I am feeling jealous....

[malta blue]

Mr. MB has a myspace page. He told me about four months ago that his first serious gf that he was madly in love with sent him a friend request. At the time, he said that most of the time, those things were best left in the past. I really thought nothing after that.

So I broke down and built a myspace page for myself and it took him more than a week to add me as a friend. I then discovered that he did add her as a friend and the part that makes me really steam is that her "picture" is a cartoonish woman in red lingerie, holding a whip in her teeth.

Am I being silly and insecure, or do I have the right to feel somewhat slighted since he had given the impression that he did not want contact with her.
:shrug:

[AlCzervik]

1. it would bother me a lot.

especially since he said those things should be leftin the past but now his past is on his page.

[malta blue]

4. I'm not usually the jealous type

either so I am not really sure of what to make of how I feel....

[SPKrazy]

2. don't know

did you ask him why he did that when he said he wasn't going to?

fair question i think.

:hi:

:hug:

[malta blue]

3. I never came right out and asked but I did

joke about how it had taken him so long but I bet he had to delete all the comments from her before he could add me. He really had no reply and kind of laughed about it.

:hi:

[SPKrazy]

5. aw, well i'd be upset

if he was deleting comments from her... i don't know, it's a hard thing to say.

certainly you have a right to feel what you feel and to ask him about it.

it may not mean a thing to him at all, but then, i'd ask why he added her when he said he wasn't going to.

:shrug:

:hi:

[malta blue]

6. I think I am going to have to ask...

and you know, when he first added me as a friend, her picture was of her, holding a puppy...now she is this cartoon seductress.

Semms rather coincidental to me that after I posted my first comment to him, she became the red leather hottie...:shrug:

:hug:
And you, on the other hand...I believe you have a B-day coming up?

[SPKrazy]

7. Well I do...

have a birthday coming soon..

:hug:

yeah, that is a little strange to go from the dog holding woman to the cartoon seductress after your comment to him.

hang in there!

[malta blue]

10. ...

:loveya: :hug: :loveya:

Thanks friend....

I'll be on vacation for your birthday, so if I don't check in...
:party:
Have a great day!
:bounce: :bounce:

[skygazer]

8. I think you probably are overreacting

However, if it bothers you, that should be more important to him than having her as a friend on his myspace page.

I would suggest simply telling him the truth, not in any accusatory way but simply by saying, "Honey, I know it's probably foolish but it really bothers me to see her on there, especially the whole seductress thing."

[malta blue]

9. Thanks for the perspective....

I really feel kinda foolish about it, but it does bother me in the end.

:hi:

[SeattleGirl]

11. I think what would bother me is not the fact that he has her as a friend,

but that he said they were best left in the past, and then he added her as a friend.

Could be nothing; but again, for me it would be the hypocrisy, not the fact that she is on his myspace page. Like Judge Judy says, "Don't piss on me and tell me it's raining."

[malta blue]

12. That is a big part of it too.

I am still friends with a man that I dated in the days before Mr. MB. He and his wife visit us often. She is fine with me, and in fact, I just adore her....so I am not usually weird about that sort of thing.

You are right, he said it was best left in the past and now she's some big hoochie-mama thorn in my side.