff. That's what I'm doing.

Yup - feeling pretty shitty today - like I imagine you are. But I'm rolling a big fucking spliff and soon there'll be a smile on my face for the first time since the one I smoked last night and my teeth will be unclenched and my breathing will sound human. And when I close my eyes, hopefully I'll be fucked up enough that the only thing I see on the back of my eyelids is some great memory I had on a beach somewhere as I listen to Sublime play me Badfish.

But that's just my advice.

[WindRavenX]

7. sometimes, mj really does work at lowering the blood pressure caused by these situations

It's rough, rough.

[wildhorses]

9. supposedly my dad has disowned my 2 brothers and me.

except he made the one brother executor of his will so he will get a like 2% for handling his "estate" :wtf:

this is according to what my mom (parents are divorced btw) told me that my brother told her.:shrug:


my dad is a real piece of work so i wouldn't doubt if this is true:wtf:


sometimes it gets to me:shrug:




ain't dysfunctional FUN:P

[philosophie_en_rose]

10. I would take any family gossip with a huge chunk of salt.

No gossip is as twisty or cancerous as family gossip.

If it certain relations, I'd be glad to be rid of them. But, for anyone else, I'd just tell them that I heard they were worried about me. I really care about them, so I want them to know they can talk to me. Then, I'd leave it at that. If they bring it up, they bring it up. If they don't, I don't let it bother me.

Don't give the gossip the power to define your relationships.