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the thing is sometimes it's better not to let people vent on you because it's a release and they release energy that way instead of dealing with the problem. It's so hard to know what the right thing to do is though. That is why when people go to Al-Anon no matter what they say the problem is they will always be answered with "what are you going to do about it?"
I do know what you mean though...my brother and sister in law are about bankrupting my parents and we talked about it for hours tonight. My parents are at their wits end about it (their water got cut off again today and they had to get buckets of water from my parents). They are draining my parent's finances dry. So my sister-in-law goes over to get the water and starts dogging out my brother like everything is his fault (long story short, he works full-time and she doesn't do shit, 'shit' including housework or any kind of thing someone is totally supported does or should do). My dad is fed up because they let their car insurance lapse and had expired tags on both cars, FOR SIX MONTHS. Then he found out that during that time, she went out and got glass packs put on her mustang. My Dad about blew a gasket over that. No insurance, no tags, but glass packs nonetheless. And then...lol, you get the picture, it's just drama on top of drama on top of drama. Sigh....I am trying to get my parents to demand my brother turn his accounts over to my parents to sort out for him, or cut them off. It's just a mess and there doesn't seem to be a solution. Sorry, I just realized this is exactly the same crap you don't want to hear. Just venting here, myself...I'm pretty freaked out about it too.
Hope your friend gets it straight though, it's hard to tell people you are tired of hearing stuff. Some friends I have are in situations with other people that they can't control, and I will gladly listen to them anytime, because I care about their wellbeing and want to be a shoulder for them, but stuff like with my brother just makes me want to throttle him (or really, his wife, to be precise).
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