DU Guys - do you have female friends (or male friends for our gay loungers)

[redqueen]

whom you aren't trying to sleep with?

Just curious...

[guitar man]

1. I do

I have female friends I'm not trying to sleep with. Now, if they pop up and just offer it up, you know, I'd probably hit it....just sayin' :evilgrin:

[SteppingRazor]

2. Of course.

Now, if you ask "Do you have female friends you're attracted to that you aren't trying to sleep with?" that might be a different story. :P

[Wapsie B]

47. That is a very good point.

:P

[ohiosmith]

3. two words: guys lie

[ThomCat]

4. Many. But maybe you're aiming this question at the straight guys?

:shrug:

[lizziegrace]

31. ...

:P

[ThomCat]

37. ...

:hi:

[redqueen]

33. Oops!

I see now what I did there.

[ThomCat]

36. To answer the revised question

Yes, I have many male friends I don't flirt with, hit on, or try to sleep with.

I even have some very attractive, adorable, gorgeous male friends that I'm just friends with. If things worked out differently I wouldn't turn down a chance at a relationship, but I won't break a good friendship over it. :)

[NewJeffCT]

5. yes

and, even if they offered, I wouldn't be interested...

[enigmatic]

6. many n/t

[JVS]

7. Unless they're homely, fucking psycho, or it would put me in a strange working situation,

I'd hit it!

[hfojvt]

45. does that mean you are actively 'trying'?

or just kinda daydreaming?

[JVS]

48. that depends on how good the opportunity looks

[5thGenDemocrat]

8. Sure

Of course, I'm old enough to be her dad (actally, my daughter is two years older than her). At some point, you have to realize that you had your chance to spread the joy and the DNA around and it's time to curl up with the lap blanket, hot toddy and fuzzy but happy memories.
John
That, and my wife would probably not approve of my chasing like an idiot after a 25-year-old.

[Capn Sunshine]

9. Have a hard time with the concept?

Most girls do. I wish it were otherwise. Like you and me, we could be friends, definitely :evilgrin:

[Swede]

10. Yes. nt

[Parche]

11. Yes yes yes

I have a lot of female of the species as friends........:hi:

[Rabrrrrrr]

12. Yes many female friends, the majority of which I am not trying to sleep with OR have sex with.

[redqueen]

15. I don't get why so many seem to think this is some kind of

irrefutable truth.

It seems stupid as hell, and makes it seem like men are all slaves to their danglers. :shrug:

[JVS]

16. Not slaves. Close friends with mutual interests.

[Pierre.Suave]

20. LOL

I am going to start using that a lot.

[Capn Sunshine]

27. Well, I guess it's just instictive behavior.

It doesn't mean you can't have friends that are men....but you just have to be aware they would do you if you asked. There's always that dynamic. Always.

The corollary would be internet relationships, because there's no physical interaction.
I do have female friends---one is my longtime partner in our banking op, but there's always sexual tension between us. I suppose that's why she's such a good fit partnershipwise. She can handle it, and so can I.

It's always surprising to see twentysomethings that don't understand this and they are shocked! when in the right situation guy makes move. Or vice versa. The converse is true as well I suppose.

[IndianaJones]

13. are these questionable females? nt.

[DS1]

14. They've started out with that intention in the past

but something always ended up happening.

[redqueen]

19. It's that windmill thing you guys do... it's irresistible.

Do that, and all bets are off.

Try it out, see if I'm wrong!

[DS1]

25. I smell a trap

[Omphaloskepsis]

17. Yeah...

I'm lousy in bed and I don't see any reason to have that come into play.

[Pierre.Suave]

18. no

I am trying to sleep with ALL of them...

yeah, I am THAT questionable.

;)

[JVS]

21. You are one shady dude

[Pierre.Suave]

24. LOL

no I am not, I am KIDDING...

[Guava Jelly]

22. yes ..several

I befriend females easier.
I think it comes from having 5 sisters.
Now a few friends of mine are pretty cute..But getting in their undies isn't on my list of things to do.

[JVS]

23. But if you were invited?

[redqueen]

26. You're messing it up!

Stop making it complicated, you! :P

[Guava Jelly]

30. I can't say

I guess it would depend on the friend.
And what it would do to our friendship..
Would it strengthen it or destroy it.
A night of pleasure isn't worth losing a friend i care about

[Bucky]

28. Of course. There's mom, Aunt Patty, that nun I talked to at the antiwar rally.

Wait, no, I take that last one back.

[JVS]

40. Mmmmm sweet nun action!

[ghostsofgiants]

29. Many.

[unpossibles]

32. yes

I have many female friends who I don't even think about sex with.

To be fair, however, I have had friends whom I would love to sleep with, but it's not an issue if they are not interested in the same. In a similar note, I have also had friends who have expressed wanting to sleep with me, but when I let them know I am not interested, they are still friends.

[mike_c]

34. many....

Oh yes.

[flvegan]

35. Who I'm NOT trying to sleep with? What if I've already slept with them?

[catmandu57]

38. Yes

I've always gotten along with women better than guys. In the past the thought has crossed my mind, I'd be lying if I said it didn't, but I'm old enough now to know better, and value one's friendship over physical gratification.

[Oeditpus Rex]

39. Trying to? Lots

In fact, I'm not actively trying to sleep with anyone these days.

Thought about it? Different story, and a big difference.

[Critters2]

41. Apparently, no one is trying to sleep with me.

And yet, I have friends.

[MrCoffee]

42. yes, of course i do

[hfojvt]

43. sort of

I mean, they are sort of friends. I certainly do not try to sleep with married women, and, dare I say it, some of my co-workers, shall we say, are distinctly unattractive. :hide: However, a couple of them have said the same thing about me.

[GOPisEvil]

44. Yes I do. Several.

[swag]

46. Yeah.

Most of my friends are females with whom I am not trying to sleep.

[rockymountaindem]

49. Yes, lots

I wouldn't want to be without them, either.

[Tektonik]

50. Yes

Now I'd be lying if I haven't made split second contemplations about sleeping w/ many of my friends.

[SPKrazy]

51. Yes

many friends of mine are female

and i'm not trying or angling to sleep with them

:hi:

[Fox Mulder]

52. Just a couple.

[BreweryYardRat]

53. Yes. Because she got into a relationship about a week before I could ask her out.

Two years later, she's married with a kid.

:( She was borderline perfect, too.

[taught_me_patience]

54. I've already slept with them all.

The ones that were bad in the sack... I have no desire to repeat (unless drunk and desperate)

[tjwmason]

55. Yes - nearly all of them.

Indeed I've got gay male friends with whom I'm certainly not trying to sleep.

[taterguy]

56. I'd enjoy sleeping with most of my female friends but I'm not trying to sleep with any of them

This might be TMI but in my single days most women made up their minds about whether or not they wanted to sleep with me within a day or two of meeting me.

I rarely attempted to seduce any of them because I knew what the result would be.